Rodas v. Franco , 30 Neb. Ct. App. 910 ( 2022 )


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    Diana Rodriguez Rodas, now known as
    Diana R. Doyle, appellant, v. Ismael
    Ramirez Franco, appellee.
    ___ N.W.2d ___
    Filed May 3, 2022.     No. A-21-193.
    1. Child Custody: Appeal and Error. Child custody determinations are
    matters initially entrusted to the discretion of the trial court, and
    although reviewed de novo on the record, the trial court’s determination
    will normally be affirmed absent an abuse of discretion.
    2. Judgments: Words and Phrases. An abuse of discretion occurs when
    a trial court bases its decision upon reasons that are untenable or unrea-
    sonable or if its action is clearly against justice or conscience, reason,
    and evidence.
    3. ____: ____. A judicial abuse of discretion requires that the reasons or
    rulings of the trial court be clearly untenable insofar as they unfairly
    deprive a litigant of a substantial right and a just result.
    4. Child Custody: Appeal and Error. In child custody cases, where the
    credible evidence is in conflict on a material issue of fact, the appellate
    court considers, and may give weight to, the fact that the trial judge
    heard and observed the witnesses and accepted one version of the facts
    rather than another.
    5. Contempt: Appeal and Error. In a civil contempt proceeding where
    a party seeks remedial relief for an alleged violation of a court order,
    an appellate court employs a three-part standard of review in which (1)
    the trial court’s resolution of issues of law is reviewed de novo, (2) the
    trial court’s factual findings are reviewed for clear error, and (3) the trial
    court’s determinations of whether a party is in contempt and of the sanc-
    tion to be imposed are reviewed for abuse of discretion.
    6. Child Custody. Ordinarily, custody of a minor child will not be modi-
    fied unless there has been a material change in circumstances showing
    that the custodial parent is unfit or that the best interests of the child
    require such action.
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    7. Modification of Decree: Words and Phrases. A material change in
    circumstances means the occurrence of something which, had it been
    known to the dissolution court at the time of the initial decree, would
    have persuaded the court to decree differently.
    8. Modification of Decree: Child Custody: Proof. Before custody may
    be modified based upon a material change in circumstances, it must be
    shown that the modification is in the best interests of the child.
    9. Child Custody. In addition to the “best interests” factors listed in 
    Neb. Rev. Stat. § 43-2923
     (Reissue 2016), a court making a child custody
    determination may consider matters such as the moral fitness of the
    child’s parents, including the parents’ sexual conduct; respective envi-
    ronments offered by each parent; the emotional relationship between
    child and parents; the age, sex, and health of the child and parents; the
    effect on the child as the result of continuing or disrupting an existing
    relationship; the attitude and stability of each parent’s character; and the
    parental capacity to provide physical care and satisfy the educational
    needs of the child.
    10. ____. The fact that one parent might interfere with the other’s relation-
    ship with the child is a factor that the trial court may consider in grant-
    ing custody, but it is not a determinative factor.
    11. Judges: Presumptions. A judge may rely on general knowledge that
    any person must be presumed to have but cannot decide issues of fact
    based on peculiar individual knowledge.
    12. Child Custody. The moral fitness and conduct of the parties, along
    with other matters, are of great significance in determining questions
    of custody.
    13. Contempt: Words and Phrases. Civil contempt requires willful disobe-
    dience as an essential element. “Willful” means the violation was com-
    mitted intentionally, with knowledge that the act violated the court order.
    If it is impossible to comply with the order of the court, the failure to
    comply is not willful.
    14. Words and Phrases: Appeal and Error. Willfulness is a factual deter-
    mination to be reviewed for clear error.
    15. Contempt: Proof: Evidence: Presumptions. Outside of statutory pro-
    cedures imposing a different standard or an evidentiary presumption, all
    elements of contempt must be proved by the complainant by clear and
    convincing evidence and without any presumptions.
    16. Appeal and Error. An appellate court is not obligated to engage in an
    analysis that is not necessary to adjudicate the case and controversy
    before it.
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    Appeal from the District Court for Sarpy County: Stefanie
    A. Martinez, Judge. Affirmed in part, and in part reversed
    and remanded with directions.
    Renee L. Mathais, of Berry Law Firm, for appellant.
    Alton E. Mitchell Attorney at Law, L.L.C., for appellee.
    Pirtle, Chief Judge, and Riedmann and Bishop, Judges.
    Riedmann, Judge.
    INTRODUCTION
    Diana Rodriguez Rodas, now known as Diana R. Doyle
    (Doyle), appeals the order of the district court for Sarpy
    County which modified custody of the child she shares with
    Ismael Ramirez Franco and held her in contempt of court.
    For the reasons set forth below, we affirm in part, and in part
    reverse and remand with directions.
    BACKGROUND
    Doyle and Franco were married in 2007. Their minor child,
    whose custody is at issue here, was born in 2010. A decree dis-
    solving the parties’ marriage was entered in 2015, and therein,
    the district court approved and incorporated the parties’ medi-
    ated custody and parenting time agreement. The agreement
    permitted Doyle to move back to California and awarded the
    parties joint legal custody. Physical custody of the child was
    to alternate every 2 years for as long as the parties live in two
    states or upon further order of the court. Thus, the child was to
    live in Omaha, Nebraska, with Franco from August 2015 until
    August 2017, at which time, he would move to California to
    live with Doyle for 2 years. The noncustodial parent was to
    receive parenting time with the child for winter break, spring
    break, and summer break. Either parent was permitted to sched-
    ule additional visits or travel to the other parent’s home state to
    visit with the child living there, at his or her expense.
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    Doyle filed the operative complaint to modify custody in
    September 2019, seeking sole legal and physical custody of the
    child. In response, Franco filed an answer and counterclaim
    also requesting modification of custody but asking the court to
    award sole legal and physical custody to him. Trial was held
    in July and August 2020. We will summarize some of the evi-
    dence presented at trial here and provide additional details in
    the analysis section below.
    The child lived with Franco from 2015 until 2017. During
    that time, he was in special education classes in school, had an
    individualized education plan (IEP), and was in speech therapy
    for stuttering. Although Doyle was living in California, she
    maintained communication with the child’s teacher, donated
    supplies to his classroom, and attended IEP meetings. She
    would also travel to Nebraska prior to her visitation times in
    order to volunteer in the child’s classroom.
    Doyle began to have concerns about the child during her
    spring 2016 visit because he looked very thin and unhealthy,
    his speech was not improving, and he had anxiety. At the end
    of her visitation, he cried, held on to her tightly, did not want
    to return to Franco, and became anxious before she even drove
    him to Franco’s house. Likewise, at the end of Doyle’s summer
    visitation, the child did not want to return to be with Franco.
    Doyle reassured him that he would have fun with Franco,
    that she would call him and see him again, and that he would
    be “okay.”
    When custody switched and the child went to live with
    Doyle in August 2017, she observed that he was very anxious
    about being left alone and scared if she left his side, he was
    wetting the bed, he was not socializing with children his age,
    he was shutting down, and he wanted her to stay with him
    for at least an hour at school until he felt comfortable and
    safe. When asked what she meant by “shutting down,” Doyle
    explained that if someone asked the child a question or he
    became nervous, he would put his head down, not make eye
    contact, and not engage in conversation. She had encouraged
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    Franco to enroll the child in extracurricular activities while he
    was in Nebraska, but Franco did not do so. So once the child
    moved to California, Doyle enrolled him in martial arts to
    help his self-esteem, encourage him to be more outgoing with
    other children, and allow him to be around his peers outside
    of school.
    In September 2017, Doyle enrolled the child in therapy
    with Alfredo Huerta, a family therapist, licensed clinical social
    worker, credentialed school psychologist, and doctoral candi-
    date in California. At that time, the child was having approxi-
    mately 10 nightmares per week, so one of his therapy goals
    was to eliminate the nightmares. The child was also hyper-
    vigilant and afraid that Doyle would leave and that Franco
    would return and take him. The child reported to Huerta that
    he was “terrified” that he had to see Franco and was afraid
    of him.
    Toward the end of 2017, Huerta noticed that the child’s
    nightmares had decreased or disappeared completely, which
    was a significant improvement. Huerta testified that typically,
    the child had a “dark cloud hanging over him represent[ing]”
    Franco. The child repeatedly told Huerta that he did not want
    to go with Franco or speak to him and that Franco was mean
    and rude. Huerta continued to validate the child’s feelings
    while also reminding him that he had to follow the rules, which
    required him to have visits with Franco.
    The child made other improvements during that time as
    well. By November 2017, he no longer had an IEP, was moved
    from special education classes into all mainstream classes, and
    no longer needed speech therapy. Doyle observed that the child
    was more outgoing, was willing and able to express his feel-
    ings, and was less afraid to play outside and ride his bicycle.
    Doyle further noted that the child had begun to participate in
    class and that his nightmares and bed-wetting had improved
    as well.
    As Franco’s Christmas 2017 visitation approached, Doyle
    noticed that the child’s nightmares and separation anxiety
    returned, and he expressed to her that he was afraid Franco
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    would pick him up and take him and that he would not see her
    again. The exchange occurred outside Doyle’s house. When
    Franco arrived, the child did not want Doyle to leave and held
    onto her tightly. Doyle told him that he had to go with Franco,
    but reassured him that he would have fun, that it would be
    “okay,” and that he would be back soon. Franco testified at
    trial that Doyle had requested the presence of law enforcement
    officers at the exchange, and he claimed that they asked him
    if he had threatened Doyle and that when he showed them his
    cell phone to prove that he had not done so, he was allowed to
    leave with the child.
    Franco did not exercise his spring 2018 visitation. Doyle tes-
    tified that she discussed the visit with Franco but that he would
    not give her an explanation as to why he was not coming to
    get the child. Franco, on the other hand, asserted that he called
    Doyle regarding the visitation but that she never answered his
    calls. Regardless, he did not travel to California to retrieve the
    child in the spring of 2018.
    The child did well during the 2017-18 school year, earn-
    ing several awards in mainstream classes, including student
    of the week, student of the month, “golden ribbon,” and a
    mathematics achievement. As Franco’s summer 2018 visitation
    approached, Doyle again began to see a change in the child
    in that he started becoming anxious again and was not eating
    much. She also received reports from his teachers expressing
    concerns. The child was continuing to attend therapy with
    Huerta, who noticed a pattern where the child’s symptoms
    would improve and then, after his having contact with Franco,
    would regress. Upon Huerta’s recommendation, Doyle took the
    child to therapy more frequently as Franco’s summer visitation
    approached.
    In June 2018, Huerta and the child discussed the child’s not
    wanting to go to Nebraska with Franco, and Huerta reminded
    the child that he had to accept the court’s rules. Huerta’s
    therapy notes from that timeframe reveal the child’s distress,
    including anxiety, fears, and nightmares, over being required
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    to go with Franco for the summer. The summer visitation
    exchange occurred outside of Doyle’s house, and Franco testi-
    fied that law enforcement officers were again present when he
    arrived. Doyle stated that during the exchange, the child was
    crying and did not want to go, and Franco likewise described
    the child’s demeanor as “[e]motional.” According to Doyle,
    Franco pulled the child away from her and physically had to
    put him into his vehicle.
    When the child returned to Doyle in August 2018, he was
    happy to be back with her, but Doyle had him continue therapy
    with Huerta because she noticed that he still displayed some
    anxiety symptoms and was shutting down. When the child
    returned to school, he remained in all mainstream classes with
    no IEP or speech therapy. In his therapy sessions with Huerta
    throughout the fall of 2018, the child reported that when he had
    been with Franco over the summer, Franco was drinking and
    driving while the child was in the vehicle and asked the child
    to get him a beer; he also reported that Franco kept him in the
    house all day, that they did not go anywhere for weeks, that he
    got bullied by a neighbor, and that Franco would not protect
    him. He further disclosed to Huerta that Franco slapped him,
    hit him with a sandal, hit him in the face with a belt, and put
    him in a dark basement. The child told Huerta that Franco yells
    at him and that he did not want to go back to Nebraska.
    As Franco’s Christmas 2018 visitation approached, the
    child’s anxiety symptoms again began to increase. His night-
    mares returned, and he repeatedly told Huerta that he did not
    want to go with Franco, that he was nervous about going, that
    Franco was “‘mean,’” and that he was afraid of Franco. Huerta
    did some role playing with the child to help him learn to ­better
    communicate his wishes to Franco, and the goal was that the
    child’s symptoms would decrease as he developed a better rela-
    tionship with Franco.
    Franco testified that he asked Doyle if he could pick the
    child up a few days early for his Christmas 2018 visitation
    because he was going to plan a surprise birthday party for
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    him and that Doyle agreed. According to Franco, when he
    arrived, law enforcement officers were present and asked him
    for documentation proving that he was permitted to take the
    child, and because he did not have it with him, they would
    not allow him to take the child. He was upset because he had
    to cancel the birthday party he had planned for the child, for
    which he had spent approximately $2,500. Franco claimed that
    he made one attempt to retrieve the child for his Christmas
    visitation.
    Other evidence, however, establishes that the parties made
    two attempts to facilitate the exchange in December 2018. The
    record includes two reports from the Riverside County Sheriff’s
    Department in California, showing that officials were present
    for attempted exchanges on December 19 and December 21.
    Doyle explained that she requested a “civil standby” to be pres-
    ent at the exchange because of the verbal abuse and aggression
    Franco had exhibited toward her, which had increased over the
    past few years. In addition, after the child talked to Franco on
    the phone about this visit, the child was nervous, angry, and
    upset because he felt that Franco would not understand his
    feelings. Doyle testified that she tried to alleviate the child’s
    anxiety and concerns by telling him about the fun things he
    could do with Franco and reassuring him that he would be back
    in a couple of weeks.
    According to Doyle, at the parties’ first attempted exchange
    on December 19, 2018, law enforcement officers stayed for
    approximately 30 minutes in an effort to convince the child
    to go with Franco. Doyle’s current husband testified that he
    arrived home during the attempted exchange on December 19
    and observed the officers speak with the child alone. Doyle’s
    husband is a police officer, with a different agency than the
    officers present at the exchange, and he arrived home from
    work wearing his uniform but testified that he did not know
    the officers who were present and that he did not inter-
    fere in the exchange other than to attempt to encourage the
    child to go with Franco. He said that the child’s bags were
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    packed and ready to go, but that the child was reluctant,
    afraid, and very hesitant to go. The sheriff’s report substanti-
    ates that officers were present at Doyle’s home on December
    19 for ­approximately 30 minutes. By that point, according to
    Doyle, Franco was upset, but the parties agreed to try again at
    a later time.
    Doyle asserted that Franco arranged the second exchange
    attempt, which occurred 2 days later on December 21, 2018, at
    the sheriff’s department, and that he was the one who requested
    the presence of law enforcement officers. The sheriff’s report
    corroborates that that attempt occurred at the sheriff’s depart-
    ment on December 21. Doyle testified that the officers talked
    to Franco, talked to her, and talked to the child, alone, but ulti-
    mately brought the child back to her because he did not want
    to go with Franco. At that point, according to Doyle, Franco
    again became upset and left, and she did not hear from him
    again regarding that attempted exchange. She claimed that dur-
    ing the attempted exchange, Franco yelled at her and did so in
    front of the child.
    Franco did not try to exercise his spring 2019 visitation. He
    testified that by that time, Doyle had commenced proceedings
    to modify custody, so he had to hire an attorney and could not
    afford to travel to California. He claimed that his decision not
    to exercise that visitation was additionally informed by his
    prior experiences with law enforcement presence at previous
    exchanges. On cross-examination, Franco was asked to clarify
    his testimony, and the following exchange occurred:
    [Q.] And then, you did not attempt to exercise your
    parenting [time] in spring of 2019?
    [A.] I couldn’t do it. I already told you.
    [Q.] Well, you didn’t try.
    ....
    [Q.] . . . You didn’t try. Isn’t that correct?
    [A.] I didn’t try. How about that? Okay? Happy?
    According to Doyle, the child did “great” during the
    spring semester of the 2018-19 school year, remaining in
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    mainstream classes and continuing therapy. He also continued
    doing martial arts and playing with cousins and neighbor-
    hood friends.
    Doyle understood that the child was to move back to
    Nebraska with Franco in August 2019, and although she had
    commenced litigation by that time and was seeking sole physi-
    cal custody, she testified that she intended to return the child to
    Franco. The child’s anxiety symptoms returned as the custody
    exchange approached. For example, in July, the child reported
    to Huerta that he had had one or two nightmares that week
    because he was afraid that Franco was going to come in August
    and take him to Nebraska for 2 years “against his will.” Later
    that month, the child again reported having nightmares that
    he would have to go with Franco and reported that he did not
    want to play outside of his house for fear that Franco might
    “‘kidnap’” him. In early August, the child told Huerta that he
    was afraid that Franco would come to pick him up and said
    that he could not sleep, felt nauseous, had pain in his stomach,
    and was afraid to go live with Franco because Franco had done
    “‘bad things.’”
    The parties attempted to exchange the child multiple times
    in August 2019. Doyle and her husband helped the child
    pack his bags in preparation for the exchange, but accord-
    ing to Doyle’s husband, the child’s demeanor about going
    with Franco was “[c]omplete refusal.” Franco testified that he
    observed the child’s bags packed and ready to go but claimed
    that law enforcement officers were present at each attempted
    exchange and that they would “interfere” and would not allow
    him to take the child with him.
    Although the record is a bit unclear, it appears that exchange
    attempts were made at the sheriff’s department and at the
    child’s school, and possibly outside of Doyle’s home. The
    record includes a sheriff’s report for an attempt made on
    August 15, 2019, at the sheriff’s department and a second
    report from August 19 that details an attempted exchange
    made at the child’s school. Franco testified to two previous
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    attempts at Doyle’s house and testified that he arranged the
    August 15 meeting at the sheriff’s department.
    According to Doyle, on August 15, 2019, the child was very
    upset, sad, and very much in denial. She tried to calm him
    down and encourage him to go with Franco, but he refused. An
    officer present at the time spoke to the child privately to try to
    convince him to go. When the officer was done speaking with
    the child, he brought him back to Doyle and then went to speak
    with Franco. The officer then came back to talk to Doyle, and
    Franco was upset and left.
    Later that day, Doyle sent Franco a text message informing
    him that she was able to convince the child to meet and speak
    with him if she and the child’s friend could come along and
    asked if Franco was willing to do so. The following morning,
    Doyle sent Franco another message asking to meet with him
    one-on-one to talk about the child. Franco acknowledged hav-
    ing received both messages from Doyle and admitted that he
    did not respond to either message.
    On August 19, 2019, Franco went to the child’s school to
    attempt to retrieve him and take him back to Nebraska. The
    school notified Doyle, and she went to the school with the
    child’s belongings. There was a law enforcement officer pres-
    ent at the school, but Doyle had not requested his presence.
    Prior to Doyle’s arrival, there was a discussion among the
    child, the principal, the assistant principal, a therapist or coun-
    selor, Franco, Franco’s mother, and the officer, all attempting
    to convince the child to go with Franco. Doyle was not present
    for the discussion and did nothing to prevent the child from
    going with Franco. The attempt lasted almost 3 hours, but ulti-
    mately, the child did not go with Franco.
    Franco remained in California and attempted through mul-
    tiple channels to retrieve the child. He testified that he spoke
    to the “commander in chief” at the sheriff’s department and
    spoke to “different branches of peace officers.” He hired
    an attorney and eventually met with the district attorney’s
    office, which identified a process it could undertake to gain
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    possession of the child for Franco. The district attorney applied
    for a protective custody warrant from the Riverside County
    Superior Court of California, and the warrant was issued the
    same day. Thereafter, the child was physically extracted from
    school based upon the warrant, and he and Franco returned
    to Nebraska. Franco’s phone records establish that he was in
    California from August 14 through 29, 2019.
    Based on the difficulty Franco had retrieving the child,
    when he returned to Nebraska, he filed a motion with the dis-
    trict court to suspend Doyle’s visitation. Within that motion,
    he claimed that police officers removed the minor child from
    Doyle’s home and placed him in Franco’s care. He sought sus-
    pension of Doyle’s parenting time based on an allegation that
    Doyle would attempt to remove the child back to California.
    At the same time, Franco filed an application to hold Doyle in
    contempt for failing to grant him his court-ordered parenting
    time. In response, Doyle asked that the court deny the motion
    to suspend her visitation or, in the alternative, allow her to
    have supervised visitation. The court granted Doyle supervised
    visitation in Nebraska for 3 hours on a weekday and 3 hours
    on a weekend day. In order to facilitate her visitation, Doyle
    rented a residence in Omaha.
    When the child first returned to school in the fall of 2019,
    he was very shy and timid, but he began to improve as time
    passed. Franco acknowledged that the child’s grades were not
    very good in the fall semester, but they, too, improved through-
    out the school year. However, the child again had an IEP,
    returned to speech therapy, and resumed wetting the bed.
    At the time Franco testified at trial in August 2020, the
    2020-21 school year had just begun and the child was doing
    remote learning due to the COVID-19 pandemic. Franco
    explained that he helps the child sign onto his virtual learn-
    ing in the mornings and helps with his homework, but he
    expected the child, at 9 years old, to be responsible for his own
    schooling. Franco did not have the child enrolled in any extra­
    curricular activities, even prior to the pandemic.
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    Franco did, however, begin taking the child to therapy in
    September 2019 with Jennifer Sharp, a licensed independent
    mental health practitioner. Sharp’s initial diagnostic impres-
    sions of the child were persistent depressive disorder, general-
    ized anxiety disorder, and post-traumatic stress disorder. Over
    time, however, the depression subsided, the anxiety peaked to
    where the child was having panic attacks, and the post-­traumatic
    stress disorder remained but became milder. Regarding the
    ­anxiety diagnosis, Sharp testified that the child had a lot of
    anxiety and worried about the custody situation in that he was
    scared of the outcome, did not know what was happening, and
    did not get to have a voice about where he wanted to be.
    Sharp explained that the post-traumatic stress disorder was
    triggered by the events the previous month surrounding the
    custody exchange. She testified the child told her that the
    police went to his school to retrieve him and put him in hand-
    cuffs, that he did not know what was going on, and that he
    thought he had done something wrong and the police were
    going to shoot Franco. He was very scared, talked to Sharp
    about that event often, and had nightmares and flashbacks of
    that incident.
    Sharp also testified that the child disclosed to her that Doyle
    had slapped him in the face on some occasions and locked
    him in a dark closet, which Sharp said was “very scary” and
    “traumatizing” for a child. The child was also experiencing
    nightmares and flashbacks of that event. The child told her that
    he did not want to go near Doyle’s bedroom because he was
    scared that she would put him in the closet again. Sharp fur-
    ther explained that Doyle’s husband is a police officer and that
    when the child sees him wearing his gun, the child gets scared
    because he does not know what Doyle’s husband is going to do
    with the gun.
    Sharp provided both individual therapy to the child and
    family therapy for the child and Franco, working with them
    to improve their relationship. She said she also worked with
    the child on improving his relationship with Doyle, although
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    Doyle has not participated in the child’s therapy with Sharp.
    Sharp was aware that Franco locked the child in a basement
    as a form of discipline, so part of her work in family therapy
    included explaining to him that that was not appropriate. Sharp
    was aware that the child had reported to Huerta that he was
    afraid of Franco, but testified that the child told her he was not
    afraid of Franco. Sharp confirmed, however, that there were a
    significant percentage of sessions in which Franco was also in
    the room with the child.
    Sharp referred the child to a clinical psychologist, Dr. Joseph
    Stankus, for psychological testing. Stankus spoke with Franco
    in December 2019 and January 2020 and also interviewed the
    child in January. Stankus acknowledged that he refused to talk
    to Doyle because he did not “want to be embroiled in a custody
    battle” and that he was afraid he would be pulled into this mat-
    ter if he interviewed her.
    Stankus diagnosed the child with adjustment disorder with
    mixed anxiety and depressed mood, which occurs when some-
    one is having trouble adjusting to his or her situation at the
    time. Here, the child was struggling with the custody arrange-
    ment and the ongoing conflict between Doyle and Franco.
    Stankus also diagnosed the child with childhood-onset fluency
    disorder, which essentially reflected his difficulty with stut-
    tering. At the time of Stankus’ evaluation, the child was still
    in speech therapy. Stankus explained that anxiety is a strong
    trigger for stuttering; thus, he would “[a]bsolutely” expect that
    a person would stutter more when under stress. Stankus further
    diagnosed the child with “parent/child relational problem,”
    which reflected the apparent conflict between the child and
    Doyle. Stankus opined that this problem began when the child
    was living in California with Doyle.
    Finally, Stankus diagnosed suspected child neglect and sus-
    pected childhood physical abuse. He testified that the child
    reported to him that Doyle would leave him for hours at a
    time and that in 2017, she slapped him in the face and left
    a bruise. The child also told Stankus that Doyle had hit him
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    at a supervised visit in January 2020 and that she locked him
    in a closet on two occasions.
    Stankus explained that he completed an assessment compris-
    ing information provided by Franco and by the child’s teacher.
    With regard to the parent-rating scale, Franco did not see too
    many problems, except for the child’s social relations that
    seemed to be isolated at times. On the other hand, the infor-
    mation provided by the child’s teacher led to findings that the
    child seemed depressed, withdrawn, pessimistic, and sad.
    The mental health therapist who supervised visits between
    Doyle and the child testified that she began her supervising
    duties in February 2020. She generally testified that the child
    and Doyle appeared to have a close relationship, were engaged
    with each other during visits, were playful and interactive, and
    would give each other a hug and kiss at each visit. At one visit,
    they watched a movie, and the child sat on Doyle’s lap of his
    own volition and asked when he would see her again.
    At a visit in June 2020, however, the child arrived very
    upset, agitated, and aggressive, which was out of character
    from his normal demeanor. Doyle attempted to comfort him,
    but he was upset about the court proceedings. Doyle tried to
    explain and alleviate his concerns, but the child stood up the
    entire visit; was pacing, very fidgety, aggressive, and angered;
    and would not allow Doyle to speak. In the visitation super­
    visor’s opinion, Doyle acted appropriately as the child’s mother
    by intervening and attempting to alleviate his concerns. The
    visitation supervisor, however, ended up sending Franco a text
    message that the child wanted to leave, although she did not
    agree with ending the visit early, because Doyle was respond-
    ing appropriately to the child’s concerns.
    Franco called the visitation supervisor the following day
    and threatened to cancel that day’s visit but decided to leave
    the decision up to his attorney and the child. The visit occurred,
    and the child’s behavior was completely different from the
    previous day and more normal in the sense that he was play-
    ful, was interactive, and stayed in close proximity to Doyle
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    during the visit. Doyle was also supposed to have visits on
    June 27 and 28, 2020, and Franco had confirmed them on
    June 5. However, Franco canceled them the week they were
    supposed to occur even though Doyle was already in town
    from California.
    In addition to the minor child at issue here, the parties have
    an older son, Nathan Ramirez Rodriguez (Nathan), who was
    21 years old at the time of trial. Nathan is Doyle’s biological
    child, and Franco adopted him during the parties’ marriage.
    After the parties divorced, Nathan moved back to California
    with Doyle. Nathan was unaware that Franco was not his bio-
    logical father until, at some point, he found a letter revealing
    that he had been adopted. Nathan believed that this discovery
    occurred sometime around the time Doyle and Franco got
    divorced and that it happened before he and Doyle moved to
    California. Franco claimed that Doyle intentionally left the let-
    ter where Nathan would see it. Franco testified that he wanted
    to tell Nathan the truth but that he and Doyle agreed not to
    do so.
    According to Franco, after Nathan learned he was adopted,
    he was very upset with Franco. At trial, Nathan described
    his relationship with Franco as “[n]onexistent,” and Franco
    likewise said their relationship is “hardly nothing.” Nathan
    has not had a visit with Franco since he and Doyle moved
    to California after the divorce. Franco never sent Nathan any
    birthday gifts or Christmas cards and did not attend his high
    school graduation. Nathan said that Franco was never there and
    that there was too much pain, physical and mental violence,
    and aggression.
    Nathan described a phone call in 2017 between Doyle and
    Franco. He testified that he took the phone from Doyle because
    Franco was harassing her, calling her names, insulting her,
    diminishing her, and threatening her. According to Nathan,
    Franco said to him, “‘I should have killed your mother and
    left her dead, and I should have killed you too.’” Nathan testi-
    fied that since that time, Franco had made similar comments
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    to Doyle almost every time they are on the phone, and that
    it occurred most recently about a month before trial. At that
    time, Nathan overheard Franco calling Doyle names, yelling,
    and getting violent over the phone. Nathan admitted that he is
    scared of Franco.
    A recording of a June 2020 phone call between Doyle and
    Franco was received into evidence. In it, Franco can be heard
    using vulgar language and repeatedly calling Doyle names. In
    addition, Franco repeatedly refused to allow Doyle to talk to
    the child and threatened to block her from calling his phone,
    and he ultimately did block her phone number. The child was
    present during the call. Doyle testified that the language heard
    on that call is common language that Franco uses with her.
    At trial, Franco denied having anger issues or making vulgar
    statements to Doyle in the recorded call, alleging that the last
    time he made such comments to her was in 2015. He admit-
    ted, in general, to calling Doyle vulgar names, and when asked
    whether he thought it was appropriate to call the mother of
    his child a vulgar name, he said that when he does so, he has
    his reasons.
    After the conclusion of trial, the district court entered a writ-
    ten order. The court found that both parties had met the burden
    of showing a material change in circumstances and that a mod-
    ification of custody was in the best interests of the child. The
    court awarded sole legal and physical custody to Franco. Doyle
    received parenting time the third weekend of every month from
    Friday evening until Sunday evening or Monday evening if
    there is no school that day. She also received 2 weeks of unin-
    terrupted parenting time in the summer.
    The district court additionally determined that Franco met
    his burden of proof as to his application for contempt and
    ordered Doyle to serve 10 days in jail or purge herself of
    the contempt order by paying Franco $6,000 by June 15,
    2021. The court later clarified that the $6,000 was the total
    of the $2,500 that Franco lost by canceling the birthday
    party he had planned for the child in December 2018 and the
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    $3,500 he spent traveling and remaining in California in
    August 2019. Doyle appeals.
    ASSIGNMENTS OF ERROR
    Doyle assigns, consolidated, restated, and renumbered, that
    the district court erred in (1) finding the existence of a material
    change in circumstances supporting a modification of custody,
    (2) finding that it was in the child’s best interests to award his
    custody to Franco instead of to her, (3) declining to make a less
    significant change to the parenting plan, (4) finding that she
    was in civil contempt, (5) ordering a purge plan with payment
    amounts that were impossible for her to pay, and (6) imposing
    incarceration as part of the civil contempt proceedings.
    STANDARD OF REVIEW
    [1] Child custody determinations are matters initially
    entrusted to the discretion of the trial court, and although
    reviewed de novo on the record, the trial court’s determination
    will normally be affirmed absent an abuse of discretion. Schrag
    v. Spear, 
    290 Neb. 98
    , 
    858 N.W.2d 865
     (2015).
    [2,3] An abuse of discretion occurs when a trial court bases
    its decision upon reasons that are untenable or unreasonable or
    if its action is clearly against justice or conscience, reason, and
    evidence. 
    Id.
     A judicial abuse of discretion requires that the
    reasons or rulings of the trial court be clearly untenable insofar
    as they unfairly deprive a litigant of a substantial right and a
    just result. 
    Id.
    [4] In child custody cases, where the credible evidence is in
    conflict on a material issue of fact, the appellate court consid-
    ers, and may give weight to, the fact that the trial judge heard
    and observed the witnesses and accepted one version of the
    facts rather than another. 
    Id.
    [5] In a civil contempt proceeding where a party seeks reme-
    dial relief for an alleged violation of a court order, an appellate
    court employs a three-part standard of review in which (1) the
    trial court’s resolution of issues of law is reviewed de novo, (2)
    the trial court’s factual findings are reviewed for clear error,
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    and (3) the trial court’s determinations of whether a party is in
    contempt and of the sanction to be imposed are reviewed for
    abuse of discretion. McCullough v. McCullough, 
    299 Neb. 719
    ,
    
    910 N.W.2d 515
     (2018).
    ANALYSIS
    Modification of Custody.
    Doyle raises several issues related to the district court’s
    decision to modify custody. She asserts that the court erred in
    finding the existence of a material change in circumstances to
    support modifying custody and in determining that awarding
    custody to Franco, rather than to her, was in the best interests
    of the child.
    [6,7] Ordinarily, custody of a minor child will not be modi-
    fied unless there has been a material change in circumstances
    showing that the custodial parent is unfit or that the best inter-
    ests of the child require such action. Schrag v. Spear, supra.
    A material change in circumstances means the occurrence of
    something which, had it been known to the dissolution court at
    the time of the initial decree, would have persuaded the court
    to decree differently. Id.
    Doyle first claims that the court erred in finding the exis-
    tence of a material change in circumstances. Although the
    district court here did not specifically iterate the details of the
    material change in circumstances it found to be present, we
    understand from our de novo review of the evidence presented
    at trial and the parties’ arguments that the material change
    is the effect the 2-year rotating custody arrangement and the
    conflict between Doyle and Franco have had on the child. It
    is clear that the child was experiencing significant anxiety
    related to the current custody arrangement, such that both par-
    ties enrolled the child in counseling to help him address his
    anxieties. Stankus diagnosed the child with adjustment disorder
    with mixed anxiety and depressed mood, which he attributed
    to the difficulty the child was having adjusting to the custody
    arrangement and the conflict that existed between Doyle and
    Franco. Similarly, one of Sharp’s diagnostic impressions of
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    the child was generalized anxiety disorder, and she explained
    that the child has a lot of anxiety and worries about “the whole
    custody issue,” that he was scared of the outcome, that he did
    not know what was happening, and that he did not have a voice
    about where he wanted to be.
    Had the court at the time the decree was entered known
    that this arrangement would have such a negative effect on the
    child, it certainly would not have approved it. We therefore
    conclude that the district court did not abuse its discretion in
    determining that there was a material change in circumstances
    affecting the best interests of the child.
    Doyle next argues that the district court erred in finding that
    the child’s best interests would be served by placing his cus-
    tody with Franco rather than with her. We agree.
    [8] Before custody may be modified based upon a material
    change in circumstances, it must be shown that the modifica-
    tion is in the best interests of the child. Schrag v. Spear, 
    290 Neb. 98
    , 
    858 N.W.2d 865
     (2015). 
    Neb. Rev. Stat. § 43-2923
    (6)
    (Reissue 2016), requires a court, in determining custody and
    parenting arrangements, to consider certain factors relevant to
    the best interests of the minor child, including:
    (a) The relationship of the minor child to each parent
    prior to the commencement of the action or any subse-
    quent hearing;
    (b) The desires and wishes of the minor child, if of
    an age of comprehension but regardless of chronological
    age, when such desires and wishes are based on sound
    reasoning;
    (c) The general health, welfare, and social behavior of
    the minor child;
    (d) Credible evidence of abuse inflicted on any family
    or household member. . . ; and
    (e) Credible evidence of child abuse or neglect or
    domestic intimate partner abuse.
    [9] In addition to these statutory “best interests” factors,
    a court making a child custody determination may consider
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    matters such as the moral fitness of the child’s parents, includ-
    ing the parents’ sexual conduct; respective environments
    offered by each parent; the emotional relationship between
    child and parents; the age, sex, and health of the child and
    parents; the effect on the child as the result of continuing or
    disrupting an existing relationship; the attitude and stability of
    each parent’s character; and the parental capacity to provide
    physical care and satisfy the educational needs of the child.
    Schrag v. Spear, supra.
    The district court’s order thoroughly summarized the evi-
    dence presented at trial. After doing so, the court observed that
    this case is complex and not easily decided. It found that both
    parties were fit, love the child, and see to his needs, albeit in
    different ways. The court observed that both parties engaged in
    inappropriate discipline and discussed the case with the child,
    which contributed to his emotional distress, but that each party
    identified his needs and sought similar treatment for him. Thus,
    the “main issue” for the court was how each party handled his
    or her dislike for the other, and it found that Doyle handled her
    dislike of Franco by involving law enforcement in the child
    exchanges, which the court characterized as Doyle’s efforts to
    “thwart” Franco’s parenting time and circumvent the court’s
    orders. Therefore, the district court concluded that it was in the
    child’s best interests to award sole legal and physical custody
    to Franco.
    [10] Although the fact that one parent might interfere with
    the other’s relationship with the child is a factor the trial court
    may consider in granting custody, it is not a determinative
    factor. See Kamal v. Imroz, 
    277 Neb. 116
    , 
    759 N.W.2d 914
    (2009). Thus, to the extent the district court found that Doyle
    attempted to interfere with Franco’s relationship with the child
    and relied on that as the determinative factor in its decision to
    award custody to Franco, this was an abuse of discretion.
    That is not to say that Doyle’s actions were not to be con-
    sidered when assessing the child’s best interests. The fact
    that Doyle requested that the exchanges occur at the sheriff’s
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    department could, but does not necessarily, indicate ill inten-
    tions or an attempt to interfere with Franco’s parenting time. It
    is not unheard of, especially in cases with high conflict between
    the parents, for a trial court itself to order that exchanges of a
    child occur at a police station or sheriff’s office. See, e.g.,
    State on behalf of Kaaden S. v. Jeffery T., 
    303 Neb. 933
    , 
    932 N.W.2d 692
     (2019). And Doyle claimed that she requested law
    enforcement presence at the exchanges because of the history
    of verbal abuse and aggression Franco has exhibited toward her
    and the fact that his hostility toward her has increased over the
    past several years.
    The recorded phone call from June 2020 demonstrates this
    anger and aggression and the manner in which Franco is will-
    ing to speak to Doyle, including doing so in front of the child.
    Nathan likewise described a 2017 phone call where Franco
    threatened both him and Doyle, and he admitted that he is
    scared of Franco. Over the course of almost 2 years, the child
    repeatedly told Huerta that he was afraid of Franco. The child’s
    teacher became visibly emotional when recounting a time that
    Franco came to the school and yelled at her and the school
    secretary for allowing Doyle to volunteer in the classroom as
    often as she was and her attempt to deescalate his anger. This
    evidence suggests that if not the primary reason, at least an
    additional reason, for involving law enforcement in the child
    exchanges was Franco’s aggressive behavior.
    The court described Doyle’s requests for civil standbys
    as a “form of bullying,” stating that Doyle had requested
    this on “multiple instances” “while her husband is also pres-
    ent in uniform.” The evidence reveals, however, that Doyle’s
    husband was present on only one occasion, during which he
    attempted to facilitate, not hamper, the transition. Additionally,
    Franco, himself, requested on occasion that the exchanges
    occur at the sheriff’s department. Therefore, we do not view
    Doyle’s requests as “passive-aggressive” as described by the
    district court.
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    Further, the undisputed evidence establishes that the child
    did not want to go with Franco. As far back as Doyle’s spring
    break with the child in 2016, the child cried, held on to her
    tightly, did not want to return to Franco, and became anxious
    before Doyle even arrived at Franco’s house. The child’s symp-
    toms, in the form of things such as nightmares and anxiety,
    increased any time a visit with Franco was approaching or
    when he talked to Franco on the phone.
    The child’s reaction to going on visits with Franco during
    his 2 years with Doyle ranged from hesitation and reluctance
    to fear to outright refusal. There were times neutral parties
    were unable to convince the child to go with Franco, such as
    Christmas break 2018, where officers talked to the child on
    two separate occasions but were unable to persuade him to go
    with Franco, and August 2019, where a subsequent attempt to
    complete the custody exchange resulted in a meeting at the
    school among the child, the principal, the assistant principal,
    a therapist or counselor, Franco, Franco’s mother, and a police
    officer, and the child still refused to go with Franco.
    An April 2019 therapy note reports that Huerta asked the
    child what he would say if he could talk to the judge deciding
    this custody matter and that the child replied that “‘all [Franco]
    is saying are lies.’” At that same time, when Huerta asked the
    child to draw pictures, the child drew a picture of himself kill-
    ing Franco with a knife, which Huerta explained indicated a
    profound fear of and anger at Franco. The child then said that
    he did not want to draw any more pictures about Franco or his
    family because he gets nightmares.
    We recognize Sharp’s testimony that the child told her that
    he is not afraid of Franco. Yet, Huerta’s therapy notes from
    September 2017 through August 2019 are replete with state-
    ments from the child that he is afraid or “terrified” of Franco,
    that the fear causes him to lose sleep and experience nausea
    and stomach pain, that he did not want to go with Franco and
    wanted to stay with Doyle, that he was upset and frustrated
    that he had to go with Franco under the court’s orders, that
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    he had a nightmare that Franco threatened to kill Doyle and her
    husband unless the child went with Franco to Nebraska, that he
    hates Franco, that he did not want to speak to Franco because
    it gives him anxiety, that he had nightmares in August 2019
    because he felt that Franco was going to come and take him to
    Nebraska for 2 years “against his will,” that he was afraid to
    play outside of Doyle’s house for fear that Franco might “‘kid-
    nap’” him, and that he was afraid to live with Franco because
    Franco has done “‘bad things.’”
    The district court noted Huerta’s testimony that he did not
    believe the child had been coached to make the comments that
    he did because he believes that when children’s stories stay
    the same, they have not been coached. The court found this
    testimony “inconsistent with the indicators of coaching that are
    regularly seen in custody cases.” It is unclear whether the court
    concluded that Doyle had, in fact, coached the child to make
    the claims that he did, but there is no evidence in the record to
    support the court’s finding as to the indicators of coaching seen
    in other cases.
    [11] A judge may rely on general knowledge that any per-
    son must be presumed to have but cannot decide issues of
    fact based on peculiar individual knowledge. 89 C.J.S. Trial
    § 1186 (2012). See, also, In re Interest of G.R., 
    348 N.W.2d 627
     (Iowa 1984); Lambert v. Cromer, No. 98,906, 
    2008 WL 2370076
     (Kan. App. June 6, 2008) (unpublished opinion listed
    in table of “Decisions Without Published Opinions” at 
    184 P.3d 993
     (2008)). It is an abuse of discretion for the trial judge to
    interject the judge’s personal “‘extra judicial familiarity’” with
    facts in making findings. 89 C.J.S., supra, § 1186 at 616. Thus,
    the court’s reliance here on its familiarity with the evidence
    presented in other cases, when such evidence is not contained
    in the record in this case, was an abuse of discretion.
    The record contains considerable evidence of the child’s
    feelings about going with Franco, and although there is also
    evidence of difficulties in the child’s relationship with Doyle,
    the evidence as to Doyle does not rise to the same level as
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    that related to Franco. We recognize, as did the district court,
    that the child made similar allegations of abuse against both
    parties, which is concerning. And Sharp testified that the
    child had nightmares and fear related to the specific events of
    Doyle’s locking him in a closet and his retrieval from school
    by police in August 2019. Sharp further testified that the child
    had a panic attack sometime in 2020 after a difficult phone
    call with Doyle. Franco, likewise, testified that sometimes
    the child becomes “emotionally affected” by phone calls with
    Doyle and that the child’s demeanor when going on visits with
    Doyle “fluctuates.”
    Nevertheless, according to the record, the child did not dis-
    play the same level of generalized fear of talking to or spend-
    ing time with Doyle; nor did he repeatedly and consistently
    throughout the 5 years between entry of the decree and the
    modification trial refuse to go with her during her parenting
    time. In fact, the child indicated to Huerta on more than one
    occasion that he preferred to be with Doyle rather than return
    to Nebraska with Franco.
    The district court found that the child reported to Stankus that
    the problems he was suffering began with Doyle in California.
    The court further found that at the time of Stankus’ evaluation,
    the child was suffering from anxiety about Doyle’s returning,
    which caused him to have nightmares and to begin wetting the
    bed. These findings are contrary to the evidence in the record.
    Stankus opined not that the child’s generalized symptoms of
    anxiety began when he was with Doyle, but that the apparent
    conflict between the child and Doyle began when the child was
    living with her in California. The record shows that the child’s
    problems, including anxiety, nightmares, shutting down, stut-
    tering, and bed-wetting, began during the initial 2-year period
    he was living with Franco.
    Further, Stankus did not testify that the child experienced
    anxiety about Doyle’s returning. Rather, Stankus was ques-
    tioned as to whether he found any evidence to support a diag-
    nosis of separation anxiety between the child and Doyle or,
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    in other words, whether the child experienced anxiety about
    Doyle’s not returning. After explaining that separation anxiety
    occurs when a child experiences a lot of anxiety when the par-
    ent is gone and experiences worry, uncertainty, and insecurity
    about when the parent will return, plus possibly some night-
    mares or panic attacks, Stankus testified that he did not have
    any information that would support such a diagnosis for the
    child relating to Doyle.
    Overall, the evidence indicates that the child has a better
    relationship with Doyle than he does with Franco. According
    to the child’s teacher, Doyle and the child appeared close, and
    the child became very excited when Doyle would come into
    the classroom, ran across the classroom and gave her hugs, and
    cried when she left. The visitation supervisor similarly testified
    that Doyle and the child appeared to have a close relationship;
    that they were very engaged, playful, and interactive; that the
    child sat on Doyle’s lap of his own volition; and that they
    hugged and kissed at each visit. When Sharp first spoke to the
    child, he told her that he missed Doyle and worried about her
    general welfare, although Sharp testified that the child was not
    distressed about needing or wanting to return to California to
    be with her.
    At the time of trial, Sharp was actively working with the
    child and Franco in family therapy to improve their relation-
    ship, including explaining to Franco that locking the child in
    the basement as a form of discipline is not appropriate. Huerta
    also worked with the child on improving his relationship and
    communication with Franco, doing role playing to help him
    learn to speak with Franco about his wishes, and the goal
    was that the child’s anxiety symptoms would decrease as he
    developed a better relationship with Franco. Just prior to the
    Christmas 2018 visit with Franco, the child was angry and
    upset and expressed to Doyle that he was nervous and felt that
    Franco would not understand his feelings. On the other hand,
    Huerta praised Doyle’s ability to help the child self-soothe
    and manage his stress in an effective, healthy way, and the
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    visitation supervisor testified that when the child was upset,
    Doyle did what she should have done as his mother, which was
    attempt to alleviate his concerns.
    Upon our de novo review of the record, we also observe that
    the child’s struggles persisted during his initial time with Franco
    from 2015 through 2017, improved quickly while with Doyle
    beginning in August 2017, and regressed when he returned to
    Franco in August 2019. The child had an IEP and was in spe-
    cial education classes and speech therapy while he was with
    Franco from 2015 until 2017. His main academic concerns at
    that time were speech, including his becoming frustrated, stut-
    tering, and then shutting down, and his motor skills such as
    using scissors and pencils, buttoning his pants, and using a zip-
    per. He was also experiencing anxiety, panic attacks, wetting
    the bed, and having around 10 nightmares per week.
    Once the child moved to California in August 2017, Doyle
    enrolled him in therapy to help with his anxiety and in mar-
    tial arts to help his self-esteem, encouraged him to be more
    outgoing with other children, and allowed him to be around
    his peers outside of school. He made significant progress in
    school such that by November, he was in mainstream classes
    with no IEP and was no longer in speech therapy. By that
    time, Doyle also noticed that he was more outgoing and social,
    that he was answering questions and participating in class,
    and that his nightmares and bed-wetting had improved. The
    child earned several awards in mainstream classes during the
    2017-18 school year. He remained in mainstream classes for
    the 2018-19 school year, continued doing therapy and martial
    arts, and was engaging with other children.
    The child returned to Franco in August 2019, and during
    that school year, the child again had an IEP, returned to speech
    therapy, and resumed wetting the bed. For the 2020 school
    year, he was doing remote learning due to the pandemic, and
    Franco helped the child sign onto his virtual learning in the
    mornings and helped with homework. Contrary to the dis-
    trict court’s finding that “both [Franco] and his grandmother
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    assist [the child] with remote learning,” Franco testified that
    his mother does not speak English, that he does not expect her
    to help the child with remote learning, and that he expected the
    child, at 9 years old, to be responsible for his own schooling.
    Franco did not have the child enrolled in any extracurricular
    activities, even prior to the pandemic.
    Franco did, however, begin taking the child to therapy with
    Sharp in September 2019 and felt that therapy had been bene­
    ficial. The information Franco provided to Sharp and Stankus
    upon which their assessments of the child were based, how-
    ever, was not entirely accurate. Franco admitted that when
    providing background information to Sharp at the outset of her
    providing therapy to the child, he told her that Doyle “had a
    baby that died inside of her and [that] she escaped from a men-
    tal institution.” Likewise, Stankus found, in early 2020, based
    on information provided by the child’s teacher, that the child
    was depressed, withdrawn, pessimistic, and sad. But he testi-
    fied that the information Franco provided to him did not reflect
    the child’s anxiety and depressed mood and that Franco did not
    see too many problems except for observing that the child’s
    social relations seemed to be isolated at times.
    When discussing the child’s stuttering, the district court
    noted that Franco’s first language is Spanish and that Franco’s
    mother, who lives in his home, speaks only Spanish; the court
    therefore found that it is “unsurprising that a child of such a
    young age would have difficulties with speech when dealing
    with learning two languages.” There is no evidence in the
    record to support this conclusion. To the contrary, Stankus
    explained that stress and anxiety are triggers for stuttering and
    that he would “[a]bsolutely” expect a person under stress to
    stutter more.
    The evidence presented at trial generally establishes that
    Doyle historically participated to a greater degree in the
    child’s education than did Franco. When asked at trial the
    name of the school the child attended from 2015 until 2017
    while living with him, Franco could not remember. Doyle
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    recalled the name of the school, and even though she lived in
    California, she continued to volunteer in the child’s classroom,
    have lunch with the students, and donate supplies to the school.
    Although Franco complained to the school about the amount
    of time that Doyle spent in the classroom, the child’s teacher
    testified that Doyle arranged times with her to come into the
    classroom when she would not disturb instruction time and
    that other parents routinely volunteered in the classroom. She
    explained that encouraging parent participation is part of the
    philosophy of the kindergarten readiness program that the child
    was a part of and that the program receives grant money from
    the federal government based on parent volunteer time.
    Doyle also maintained communication with the child’s
    teacher and attended IEP meetings, whereas Franco generally
    did not respond to communication from the school. When
    asked why he did not respond to emails from the school,
    Franco explained that he hardly ever responds to emails,
    regardless of who sends them, but prefers to take action in
    person. There was a time the school had an incorrect email
    address for Franco, but in addition to email, the school also
    attempted to communicate with him by phone calls, by letters
    sent home, and through exchange of a notebook, but he rarely
    responded via any of those methods.
    The district court found it “disturbing” that Doyle and the
    child’s teacher arranged for Doyle to be able to speak on
    the phone with the child during the schoolday. The teacher
    explained that Doyle contacted her at the beginning of the
    2015-16 school year and was upset that she had not been able
    to speak to the child on the phone in the evenings. Therefore,
    they arranged for Doyle to call the school at the same time
    every day, which was during snack time at the end of the day,
    to be able to speak to the child. The child was very excited
    when he was able to talk to Doyle on the phone. The district
    court found it “disturbing” that the teacher never contacted
    Franco to verify whether he was, in fact, preventing Doyle
    from speaking to the child or to seek his approval before
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    making the arrangements. Therefore, the court gave “little
    weight” to the teacher’s testimony. However, the dissolution
    decree provides that each parent will be able to make phone
    calls to, or have electronic contact with, the child each day
    while he is with the other parent, at reasonable times of the day
    and evening. To the extent Franco was not allowing Doyle to
    speak to the child on the phone when she would call, he was
    interfering with her relationship with the child and violating
    the provisions of the decree.
    As noted above, in addition to the statutory “best interests”
    factors, a court making a child custody determination may
    consider matters such as the respective environments offered
    by each parent. See Schrag v. Spear, 
    290 Neb. 98
    , 
    858 N.W.2d 865
     (2015). Consideration of this factor weighs in favor of
    Doyle. She lives in a four-bedroom home with her current
    husband; her older son, Nathan; and Nathan’s girlfriend. Doyle
    does not work and, thus, is able to volunteer at the child’s
    school, help him with his school work, and take him to therapy
    appointments and extracurricular activities. The child has his
    own bedroom at her home, there are neighbor children he has
    befriended, and Doyle’s extended family lives nearby. The
    school system the child attends in California offers before- and
    after-school programs and bilingual classes. Doyle’s husband
    testified that he and the child are “buds” and do everything
    together, including teaching the child to ride a bicycle; playing
    video games; drawing and coloring; and going to museums,
    fishing, and camping.
    On the other hand, Franco lives in a two-bedroom home
    with his mother and the child. Franco’s mother and the child
    share a bedroom. Franco owns a plastering company and does
    exterior plastering work. His work hours vary based on the
    weather, but in general, he works from 7 a.m. until 5 p.m. In
    the winter, however, he may work from 9 a.m. until 4 or 5
    p.m., and in warmer weather, he will work as late as 9 p.m. if
    he can. He described the child as “an outdoor kid” who enjoys
    riding his bicycle and running around with their dogs, and
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    together, they go fishing and do outdoor activities. The record
    does not contain evidence regarding any friends or extended
    family the child has in Nebraska or details about the school
    he attends.
    [12] In assessing the best interests of the child, we also con-
    sider the moral fitness and conduct of the parties. Of necessity,
    the moral fitness and conduct of the parties, along with other
    matters, are of great significance in determining questions
    of custody. Hicks v. Hicks, 
    214 Neb. 588
    , 
    334 N.W.2d 807
    (1983). Here, Franco admitted that he has not filed tax returns
    for approximately 7 years, claiming that he cannot afford to
    pay his taxes. He also acknowledged that he claimed a depend­
    ent on his tax returns for “some time” even though she is not
    his daughter. At trial, Franco denied having anger issues or
    making many of the vulgar comments that are exhibited in
    the June 2020 recorded phone call, alleging that the last time
    he made such comments to Doyle was in 2015. When asked
    whether he thought it was appropriate to call the mother of
    his child a vulgar name, he said that when he does so, he has
    his reasons.
    The district court placed great weight on Doyle’s conduct,
    interpreting it as her repeatedly denying Franco his parenting
    time. There was no direct evidence that Doyle intentionally
    denied Franco parenting time. Rather, Doyle testified that when
    the child expressed hesitation, reluctance, or fear at going with
    Franco, she would try to calm him down, encourage him to
    go, and reassure him that he would have fun, that he would
    be “okay,” and that she would call him while he was gone.
    She also testified that she made efforts to get the child to call
    Franco and that she felt that was important “[b]ecause it is
    his father.”
    Doyle’s husband testified that he never observed Doyle
    encourage the child not to go with Franco and never observed
    her speak poorly of Franco. At times when the child com-
    plained to Huerta that Franco was “‘mean’” and “‘rude’” to
    him, both Huerta and Doyle would encourage him not to be
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    disrespectful back and, according to Huerta, Doyle “would
    always remind him, in [Huerta’s] presence, that even if some-
    body’s rude to you, you don’t have to be rude back.” Franco,
    likewise, did not claim that Doyle discouraged the child from
    going with him during his visits. And according to Franco,
    when he asked to pick the child up early for his Christmas
    2018 visitation, Doyle said, “[O]f course.”
    Furthermore, Franco’s description of some of the custody
    exchanges is contradicted by other evidence. For example,
    he testified that in December 2018, he attempted one time to
    retrieve the child for his visitation but the law enforcement
    officers who were present at the exchange asked him for docu-
    mentation proving that he was permitted to take the child. And
    when he had no such proof, the officers prevented him from
    taking the child.
    To the contrary, the record includes two reports from the
    sheriff’s department, establishing that law enforcement officers
    were present for attempted exchanges on December 19 and
    December 21, 2018. Doyle’s husband testified that he arrived
    home during the attempted exchange on December 19 and
    observed the officers speak with the child but that the child was
    afraid and very hesitant to go. Doyle also testified that the offi-
    cers spent about 30 minutes attempting to convince the child to
    go with Franco, but that after that time, the parties agreed to
    take a break and try again. The report from the sheriff’s depart-
    ment shows that officers were present for approximately 30
    minutes during the attempted custody exchange.
    Doyle asserted that Franco, himself, arranged the second
    attempt, which occurred on December 21, 2018, at the sher-
    iff’s department, and that he was the one who requested
    the presence of law enforcement. The sheriff’s report cor-
    roborates that the attempt occurred at the sheriff’s department
    on December 21. Doyle testified that the officers talked to
    Franco, talked to her, and talked to the child, alone, but ulti-
    mately brought the child back to her because he did not want
    to go with Franco. At that point, according to Doyle, Franco
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    became upset and left, and she did not hear from him again
    related to that exchange.
    Additionally, as discussed above, the evidence clearly proves
    that exchanges of the child were difficult, at best, and that the
    child often refused to go with Franco. There were occasions
    where Doyle was not even present at an attempted exchange
    and Franco, law enforcement officers, and others still were
    unable to convince the child to go with Franco. Huerta advised
    Doyle against physically forcing the child to go with Franco
    because doing so could be emotionally detrimental for him.
    Doyle and her husband testified that they helped the child
    pack his bags for each visit with Franco and encouraged the
    child to go and spend time with him. Franco acknowledged
    that when he first attempted to pick the child up from Doyle
    in August 2019, he saw the child’s bag packed and ready to
    go. And after the first exchange attempt in August, Doyle
    sent a text message to Franco telling him that she was able to
    convince the child to meet and speak with him if she and the
    child’s friend could also attend, which supports her testimony
    that she tried to convince the child to go on visits with Franco.
    She also sent Franco a text message the following day asking
    if he would be willing to meet with her to talk about the child.
    Franco did not respond to either message. Although the dis-
    trict court found it “highly improbable” that Doyle requested
    to meet alone with Franco, a copy of the text message was
    received into evidence at trial, and Franco admitted that he had
    received the messages but had not responded because he was
    not willing to meet with Doyle.
    Moreover, contrary to the district court’s finding that Franco
    never prevented Doyle from exercising her parenting time
    with the child, Doyle was scheduled to have visits with the
    child on June 27 and 28, 2020, but Franco canceled them,
    after having previously confirmed them with the visitation
    supervisor and despite the fact that Doyle had already trav-
    eled to Nebraska for the visits. In addition, Franco prevented
    Doyle from talking to the child on the phone during calls the
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    dissolution decree permitted her to make, and he threatened to
    block her from calling him and did block her phone number
    after the recorded call.
    In a review de novo on the record, an appellate court reap-
    praises the evidence as presented by the record and reaches
    its own independent conclusions with respect to the matters
    at issue. Weaver v. Weaver, 
    308 Neb. 373
    , 
    954 N.W.2d 619
    (2021). When evidence is in conflict, the appellate court con-
    siders and may give weight to the fact that the trial judge heard
    and observed the witnesses and accepted one version of the
    facts rather than another. 
    Id.
    We have conducted a thorough de novo review on the
    record, reached our own independent conclusions, and given
    weight to the trial court’s factual findings when appropriately
    supported by the evidence presented at trial. When considering
    the statutorily required best interests factors and the additional
    permissible matters, we conclude that the district court abused
    its discretion in finding that awarding custody to Franco was in
    the best interests of the child. We therefore reverse the district
    court’s order and remand the cause with directions to award
    sole legal and physical custody to Doyle subject to Franco’s
    parenting time as set forth in the parenting plan attached to the
    district court’s order. Based on this finding, we do not address
    Doyle’s argument that the court erred in declining to make a
    less significant change to the parenting plan.
    Contempt.
    Doyle also challenges the district court’s decision to hold
    her in contempt of court. She argues that the court erred in
    finding her in contempt, in ordering a purge plan with payment
    amounts that were impossible for her to pay, and in imposing
    incarceration as part of the contempt proceedings.
    [13-15] Civil contempt requires willful disobedience as
    an essential element. McCullough v. McCullough, 
    299 Neb. 719
    , 
    910 N.W.2d 515
     (2018). “Willful” means the viola-
    tion was committed intentionally, with knowledge that the
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    act violated the court order. 
    Id.
     If it is impossible to comply
    with the order of the court, the failure to comply is not will-
    ful. 
    Id.
     Willfulness is a factual determination to be reviewed
    for clear error. 
    Id.
     Outside of statutory procedures imposing a
    different standard or an evidentiary presumption, all elements
    of contempt must be proved by the complainant by clear and
    convincing evidence and without any presumptions. 
    Id.
    With respect to contempt proceedings related to interference
    with parental visitation, the Nebraska Supreme Court has relied
    on the custodial parent’s conduct and whether the visitation
    actually occurred. In Krejci v. Krejci, 
    304 Neb. 302
    , 308-09,
    
    934 N.W.2d 179
    , 184 (2019), the court upheld the trial court’s
    decision not to hold a parent in contempt for her children’s
    refusal to attend grandparent visitation, stating:
    While we do not endorse the proposition that the
    responsibility for adhering to a visitation plan devolves to
    the children, a logical conclusion which results from the
    district court’s findings in this contempt case is that [the
    mother] did not encourage or instruct the minor children
    to refuse to participate in the grandparent visitation.
    In Martin v. Martin, 
    294 Neb. 106
    , 
    881 N.W.2d 174
     (2016),
    the Supreme Court upheld the trial court’s determination that
    a mother was in willful contempt of court because the mother
    had a consistent pattern of transferring her responsibility to
    her children and the father was not able to exercise his court-
    ordered parenting time. In other words, the Supreme Court has
    affirmed not holding a parent in contempt when that parent
    did not encourage or instruct the children to refuse the visit,
    and it has upheld the decision to hold a parent in contempt
    where that parent consistently transferred the responsibility
    of deciding whether to attend visitation to the children and
    the noncustodial parent repeatedly was unable to exercise his
    court-ordered visitation.
    We find the facts of the present case more comparable
    to Krejci v. Krejci, 
    supra,
     than to Martin v. Martin, 
    supra,
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    and when focusing on the custodial parent’s conduct and
    whether the visitation actually occurred, we conclude that the
    district court erred in holding Doyle in contempt.
    Here, Doyle actively encouraged and tried to convince the
    child to attend the court-ordered parenting time with Franco;
    there was no evidence that Doyle ever told the child that he
    was free to refuse to go with Franco or discouraged him from
    attending visitation. To the contrary, Doyle testified that when
    the child expressed to her that he did not want to go with
    Franco, she would try to calm him down, encourage him to
    spend time with Franco, remind him of the fun things they
    would do together, and assure him that she would call him
    while he was gone. Doyle spoke to Huerta about how to make
    the exchanges go more smoothly and attempted to utilize the
    advice he gave her. Doyle and the child were present for each
    exchange, and Doyle had the child’s bag packed and ready for
    him to go with Franco. Even during the exchange Franco uni-
    laterally arranged in August 2019 at the child’s school, when
    the school notified Doyle, she went to the school with the
    child’s belongings to facilitate the exchange.
    There was no testimony from Franco that Doyle discouraged
    the child from going with him or indicated that he was not
    going to go; nor did Franco claim that Doyle was not willing
    to send the child with him. To the contrary, he testified that
    when he asked to pick the child up early in December 2018,
    Doyle responded, “[O]f course.” Additionally, the text message
    from Doyle to Franco in August 2019 informing him that she
    was able to convince the child to meet with him supports her
    claims that she actively encouraged and attempted to persuade
    the child to go with Franco.
    The evidence establishes that despite Doyle’s encourage-
    ment, the child was very reluctant to go, and frequently
    adamantly opposed to going, with Franco. Huerta opined that
    physically forcing the child to go with Franco was not in his
    best interests and could be emotionally damaging for him.
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    Thus, while we recognize that the responsibility for adher-
    ing to a visitation plan does not and should not devolve to
    the children, considering that Doyle encouraged the child to
    go, enrolled the child in therapy where the therapist worked
    with him on going with Franco, and transported him and
    his belongings to each exchange while attempting to con-
    vince him to go with Franco, the clear and convincing evi-
    dence does not establish that Doyle intentionally violated the
    court’s order.
    Moreover, Franco’s application for contempt enumerates
    specific visitation periods. Of those, he acknowledges that he
    did not travel to California to attempt to retrieve the child in
    the spring of 2018 or the spring of 2019. And the child ulti-
    mately returned to Franco in August 2019. Therefore, when
    considering whether the visitation actually occurred, it cannot
    be said that Franco was deprived of parenting time on the occa-
    sions where the visit actually took place.
    [16] The remaining parenting time of which Franco was
    deprived was Christmas break 2018. As explained above, the
    credible evidence establishes that the parties attempted the
    exchange on both December 19 and December 21. On each
    day, Doyle presented the child and his packed bag and encour-
    aged him to go; however, Doyle, her husband, Franco, and law
    enforcement officers were all unable to convince the child to
    go with Franco. We do not find that this sole instance where
    Doyle did not instruct the child not to go with Franco consti-
    tutes willful disobedience of a court order. Accordingly, the dis-
    trict court erred in holding Doyle in contempt, and we reverse
    its decision in this regard. We therefore need not address the
    issues Doyle raises related to the purge plan and imposition
    of incarceration as part of the civil contempt proceedings. See
    Applied Underwriters v. S.E.B. Servs. of New York, 
    297 Neb. 246
    , 
    898 N.W.2d 366
     (2017) (appellate court is not obligated to
    engage in analysis that is not necessary to adjudicate case and
    controversy before it).
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    CONCLUSION
    For the foregoing reasons, we affirm the district court’s
    finding of a material change in circumstances affecting the
    best interests of the child. We reverse its decision to award
    sole legal and physical custody to Franco and remand the
    cause with directions to award sole custody to Doyle, subject
    to Franco’s parenting time. We also reverse the court’s decision
    to hold Doyle in contempt.
    Affirmed in part, and in part reversed
    and remanded with directions.