In re Marriage of Edson , 2023 IL App (1st) 230236 ( 2023 )


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    2023 IL App (1st) 230236
    No. 1-23-0236
    Second Division
    June 20, 2023
    ____________________________________________________________________________
    IN THE
    APPELLATE COURT OF ILLINOIS
    FIRST DISTRICT
    ____________________________________________________________________________
    IN RE MARRIAGE OF:                     )     Appeal from the
    )     Seventeenth Judicial Circuit,
    RICHARD C. EDSON,                      )     Boone County.
    )
    Petitioner-Appellant,      )
    )
    and                              )     No. 2016 D 4
    )
    JULEE C. EDSON,                        )     Honorable
    )     Ronald A. Barch
    Respondent-Appellee.       )     Judge, presiding.
    ____________________________________________________________________________
    JUSTICE COBBS delivered the judgment of the court, with opinion.
    Justices Howse and Ellis concurred in the judgment and opinion.
    OPINION
    ¶1      This case stems from post-judgment dissolution of marriage proceedings between
    petitioner-appellant, Richard C. Edson (Richard), and respondent-appellee, Julee C. Edson
    (Julee). 1 Pursuant to a marital settlement agreement executed in 2017, Richard was ordered to pay
    monthly maintenance payments to Julee for a period of 20 years. However, in 2021, Richard filed
    1
    On February 6, 2023, in exercise of its general administrative and supervisory authority, this case
    was transferred by our supreme court from the Appellate Court, Fourth District to the First District pursuant
    to In re Appellate Court, Fourth District, Case Transfers, Ill. S. Ct., M.R. 31650 (eff. Feb. 6, 2023) (Order
    M.R. 31650).
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    a petition to terminate such payments, alleging that Julee was cohabiting with another party on a
    “continuing conjugal basis” and that such a relationship constituted a de facto marriage under
    Illinois law.
    ¶2      Following a two-day bench trial, the trial court determined that Richard had failed to meet
    his burden on his petition in establishing that Julee was cohabiting with another in a resident,
    conjugal, and continuing relationship pursuant to the Illinois Marriage and Dissolution of Marriage
    Act (Act) (750 ILCS 5/101 et seq. (West 2020)). Specifically, the court determined that, although
    Richard had established that Julee was involved in an intimate dating relationship, he had failed to
    establish by a preponderance of the evidence that she was in a de facto marriage. Richard appeals
    from that judgment, arguing that the trial court’s ruling was against the manifest weight of the
    evidence. For the reasons that follow, we affirm the decision of the trial court.
    ¶3                                           I. BACKGROUND
    ¶4                                 A. The Parties’ Divorce Proceedings
    ¶5      The following facts are derived from the record on appeal. Richard and Julee were married
    on July 15, 1995, in Rockford, Illinois. On January 8, 2016, 2 Richard filed a petition for dissolution
    of marriage in Boone County located in the Seventeenth Judicial Circuit. 3 At the time of filing, the
    couple had two minor children and were both Illinois residents.
    2
    The court’s final order indicated that Richard filed a petition for dissolution in 2018. The record
    reflects that it was filed on January 8, 2016.
    3
    As pointed out by the trial court in its final order, pursuant to Public Act No. 102-11 (eff. June 4,
    2021) (amending 705 ILCS 20/1 et seq.), the Seventeenth Judicial Circuit for Boone County was
    redistricted from the Appellate Court, Second District of Illinois to the Fourth District. This act provided
    that any appeal filed after January 1, 2022, was to be initiated in the new district designated therein. The
    act’s implementation was briefly paused by our supreme court pursuant to In re Judicial Redistricting, Ill.
    S. Ct., M.R. 30858 (eff. June 7, 2021). The pause was lifted on December 8, 2021. For our purposes, our
    supreme court has stated that, in the event of any conflict between districts, the circuit court is bound by
    the decision of the appellate district of which it was situated at the time the circuit court action was initiated.
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    ¶6      Following the entry of a temporary maintenance order, multiple statuses, and the setting of
    an initial trial date, the court entered a judgment for dissolution of marriage on June 23, 2017. The
    June 23, 2017, order provided that Richard had waived any challenges to the payment of
    maintenance, or alimony, to Julee. Further, Julee was to be awarded maintenance in accordance
    with the parties’ executed Marital Settlement Agreement (MSA), which had been reduced to
    writing and was incorporated by reference and attached as an exhibit to the June 23 order.
    Specifically, the MSA provided that Julee was awarded monthly maintenance payments of $1922
    for a period of 20 years, beginning on June 1, 2017. The MSA further “preclude[d] modification
    as provided by Section 502(f) of the [IMDMA],” but also that the payments were subject to the
    “terms and conditions of the [MSA] *** and Illinois law.” The June 23 order mirrored such
    language. 4
    ¶7                                       B. Procedural History
    ¶8                                        1. Richard’s Petition
    ¶9      On August 2, 2021, Richard filed a petition to terminate maintenance payments to Julee.
    Richard alleged that there “had been a substantial change in circumstances” regarding the parties’
    agreement (id. § 502(f)) and that pursuant to section 510(c) of the Act (id. § 510(c)), maintenance
    should be terminated because Julee was cohabiting with a third party named Curt [sic] Leaich on
    a “continuing and conjugal basis.” Specifically, Richard alleged that Julee and Curt cohabitated
    and held themselves out as a couple to both family and friends by attending family functions
    together; spending substantial time and overnights with one another; travelling and going on
    vacations together; spending holidays together and with friends and family on a regular basis;
    4
    On June 3, 2020, by agreed order, the parties further amended the MSA with regard to a retirement
    benefit that had not been contemplated by the parties at the time of drafting.
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    living and sharing meals together at Julee’s residence; holding themselves out as a couple on social
    media; attending one of Richard and Julee’s daughter’s wedding, as well as financially
    contributing to the celebration together; and listing Curt as a family member in an obituary for one
    of Julee’s relatives. As such, Richard asserted that the relationship rose to the level of a “de facto”
    marriage under Illinois law.
    ¶ 10   Julee filed a response, which admitted that she and Curt attended family functions together,
    that they travelled and vacationed together, that Curt had been identified in an obituary for her
    brother’s death, and that she and Curt attended her daughter’s wedding, as well as contributed to
    a wedding gift. However, Julee denied being in a de facto marriage and requested that the petition
    be denied.
    ¶ 11                                         2. Hearing
    ¶ 12   A hearing on Richard’s petition was conducted by Zoom over two days—on February 4,
    2022, and March 31, 2022. We have culled through the extensive testimony and recite the most
    salient portions herein.
    ¶ 13                                      i. Isabelle Ponton
    ¶ 14   Richard called his and Julee’s eldest daughter, Isabelle, who testified that Curt and her
    mother had started dating towards the end of October 2017. At the time, Isabelle; Julee; Isabelle’s
    younger sister, Angelina; and Angelina’s ex-boyfriend were all living together in Belvidere. They
    subsequently moved to a different location in Belvidere in November 2017. Curt and his three
    sons—Mason, Gavin, and Ethan—assisted them with the move. Isabelle stated that when they
    moved to the new residence, Curt bought a washer, dryer, and television for the home. Isabelle
    had been “upset” with the purchase because she “did not want to feel like a charity case.” However,
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    Julee communicated to her that she intended to pay Curt back for the items. She was not aware if
    Curt had helped purchase other items for the house.
    ¶ 15   Isabelle testified that when they first started dating, Julee and Curt did not see each other
    “too often.” She quantified it as “four times a month,” although it was also her testimony that she
    did not remember exactly how often it was. Isabelle stated that Curt did not spend the night during
    that time period and that he and her mother were “just hanging out.” However, it was also her
    testimony that she was not “really involved” in their relationship. Nevertheless, according to
    Isabelle, Julee and Curt spent Easter 2018 together, along with Isabelle, Angelina, their boyfriends,
    and Curt’s children.
    ¶ 16   Isabelle stated that the couple’s relationship began to change in summer 2018, when Curt
    began to “come around a lot more” and began to stay overnight at the residence. Isabelle
    characterized their activities as what “normal boyfriends and girlfriends do,” such as hanging out
    at the house and playing bags. Isabelle observed them hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Isabelle
    stated that her mother was not seeing anyone else at the time. During that summer, Curt was present
    at the home on the weekends. When he was not at work, Curt was at the house. His work schedule
    depended on where his job location was, as he mostly worked out of town. He would stay overnight
    at Julee’s house every other weekend, or on the weekdays if his job was close or within a few
    hours of Julee’s home. When he stayed overnight, he slept in her mother’s room. When he was at
    the house, Curt would help Julee with “simple things” and would work on Julee and Angelina’s
    cars. He also put in flooring in her mother’s basement, which had been Isabelle’s uncle’s project
    before he passed away in 2020.
    ¶ 17   Isabelle testified that she and Curt did not have a close relationship and would “butt heads”
    all the time because he would “put his two cents in” where she did not feel it was warranted.
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    Isabelle did not like Curt “being around so much” and did not like “feeling like a charity case.” As
    such, following an argument with her mother with Curt present, Isabelle was told by Julee that she
    was being kicked out. Isabelle left the home and moved to her father’s house, which was less than
    five minutes away. However, between September and December 2018, she would still visit her
    mother and sister every day and would stay about an hour or so each day. When she visited, she
    would sometimes see Curt, mostly on the weekends and perhaps one or two times during the week.
    She knew Curt was staying overnight because she would be there at the same time. After she
    moved out, Isabelle was aware that Curt was still “doing things” around the house.
    ¶ 18   At the end of 2018, Curt and her mother were still a couple and doing “normal things that
    boyfriends and girlfriends do.” Isabelle testified that at the end of 2018 or beginning of 2019, her
    mother was hospitalized for chest pain. Isabelle called Curt while he was on his way to work, and
    he came to the hospital to join her.
    ¶ 19   With regard to holidays that year, Isabelle testified that she spent Thanksgiving 2018 at her
    mother’s house, with Curt, his three sons, his parents, and his nephew present. On Christmas 2018,
    Isabelle spent the day with both her parents. Curt was at Julee’s home with two of his sons.
    ¶ 20   In 2019, Isabelle continued to visit her mother almost every day. She would be at the house
    for a couple of hours and would still see Curt mostly on the weekends. In March 2019, Isabelle
    underwent shoulder surgery, and stayed with her mother for about a week or two to recover. At
    some point that same month, Curt was laid off from his job, but Isabelle was unaware of the details
    relating to that event. During that time, he would be at her mother’s house almost every day and
    would spend the night on the weekends. However, it was also Isabelle’s testimony that she was
    unsure about whether he had been there during the week.
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    ¶ 21   With regard to holidays in 2019, Isabelle spent Easter and Memorial Day at her mother’s
    house, with Curt and his three sons also present. Isabelle also spent the Fourth of July and Labor
    Day there. Curt was present but no one else from his family was. She testified that her mother and
    Curt’s behavior towards each other was the same.
    ¶ 22   In 2020, Isabelle testified that she and her father moved to Union Grove, Wisconsin, about
    an hour and a half’s time from her mother’s home. Isabelle still visited her mother with regularity,
    about once or twice a week. If she was there on the weekends, she stayed overnight and would see
    Curt. She described Curt and Julee’s relationship as “loving” and “the same as before,” and that
    Curt was still sleeping in her mother’s bedroom when she was there. As to holidays in 2020,
    Isabelle testified that she spent Easter, Memorial Day, the Fourth of July, and Christmas with her
    mother. She remembered Curt being present at all events but was unsure if his relatives had been
    present each time. However, two of his sons were present on Christmas.
    ¶ 23   Isabelle testified that she moved out of her father’s home in January 2021 to live with her
    husband, Thomas Ponton, who lived in West Allis, Wisconsin. West Allis was about the same
    distance to her mother’s house, and so Isabelle would still visit her mother every weekend. She
    would see Curt, her mother, and her sister, with Curt still sleeping overnight in her mother’s
    bedroom. As to holidays in 2021, Isabelle spent every holiday except Thanksgiving at her mother’s
    house. At Christmas 2021, Curt was also there, along with his two youngest sons. He did not have
    any other relatives present.
    ¶ 24   In 2021, Isabelle testified that, at some point, one of Curt’s sons, Gavin, began living with
    Julee when he began studying for the GED exam. Gavin was 18 or 19 years old at the time and did
    not have a job. Isabelle was aware that Gavin was living with Curt at the time and that Curt paid
    his expenses. Gavin resided with Julee on a full-time basis during that time, but “gave up” on his
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    GED studies and was told by her mother that he could no longer stay at her home. She did not
    know how long Gavin’s stay was but knew that he went back to Curt’s home thereafter.
    ¶ 25   Isabelle testified that in August 2021, she observed some changes in Julee and Curt’s
    relationship, specifically them no longer sharing a bedroom. Isabelle inquired about the
    arrangement to Julee, and her mother responded that it was because Curt snored. That same month,
    Isabelle asked Julee why she would not marry Curt. Her mother listed various reasons, such as
    Curt being “too emotional,” and that she did not want to lose her maintenance payments because
    she would likely lose the house if payments terminated. In October 2021, Isabelle asked her again
    about the maintenance payments. Julee stated that she felt that she deserved the money because
    she had always taken care of the children, had attended all of their sporting events, and had done
    all of the household chores, whereas Richard had not been as present.
    ¶ 26   With regard to vacations and trips, Isabelle testified that Julee began selling wrestling gear
    as a second job in 2019 and would go on business trips for tournaments. The tournaments would
    be every weekend or every other weekend, usually in the winter or spring, and her mother would
    sell the gear for about three months during the year. The trips would be both local and long-
    distance, but normally more local. Curt would travel with her, but Angelina’s ex-boyfriend also
    did as well. However, the wrestling tournament business trips ceased in 2020 due to COVID.
    ¶ 27   With regard to leisure trips, Isabelle testified that Julee and Curt went to Florida for Julee’s
    fiftieth birthday but was unaware of its timeframe and who paid for its expenses. The two also
    travelled together for Isabelle’s wedding to Thomas in Las Vegas in June 2021. Other guests
    included Richard, Richard’s girlfriend, and some of Thomas’ cousins. Isabelle and Thomas stayed
    in Las Vegas for six days while the others stayed for about three. Julee and Curt shared a room,
    and Isabelle received some financial assistance for the wedding from Curt of around $800.
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    ¶ 28    With regard to her mother’s relationship with Curt’s family, Isabelle testified that both
    families treated each other as such. Isabelle stated that her mother would give Curt’s children a
    call “every once in a while” to check in on them. Additionally, Curt’s son Mason graduated from
    navy training in January 2020, and Isabelle, Julee, Curt, Mason’s mother, Angelina, and some of
    Mason’s friends ate lunch together afterward. However, Isabelle had not been present for the actual
    ceremony. Isabelle also testified that her uncle Jerry, Julee’s brother, had recently passed away
    and an obituary had been written for him. Both her mother and Curt’s names were included therein,
    with Curt named as “Curt Edson” in the passage.
    ¶ 29    On cross-examination, Isabelle testified that her mother had been employed at Rockford
    Spine Center for 12 years. She stated that Curt did not co-own her mother’s home and that he did
    not help her pay the mortgage, utilities, or her cell phone bill. She did not have any reason to
    believe that the two shared a bank account or credit card. With regard to household chores, Isabelle
    testified that Curt put in the flooring for the house but did not believe he had paid for the materials.
    Isabelle stated that she was not aware if her mother had repaid Curt for the washer, dryer, and
    television, but would not be surprised if she had paid him back. She also did not have any reason
    to believe that her mother wanted to marry Curt and believed her with regard to her not wanting
    to marry him outside of financial concerns.
    ¶ 30    Isabelle clarified that Curt would not be at her mother’s home every single weekend, but
    “a majority of the time he was there.” However, Isabelle admitted that, after she moved out of her
    mother’s house, she herself was not there every weekend to know if Curt was too. She also was
    not present when Gavin stayed with her mother, which she estimated to have been about a month,
    although she admitted that she did not “really keep tabs on [Curt’s] son.” She was not sure why
    Gavin stayed with her mother as he was living with Curt at the time. She believed Curt was paying
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    for Gavin’s expenses because he did not have a job at the time and did not know if Curt had given
    Julee money for Gavin’s expenses when he had stayed with her. She had never been to Curt’s
    home, located in Perryville, Illinois, but had seen its exterior when she dropped off one of his sons
    there. She knew that Curt had lived there for over 10 years.
    ¶ 31   Isabelle testified that she was unaware that Curt had been planning to take his mother on
    the Florida trip or that his mother had gotten sick about a week prior. Isabelle was not aware that
    her mother had paid for her own airfare and expenses to attend her wedding in Las Vegas.
    However, she had reason to believe that Julee had not paid for her own airfare, as Curt had told
    Isabelle that he had paid for both tickets. Isabelle did not consider the $800 Curt gave her to be a
    wedding gift because he stated that he would “help [her]” with the wedding. However, she
    admitted that he did not give her any other gift and that she did not have a registry.
    ¶ 32   The court then questioned Isabelle. Isabelle testified that she had never seen any mail
    addressed to Curt being delivered to her mother’s house at any time she lived with or visited her
    on weekends. However, Curt was able to get in and out of the house because he had the garage
    code, and he would sometimes be present at the home without her mother there. Curt stored
    belongings at her mother’s house, such as shampoos, conditioners, and body washes. He also left
    some shirts but would often bring work clothes with him as he was gone for weeks at a time. Curt
    would also keep some tools in a small bag at her mother’s house and would leave them in the
    garage. If he needed a bigger tool, such as a saw, he would return to his house to retrieve it. He
    would also bring some items from home and take them back with him.
    ¶ 33   On recross examination, Isabelle clarified that “every once in a while” Curt would be at
    her mother’s house on his own but was unsure about the frequency once she moved out. She further
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    stated that “every once in a while” Curt would work on her mother and sister’s cars, which is why
    he left some tools in the garage.
    ¶ 34   On redirect examination, Isabelle testified that Curt’s tools were not currently stored at her
    mother’s home. A few of his shirts were hung up at the home, and a few items were stored in her
    mother’s dresser. She further stated that another one of Curt’s sons, Mason, stayed with her mother
    for about two weeks, while he was on leave from the navy around December 2020.
    ¶ 35                                    ii. Thomas Ponton
    ¶ 36   Richard called Thomas, Isabelle’s husband, who testified that he and Isabelle met in either
    August or September of 2020, and began dating on December 26, 2020. He resided in West Allis,
    and she moved in with him in January 2021. Thomas met Julee, Curt, and Mason on December
    26, 2020, when he and Isabelle went to Belvidere and stayed the night at Julee’s house.
    ¶ 37   Thomas testified that he and Isabelle would visit Illinois every other weekend. Curt would
    also be there almost every weekend they were there and would stay overnight. Sometimes his kids
    would be present, but they would not stay for the night. Curt and Julee would share a bedroom,
    but this arrangement ended in August or September of 2021 because Curt snored.
    ¶ 38   Thomas testified that Julee and Curt “interact[ed] like a couple” because they would cook
    together, go to dinner, go to the casino, have a cookout or campfire, and were “always together.”
    He and Isabelle recently had lunch with them, and Julee paid for their meal. Curt also paid for
    meals, with the last time being sometime in October 2021. Between June to December 2021,
    Thomas recalled eating out with Julee and Curt about five to six times, with Curt covering the bill.
    Thomas stated that Julee always tried to pay, but Curt would always pay beforehand.
    ¶ 39   Thomas testified that in January 2021, he had a conversation with Julee about her
    relationship with Curt. Julee told Thomas that she loved Curt but did not want to marry him
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    because she “didn’t want to lose the money.” Thomas asked her if it was “pretty much about the
    money.” Julee responded that if she got married, she would lose her house. He and Julee had
    another conversation about marriage two weeks after. He asked her, “Do you just keep the money
    because that’s the only thing you have left of [Richard]?” Julee said no, and that she deserved the
    maintenance payments because “she did everything for the kids,” such as making them dinner and
    taking them to their practices, while Richard came home, ate, and slept.
    ¶ 40   On cross-examination, Thomas testified that he accompanied Julee and Curt to the casino,
    and that he was not aware of Curt paying for Julee there. At restaurants, Curt and Julee never made
    him and Isabelle pay for meals. Either Julee or Curt would offer to pay, but more often than not,
    Curt would.
    ¶ 41                                    iii. Craig Johnson
    ¶ 42   Craig Johnson, a private investigator employed at Markely Investigations, was also called
    by Richard as a witness. Johnson testified that he was assigned a matter relating to the Edson
    divorce. His assignment was to go to an address in Rockford, Illinois, and to look for certain
    vehicles or a tractor parked in front of a house on Palos Verde Drive.
    ¶ 43   He began his investigation on May 7, 2021. At about 8 or 9 p.m., Johnson drove to the
    Rockford address. While he was there, he observed a dark-colored Fiat with Illinois plates parked
    in front of the residence, as well as a cream-colored SUV also with Illinois plates. Johnson stayed
    for a brief time and took some photographs, which he positively identified on the stand. On May
    8, 2021, he returned to the same address at about 6 a.m. He observed the black Fiat and cream-
    colored SUV still parked in the same location. He also observed a light-colored Chevy van parked
    in the driveway. Johnson positively identified copies of the photographs he took that morning.
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    ¶ 44   On cross-examination, Johnson testified that he was given his assignment a few days before
    May 7, 2021, and he performed work on May 7 and 8, 2021, and some dates in January 2022. On
    May 7 and 8, 2021, he did not observe any individuals enter or leave the residence.
    ¶ 45   On redirect examination, Johnson testified that on January 29, 2022, at 5:45 a.m., he
    returned to the same address, and observed the same cream-colored SUV, as well as a white Scion
    in the driveway of the residence. He took photographs of the vehicles and stayed for a few minutes.
    On January 30, 2022, he returned to the same residence at 6:06 a.m., observed the same cars still
    parked in the driveway, and again took photographs. Johnson positively identified such
    photographs on the stand. On recross-examination, Johnson testified that he did not see anyone
    leaving or entering the residence on January 29 or 30, 2022.
    ¶ 46                                    iv. Richard Edson
    ¶ 47   Richard testified in his own behalf. He testified that he had been previously married to
    Julee and that, by court order, he was required to pay maintenance to Julee on a permanent basis
    of $1922 per month.
    ¶ 48   Richard believed Julee was cohabiting with another individual and that he began his own
    investigation of the relationship through social media and by taking photographs. When he was in
    Rockford to visit his daughter, he would take pictures of and around the house, including in the
    early morning hours. Richard positively identified various photographs on the stand, which
    depicted Curt’s cars parked at Julee’s residence or at her job. He knew the Fiat was Curt’s car
    because he had spoken generally with Curt about it regarding fuel capacity and mileage. He also
    knew that the Scion was also Curt’s car because Curt had purchased it from Julee’s parents.
    ¶ 49   Richard also identified photographs taken at his daughter Isabelle’s wedding in Las Vegas.
    He testified that there were about 15 people at the wedding, including Julee, Curt, Richard’s friend
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    Gina, himself, Angelina, Thomas’ eldest daughter, and Julee’s extended family and their
    significant others. Richard had some conversations with Julee regarding the wedding’s cost prior
    to Isabelle buying her wedding dress. He had been concerned about helping Isabelle pay for the
    wedding but told Julee that he did not have a lot of extra money set aside; thus, he planned to give
    Isabelle about $2000. Julee responded that she and Curt would give $1800 to help with the overall
    cost. After Isabelle received the money, Richard asked Julee if she planned on giving Isabelle and
    Thomas a wedding gift. Julee stated that she and Curt did not plan to, as they had contributed to
    the cost of the wedding.
    ¶ 50    Richard identified various text messages between him and Julee concerning maintenance,
    beginning on April 5, 2021, through July 12, 2021, in which Julee stated that she was “entitled” to
    the money. The two also had a phone conversation in April 2021, in which Julee complained of
    having to pay taxes on the maintenance payments. Richard responded that she would not have to
    do so if she dropped the maintenance obligation and that it was only fair that she did because “Curt
    is there all the time.” Julee refused to continue the conversation and hung up the phone.
    ¶ 51    On cross-examination, Richard testified that a limousine had been utilized for Isabelle’s
    wedding in Las Vegas, but Curt had not ridden in it with him, Julee, and Richard’s friend. On
    redirect examination, Richard testified that Curt had a rental car in Las Vegas in order to get around
    the city.
    ¶ 52                                       v. Curt Leiach
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    ¶ 53    Richard next called Curt, who testified that he was employed by Fabcon Precast, LLC, as
    a technician and worked about 90% of the time out of town. 5 When he was out of town, he would
    usually stay at a location for an entire week, and sometimes up to three to four weeks, including
    weekends. Curt testified that, “if he was lucky,” he was home about six days a month. He indicated
    that he would get vacation time for the holidays, including the day before and after a given holiday.
    ¶ 54    Curt testified that he did not own a home and instead rented an apartment in Caledonia,
    Illinois. His son, Gavin, had lived there with him for the past four years. Curt paid all the expenses
    at the rental, including utilities, and he performed repairs and maintenance. His apartment was
    about three miles from Julee’s residence.
    ¶ 55    Curt testified that he had gone to high school with Julee and had now dated her on and off
    for four years. Curt testified that when he is in town, Julee and he occasionally eat out and visit
    family. Curt did not consider himself a “homebody,” and he was usually “packing in everything
    [he could] to make sure everything was taken care of” when he was in town, which included
    spending time with Julee. Based on his work schedule, he would see her once every couple of
    weekends, between two to five times a month. When Isabelle was still living at Julee’s home, Curt
    would sometimes see her there. He would stay overnight at Julee’s house “on occasion” and would
    usually do so when he had consumed alcohol that night. He stated that when he stays overnight
    now, he “normally” does not stay in Julee’s bedroom, but that he has on occasion.
    ¶ 56    When asked about the type of activities he and Julee do together, Curt responded that they
    do the “same kind of things that somebody is dating would do,” such as clothes shopping or
    The parties indicated to the trial court that both Richard and Julee would call Curt as a witness.
    5
    The parties agreed that Julee’s direct examination of Curt could exceed the scope of Richard’s direct
    examination, without any objection from Richard.
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    running errands. However, he reiterated that he did not have a lot of free time when he was in
    town.
    ¶ 57     Curt testified that he considered himself “handy” and helped Julee with projects and
    maintenance around her house. Specifically, he helped finish her basement remodel after her
    brother passed away. Such tasks included studding of the drywall, various electrical repairs,
    painting, and finishing. He had not completed any other major projects at her house. However, if
    he was in town, he would do small projects, such as raking and mowing her lawn, landscape work,
    and cleaning out her garage or basement at various times. He had not done any tiling or staining
    or helped her clean out any closets or take down any windows. If something would break, he would
    fix it, including her and her children’s vehicles, which included “major type repairs,” such as brake
    repair, tune-ups, and suspension work. He also worked on Isabelle’s car after she moved out of the
    house.
    ¶ 58     As for his own car, Curt testified that he purchased a Chevy van before Julee’s brother
    passed away and later sold it to another one of Julee’s brothers. He denied giving the proceeds of
    the sale to Julee to pay attorney fees and stated that he has never given her any money for such
    fees. Curt testified that he also owned other vehicles, including a 2012 or 2013 black Fiat and a
    2013 white Scion, which he purchased from Julee’s parents.
    ¶ 59     Curt testified that he took one vacation with Julee to Fort Myers, Florida in 2020 for about
    a week. The trip had originally been planned for him and his mother, but his mother had been
    unable to go. The vacation happened to fall on Julee’s birthday, so he took the trip with her instead
    and paid for the vacation. Curt also travelled between 10 and 20 times on long-distance trips with
    Julee while she sold wrestling gear during a two-year period. Curt stated that they travelled “quite
    a few times” to Michigan, once to Arkansas, once to Missouri, once to Virginia, and once to South
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    Dakota. Julee would pay for the trips’ expenses. Curt estimated that he only accompanied her on
    one or two local business trips. For those trips, she usually travelled by herself or took one of her
    kids with her. When he did travel with her, he would help her set up her gear and sometimes assist
    with sales.
    ¶ 60   Curt testified that his family would get together at Julee’s house about twice a year,
    excluding holidays, with both sets of their children present. Sometimes members of his extended
    family would be included for events, such as birthday parties. Curt stated that Julee had recently
    hosted a party for his son, Mason, at her home, with the majority of the attendees being his
    extended family. He characterized his extended family’s relationship with Julee as friendly, but
    not close, and that his and Julee’s children were also friendly. When asked about Julee’s brother’s
    obituary, Curt confirmed that he was included in the obituary, along with her other relatives.
    ¶ 61   With regard to holidays, Curt testified that he spent “some” holidays with Julee, including
    two Thanksgivings, two Christmases, and one Easter. He did not recall being together on the
    Fourth of July, Labor Day, or Memorial Day. He would also spend some holidays at his parents’
    home. Sometimes his extended family would be invited to spend holidays at Julee’s home, but
    they often celebrated separately. His children and Julee’s children would sometimes be present
    during the holidays, but not always.
    ¶ 62   When asked about Gavin’s stay with Julee, Curt testified that Gavin had been there for two
    weeks in order to study for his GED. However, when he did not pass the exam, Julee asked him to
    leave, and he returned to Curt’s home. The stay had not been intended to last for more than two
    weeks. Julee did not charge him or Gavin for the stay.
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    ¶ 63   As to Isabelle’s wedding in Las Vegas, Curt testified that he had rented a car because
    “people needed to get to places” and that he paid for the rental. He stayed with Julee and Julee’s
    granddaughter in a hotel room.
    ¶ 64   Curt was shown various photos and social media postings and positively identified them
    as postings he had made, photos he took, or times he had been with Julee and others, ranging from
    events such as Mason’s graduation to cooking dinner at Julee’s home. He also identified a photo
    from October 2019, in which Julee visited him for one night while he was on location for work in
    Plainfield, Indiana. Curt testified that Julee had driven down for the day and stayed in the same
    motel. Curt indicated that this was the only time she had done that in their time together. He also
    identified a social media post he made in April 2020 to help promote Julee’s wrestling gear
    business.
    ¶ 65   On cross-examination, Curt testified that he had been helping Julee’s brother with her
    basement project and finished it after he died. Julee purchased the supplies for it, and he did not
    contribute any money towards it. He confirmed that the flooring he installed was part of the same
    project.
    ¶ 66   With regard to the Florida trip, Curt testified that he had not originally planned to celebrate
    Julee’s fiftieth birthday with her. When they were in Florida, they stayed at his cousin’s house for
    free in exchange for some maintenance and repair work. However, he paid for his own food and
    expenses while there. With regard to long-distance business trips, Curt testified that Julee could
    not drive well at night, so he did all the driving at that time. He also did most of the driving during
    the day, as Julee could not drive for more than three hours at a time.
    ¶ 67   With regard to holidays, Curt testified that he usually spent the Fourth of July with his
    family, while Julee spent it with hers. When asked about the obituary, Curt stated that he was
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    surprised that he was listed, that he had not asked to be, and that he was not aware that Julee had
    asked anyone to include him in it.
    ¶ 68   Curt was subsequently called to testify by Julee. On direct examination, Curt testified that
    about a year into their relationship, he and Julee separated for about five to six months. He and
    Julee were not engaged. When asked by the court about what his relationship with Julee was
    currently, he responded, “she is my girlfriend” and “best friend.”
    ¶ 69   Curt testified that he rented a single-family home in Caledonia and had an agreement with
    his landlord for a month-to-month lease in exchange for doing general maintenance and upkeep.
    He had lived there for twelve years, paid the utilities, and had all of his mail delivered to that
    address. Julee never assisted him with his rent.
    ¶ 70   Curt testified that his employment took him away from home about every week and when
    he was home, it was usually on the weekends. He estimated in the last three to four years with
    Julee, he had spent about two to four days a month with her and usually not the whole weekend.
    He did not spend every night with her and would sometimes go back to his house. He did not keep
    many personal items at her home and did not have his own dresser there. If he stayed the night, he
    would bring his own toiletries. He might bring items with him if it was in his out-of-town bag in
    the car, but most of the time he left his belongings at his home. He did not have any furniture at
    Julee’s house but had left some tools in the house from the basement project. He would use those
    same tools when working on the cars or would use the tools she inherited from her brother after
    he died. If he needed a specialized tool, he would go back to his own home for it and then return
    it to his home when he was finished.
    ¶ 71   Curt testified that he has his own bank account and credit card and does not share—
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    and has never shared—any accounts with Julee. He does not assist Julee with her mortgage, bills,
    or loans. Curt has never loaned her any money, besides the money spent on the washer, dryer, and
    television, which he gave to her because she was moving into a rental home that did not have any
    of those items and “she had kids.” However, she repaid him for all the items. Curt’s sons are his
    beneficiaries on all of his financial accounts, including his life insurance policy. Julee is not his
    beneficiary, and they had not engaged in any financial transactions together.
    ¶ 72    Curt testified that he does not have keys to Julee’s home but was aware that her garage
    door has a code that allows entry. He currently did not have access to the code, but he did when
    he was working on her basement in order to bring in materials. When the project was completed
    in 2021, Julee changed the code. He has only accessed the home without her being present if she
    leaves the side door of the home unlocked on occasion in order for him to perform maintenance
    work.
    ¶ 73    Curt testified that he and Julee occasionally eat out with Isabelle and Thomas and estimated
    it to be about three times since the two were married. Curt stated that he usually pays for meals,
    but he knew that Julee paid at least once. Curt paid for the meals because he knew “money [was]
    tight for the kids” and that he normally covers the bill when children are involved. With regard to
    Isabelle’s wedding, Curt testified that he did not pay for Julee’s airfare and that, as far as he knew,
    Julee paid for the hotel room.
    ¶ 74    On redirect examination and cross-examination by Richard, Curt testified that, with regard
    to the Florida trip, he had planned to be there with his mother on Julee’s fiftieth birthday and had
    not otherwise intended to celebrate with Julee because she did not want to. He testified that, prior
    to the changes to the trip plan, he had wanted to celebrate with her because she was his best friend.
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    ¶ 75                                       vi. Julee Edson 6
    ¶ 76    Julee was first called by Richard. On direct examination, she stated that she had two
    daughters with Richard, and one of them still lived with her. She testified that Richard was current
    in his maintenance payments but did not remember having a conversation with him about him
    continuing to pay maintenance until her mortgage was paid off.
    ¶ 77    Julee testified that she first started dating Curt in November 2017 and was still dating him
    at the time of trial. Julee was shown various photographs and social media postings depicting her,
    Curt, some members of her family, and some members of Curt’s family beginning in February
    2018 through June 2021, although she was not certain of all the dates. Julee stated that some
    photographs were taken in Belvidere, while others were in Wisconsin, and that they depicted
    events ranging from Isabelle’s wedding to average days spent together alone or with members of
    both their families.
    ¶ 78    Julee testified that she recently hosted a party for Curt’s son, Mason, who was in the navy
    and was home for two weeks. There were about 15 to 20 people in attendance, a majority of whom
    were Curt and Mason’s relatives, including Curt’s ex-wife; his brothers, their wives and kids; and
    Curt’s ex-mother-in-law. Some members of Julee’s family—Isabelle, Thomas, Thomas’s children,
    and their partners—also attended. Julee was the host, but only provided pop and water at her own
    expense.
    ¶ 79    Julee was shown a photograph from July 2019, which showed her and Curt at Mount
    Rushmore. Julee testified that she had taken a business trip with Curt to sell wrestling gear, where
    she would travel to wrestling tournaments, both local and long-distance. She conducted either two
    6
    Julee was called as both a witness by Richard and on her own behalf in rebuttal. For purposes of
    efficiency, we recite the whole of her testimony in a single section.
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    or three nonlocal business trips during a one-year period, and Curt came with her on all those
    occasions and helped her sell gear. Such trips included trips to South Dakota, West Virginia, and
    Michigan. Julee paid all expenses, such as gas and lodging, through her employer, Go Earn It, but
    the two stayed in the same hotel. Curt paid for his own food and would contribute to the driving,
    as some trips were about three days’ travel time. Julee’s local business trips would be about two
    hours away, and Curt accompanied her on one trip to Washington, Illinois. They did not stay
    overnight.
    ¶ 80   Next, Julee testified on her own behalf in rebuttal. Then, on direct examination, she
    testified that since the divorce, she had never lived with another man. She identified Curt as a “very
    good friend,” her “companion,” and “someone I can go and do things with.” She was not engaged
    to him, had never exchanged rings with him, and did not live with him. With regard to marriage,
    Julee stated that they had “not been together long enough to consider” it. When asked why three
    to four years was not long enough, Julee responded that “within the four years[,] we have not spent
    enough time together” to really get to know each other. However, she was exclusively involved
    with Curt and was not dating anyone else.
    ¶ 81   With regard to the frequency in which the two saw each other, Julee stated that Isabelle’s
    testimony regarding Curt’s overnight stays was not accurate. She testified that there were times
    when Curt was in town and she would not see him and that the time they saw each other was “not
    very often.” She estimated that, when he was in town, they were together about half of the time.
    ¶ 82   Julee testified that she currently had a mortgage solely in her name and did not receive any
    assistance with it. She paid her own real estate taxes and utilities, also in her name. She had credit
    cards but did not share any with Curt and he did not help her pay them. She did not assist Curt
    with any of his household or personal bills or debt. She also had a life insurance policy that named
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    her two daughters as her beneficiaries. She did not share any financial accounts with Curt. Curt
    did not store any furniture at her home. With regard to the washer, dryer, and television purchase,
    Julee testified that Curt paid for them on his credit card, and she repaid him within two to three
    months after she received a work bonus. However, he had never purchased another “big ticket”
    item for her.
    ¶ 83   Julee admitted that Curt had assisted with car repairs over the last four years because her
    car was old and “a lot goes wrong with [it].” Julee testified that when there was an issue, she
    generally asked him to fix it rather than going to a repair shop. The same would be true with regard
    to her daughters’ cars. Julee stated that she has also borrowed Curt’s white Scion, specifically in
    summer 2020, when the air conditioning was not working in her vehicle. Julee confirmed that both
    she and Curt performed yard work at her home and that he would offer to do it while he was in
    town. As to the basement project, Julee confirmed that she purchased the materials for it.
    ¶ 84   With regard to Mason’s recent party at her house, Julee stated that she hosted it at her home
    because she and Isabelle were allergic to cats and her house was a “happy medium.” Curt paid for
    the meat, she served pop and water, and everyone else bought a dish to share. As for Isabelle’s
    wedding, Julee testified that she paid for her own airfare, hotel expenses, and food, as well as her
    daughter Angelina’s. She did not pay for Curt.
    ¶ 85   When asked about Gavin’s stay at her home, she confirmed that he stayed during
    “springtime” 2021 because he needed to focus on getting his GED. Julee hoped he could finish it
    within two weeks, but he took the test and did not pass. He stayed at her house because “she had
    wi-fi” and, at the time, Angelina’s ex-boyfriend, Bryce, was living with her and also needed to
    take the exam. She believed they could work together on it. However, she asked Gavin to leave
    when it was clear that he was not doing enough studying.
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    ¶ 86   With regard to the Florida trip, Julee testified that she was asked by Curt to go about a
    week prior. She had not originally planned on going but did not want to stay in Illinois to celebrate
    her birthday. She admitted that she did not pay for any expenses for the six-day trip. Other than
    that trip and her work trips, she has never taken any other out-of-town trips with Curt. As to her
    work trips, she stated that Curt would travel with her because she could not drive more than three
    hours, as she would fall asleep, and could not drive at night because her vision was bad. Julee
    confirmed that he helped her set up booths on her work trips.
    ¶ 87   With regard to her brother’s obituary, she indicated that her sister helped write it, but had
    not consulted Julee as to whether Curt should be included. Julee did not write it and could not
    revise it, and pointed out that Curt’s name was improperly delineated as “Curt Edson.” She asked,
    “why is this even in here?” and said that it was “not appropriate to list him in it because he was
    not in any form of a family member.”
    ¶ 88   With regard to holidays, Julee testified that she and Curt spent two Christmases, Easter
    2018, Fourth of July 2018, and maybe two or three Thanksgivings together. She also thought they
    were together on the weekend of Memorial Day 2018 because it coincided with Isabelle’s birthday.
    She later changed her testimony, stating that they spent three Christmases together, in 2018, 2020,
    and 2021. She believed they spent Thanksgiving 2019 and 2020 together.
    ¶ 89   On cross-examination by Richard, Julee testified she spent Thanksgiving and Christmas
    2018 with Curt, along with Angelina and Julee’s brother, Jim. Curt’s relatives were not present. In
    2020, she spent Christmas with him at her house, along with Angelina, Isabelle, Gavin, and Ethan.
    In 2021, she spent Christmas at her house, along with some members of her extended family—
    Thomas, Isabelle, Thomas’s three children, Ethan, and Gavin. She hosted Easter 2018-at her house,
    and Curt’s parents, Curt, Angelina, Bryce, Ethan, and Gavin were present. On Memorial Day
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    weekend 2018, the holiday was spent at her house with Isabelle, Angelina, and some friends. Curt
    came for Memorial Day but not Isabelle’s birthday. For Fourth of July 2018, also at her house,
    Curt, Isabelle, Angelina, and some of their daughter’s friends were there. Julee hosted
    Thanksgiving 2018, 2019, and 2020 at her house. In 2018, her brothers, Curt, and Curt’s mom
    attended. However, she later clarified that Curt was not present. In 2019, Curt, his parents, Ethan,
    Gavin, Isabelle, and Angelina were present. In 2020, Curt, Isabelle, and Angelina attended.
    ¶ 90   As to Gavin’s stay, Julee testified that he had been welcome at her house so long as he
    focused on his studies and that she had put a time limit on it. She clarified that if he had “been
    doing what he was supposed to be doing,” he could have stayed longer, but she had to “put a limit
    on these kids.” Finally, Julee confirmed that Curt’s testimony about their long-distance trips
    together was accurate, and that she had forgotten about the trips to Missouri and Arkansas.
    ¶ 91                                   3. Closing Arguments
    ¶ 92   The parties submitted written closing arguments. In Richard’s submission, he asked for the
    termination of maintenance to be retroactive to August 2, 2021, the date he filed the petition.
    Substantively, he argued that the evidence demonstrated the existence of a de facto husband and
    wife relationship.
    ¶ 93   Julee filed a response, which acknowledged that she and Curt had a close relationship over
    the past four years. Julee did not dispute most of the testimony elicited at trial but disagreed with
    Thomas and Isabelle’s testimony regarding the amount of time Curt and her spent together. Julee
    emphasized that she and Curt maintained separate residences and finances, which would otherwise
    be routine for a married couple.
    ¶ 94   Richard filed a reply and supplement to his petition. Richard argued that Julee was
    minimizing the amount of time she and Curt spent together and that Julee had motivation to change
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    her behavior with regard to Curt in order to keep the maintenance award. Richard acknowledged
    that financial considerations were an important part of the court’s analysis, but that Julee’s focus
    on those aspects of the relationship minimized the other salient testimony.
    ¶ 95                                        4. Trial Court Ruling
    ¶ 96    On July 13, 2022, the trial court entered a written order denying Richard’s petition. The
    court held, based on the totality of the circumstances, that although Richard had established that
    there was a substantial romantic relationship between Curt and Julee, he had failed to meet his
    burden, based on a preponderance of the evidence, in establishing a de facto marriage at least as
    of August 2021, the date the petition was filed. 7
    ¶ 97    The court stated that section 510(c) of the Act governed resolution of Richard’s petition on
    the issue of cohabitation. 8 The court cited the case of In re Marriage of Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , as a leading case on cohabitation, which had formally adopted what has been termed as
    the “Herrin” factors, nonexhaustive factors to determine whether a de facto marriage existed. In
    re Marriage of Herrin, 262 Ill. App 3d 573 (1994). However, the court cautioned that the six
    Herrin factors did “not constitute a mere checklist” in assessing the evidence. The court was also
    “mindful [that] the circumstances of an intimate dating relationship are also likely to involve facts
    that fit the 6 factors established in Herrin, yet those same facts may fall short of establishing a
    de facto marriage” because “simply put, an intimate dating relationship is not a de facto marriage
    7
    Due to the length and heavy detail of the trial court’s factual findings, we shall recite such findings
    within the analysis section of this order. The court also stated that it had admitted virtually all of Richard’s
    exhibits into evidence, which were delineated therein.
    8
    The trial court stated that the court in which it sat had been redistricted from the Illinois Appellate
    Court, Second District, to the Fourth District. However, it noted that there was no true substantive conflict
    regarding the governing case law as applied to its resolution of the matter, as its ultimate conclusion relied
    in part on a Second District decision, which in turn had cited with approval a Fourth District opinion.
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    and, therefore, not a ground upon which to terminate or deny maintenance.” Instead, the court
    reasoned, the record was to be evaluated for signs of mutual commitment and permanence, as well
    as whether the “new relationship functions practically and economically like a marriage and, if
    not, whether [there] is a reasonable explanation [for that].” The court further reiterated that “[e]ach
    cohabitation case turns on its own set of facts; just as no two relationships are alike, no two
    cohabitation cases are alike.”
    ¶ 98   Ultimately, the court found that Richard had not proven the existence of a de facto
    marriage, although it acknowledged the “closeness” of the case by stating that:
    “If the court were to simply fill in the 6 Herrin factors with evidence brought forth
    at trial, the court may be inclined to agree with Richard on the question of cohabitation,
    but that is precisely the calculus Miller counsels against. As noted above, courts must be
    careful to not use the 6 factors set forth in Herrin as a mere checklist on the way to finding
    a de facto marriage.”
    ¶ 99   On this point, the court gave credence to Richard’s emphasis on the social and emotional
    aspects of the relationship and agreed that “on the surface, the duration *** and nature of the
    relationship suggest a deeply rooted relationship with many earmarks of a married couple.” The
    court noted that it was clear that Julee and Curt were engaged in a long-term, monogamous
    romantic relationship, which included sexual intimacy, time spent together alone and with each
    other’s families, and holding themselves out as a couple in public and at family events.
    ¶ 100 However, the court noted, “[u]pon closer analysis, *** the relationship lacks the depth of
    commitment necessary for the court to find a de facto marriage” and that “a deeper dive *** reveals
    something better described as an exclusive social companionship with occasional benefits, rather
    than a de facto marriage.” The court reasoned that Curt and Julee had “completely and
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    consistently” maintained separate households and finances, with the exception being the loan for
    the washer, dryer, and television, which was repaid quickly. The court opined that “[o]n a practical
    and economic level, Julee and Curt could end their relationship and go their own way with virtually
    no effect whatsoever[.]” As such, the court found the social and emotional aspects of the
    relationship to “carry less weight” against the financial considerations. The court acknowledged
    that there was testimony regarding Julee’s need to maintain her maintenance award as a reason for
    avoiding marriage, but that was also balanced against other additional reasons as to why she did
    not want to marry Curt, which was further corroborated by Isabelle’s testimony.
    ¶ 101 As such, the court concluded that Julee and Curt’s relationship was “one lacking the
    significant practical and economic hallmarks of a marriage-like relationship.” The court
    emphasized that if the two were to separate, they could do so with “nothing more than a final phone
    call or perhaps a text” and that there “exists nothing between the two that would require unwinding
    or disentanglement.” 9
    ¶ 102 On July 28, 2022, Richard filed a timely notice of appeal to the Appellate Court, Fourth
    District. 10 On February 6, 2023, our supreme court transferred the matter from the Fourth District
    to the First District pursuant to Order M.R. 31650. This appeal followed.
    9
    Although the court expressly noted in its order that Richard was also seeking to terminate his
    maintenance obligations retroactively, the court never addressed this request in its final order as it ultimately
    denied the petition in its entirety.
    10
    Although not raised by either party, it is our duty to assess our jurisdiction to review this appeal.
    See State Farm Fire & Casualty Co. v. John J. Rickhoff Sheet Meal Co., 
    394 Ill. App. 3d 548
    , 555 (2009).
    The record reflects that the trial court’s July 13 final order does not expressly indicate that it was final and
    appealable, and instead sets the matter over for another status. However, the order clearly disposes of the
    entirety of the pending matter, and Richard did not file a post-judgment motion. Thus, his notice of appeal
    was timely pursuant to Illinois Supreme Court Rule 303(a) (eff. July 1, 2017) (final judgments of the circuit
    court in civil cases must be appealed within 30 days of entry of the final judgment, or 30 days after the
    entry of judgment against a timely post-judgment motion directed at that final judgment).
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    ¶ 103                                       II. ANALYSIS
    ¶ 104                                   A. Standard of Review
    ¶ 105 Upon reviewing a trial court’s ruling on a petition to terminate maintenance based on the
    existence of a de facto marriage, we will not disturb the court’s conclusion, unless that ruling is
    against the manifest weight of the evidence. Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶ 40. “A decision
    is against the manifest weight of the evidence if the opposite conclusion is clearly evident or if the
    decision is unreasonable, arbitrary, or not based on the evidence.” 
    Id.
     Generally, we also will not
    disturb a trial court’s credibility determinations. Id. ¶ 41.
    ¶ 106                                         B. The Act
    ¶ 107 We begin with a discussion of the governing statute, the Act, which controls the
    modification or termination of a maintenance award. Generally, courts are empowered to
    determine entitlement to and details of a maintenance award. 750 ILCS 5/504(a) (West 2020).
    However, the Act also allows for parties to “enter into an agreement containing provisions for
    disposition of any property owned by either of them,” including “maintenance of either of them
    [or] support.” Id. § 502(a). Any such agreement must be reduced to writing and approved by a
    court. Id. Further, “[t]he terms of the agreement, except those providing for the support and
    parental responsibility [for] allocation of children, are binding upon the court” unless the court
    finds the agreement to be unconscionable. Id. § 502(b). Maintenance can be fixed-term, indefinite,
    or reviewable subject to other provisions of the Act. Id. § 504(b-4.5)(1)-(3).
    ¶ 108   The Act further provides that any previous “order for maintenance may be modified or
    terminated only upon a showing of a substantial change in circumstances[,]” which are delineated
    therein. Id. § 510(a-5). However, termination of maintenance, based on cohabitation, is addressed
    specifically in section 510(c), where any “obligation to pay future maintenance is terminated upon
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    the death of either party, or the remarriage of the party receiving maintenance, or if the party
    receiving maintenance cohabits with another person on a resident, continuing conjugal basis.”
    (Emphasis added.) Id. § 510(c). “An obligor’s obligation to pay maintenance or unallocated
    maintenance terminates by operation of law on the date the obligee remarries or the date the court
    finds cohabitation began,” with the obligor “entitled to reimbursement for all maintenance paid
    from that date forward.” Id.
    ¶ 109 Section 510(c) is not an attempt to control public morals. In re Marriage of Bramson, 
    83 Ill. App. 3d 657
    , 663 (1980). Rather,
    “[t]he purpose underlying the statutory termination of maintenance when the recipient
    spouse cohabits with a third party[,] is to remedy the inequity created when the recipient
    spouse becomes involved in a husband-wife relationship but does not formalize the
    relationship, so that he or she can continue to receive maintenance from his or her ex-
    spouse.” In re Marriage of Sunday, 
    354 Ill. App. 3d 184
    , 189 (2004).
    See Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶ 40 (“ ‘ “Where the relationship has achieved a permanence
    sufficient for the trial court to conclude that it has become a substitute for marriage, equitable
    principles warrant a conclusion that the spouse has abandoned his or her rights to support from the
    prior marriage ***.” ’ ” (quoting In re Marriage of Weisbruch, 
    304 Ill. App. 3d 99
    , 105 (1999),
    quoting In re Marriage of Herzog, 
    761 S.W.2d 267
    , 268 (Mo. Ct. App. 1988))).
    ¶ 110   C. Cohabitating On A Resident, Continuing Conjugal Basis or “De Facto” Marriage
    ¶ 111 In determining whether a party is engaged in a “resident, continuing conjugal” relationship,
    as delineated within section 510(c), the party moving to terminate maintenance must show that the
    recipient is in a de facto relationship with a third party or, put another away, cohabiting with
    someone. Sunday, 354 Ill. App. 3d at 188-89; see In re Marriage of Roofe, 
    122 Ill. App. 3d 56
    , 59
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    (1984) (“[C]ourts have construed ‘cohabitation’ to mean a de facto husband-wife relationship.”);
    see also In re Marriage of Clark, 
    111 Ill. App. 3d 960
    , 961 (1983) (In interpreting the Act, “courts
    of this State have held that a de facto husband-wife relationship must be shown in order to
    demonstrate cohabitation.”). If the moving party meets their burden, the maintenance recipient
    must then demonstrate that he or she is not engaged in that type of relationship. Herrin, 262 Ill.
    App. 3d at 576.
    ¶ 112 Given that determining whether a relationship amounts to a de facto marriage is generally
    a question of fact, Illinois appellate courts have recently begun utilizing a nonexhaustive factor
    test to determine whether such a relationship exists, which is said to have “originated” from the
    Fourth District case of In re Marriage of Herrin, 
    262 Ill. App. 3d 573
    . See Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶ 40; Sunday, 354 Ill. App. 3d at 189. Such factors include: “(1) its length; (2) the
    amount of time [the couple] spend[s] together; (3) the nature of the activities they engaged in;
    (4) the interrelation of their personal affairs; (5) their vacationing together; and (6) their spending
    holidays together.” Herrin, 262 Ill. App. 3d at 577; see Sunday, 354 Ill. App. 3d at 189. These
    factors have seemingly been adopted, “without discussion, as though the factors were sufficient to
    encapsulate the totality of the circumstances in all cases.” Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶ 47.
    ¶ 113 However, it does not appear that our supreme court has “adopted the six-factor analysis in
    any manner, let alone adopted it as sufficient.” 
    Id.
     Further, over time, our courts have also
    questioned the saliency of various aspects of the six-factor test. See id. ¶¶ 48-49 (“A fair reading
    of Herrin leads us to the conclusion that, while helpful in most instances, the six-factor analysis
    was never intended to be used as the test to find a de facto marriage.” If it were, “a more careful
    effort should be made as to its wording.” (Emphasis in original.)). For example, some courts have
    criticized whether the Herrin factors sufficiently capture all aspects of a life partnership, with some
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    districts suggesting that the factors “focus greatly on the emotional and social components of a
    relationship[,] as opposed to practical and financial aspects that life partners share.” Id. ¶ 48; see
    Weisbruch, 304 Ill. App. 3d at 104 (“[I]t is the financial implications of the relationship that are
    most relevant to determining the need for maintenance,” with “[t]he most important factor [being]
    whether the cohabitation affects the receiving spouse’s need for support.”). Additionally, courts
    have observed that the six-factor test fails to articulate a “key emotional factor that is likely present
    in any de facto marriage: intended permanence and/or mutual commitment to the relationship.”
    (Emphasis in original.) Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶ 48.
    ¶ 114 As noted by the trial court in its order, there also has been discussion of when an “intimate
    dating relationship” rises to the level of a de facto marriage as contemplated by the statute. See id.
    ¶¶ 51-61. As recently discussed by one court:
    “In distinguishing an intimate dating relationship *** from a marriage-like
    relationship ***, we think it fair to state the following. Intimate dating relationships have
    companionship and exclusive intimacy, whereas marriage-like relationships, while
    likewise having companionship and exclusive intimacy (not necessarily sexual but such
    that the former spouse does not engage in a similar relationship with a third person), also
    have a deeper level of commitment, intended permanence, and, unless reasonably
    explained, financial or material partnership (which would most commonly come in the
    form of a shared household).” Id. ¶ 61.
    ¶ 115 Indeed, even our supreme court has indicated that a finding of an intimate dating
    relationship does not necessarily equate to the conclusion that the relationship is resident,
    continuing, and conjugal, as required by statute. See In re Marriage of Bates, 
    212 Ill. 2d 489
    , 524
    (2004) (spending time together with “sporadic” overnight stays does not establish a husband-and-
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    wife-like relationship where individuals did not live in the same residence, did not share finances,
    and did not take vacations together); see also In re Marriage of Johnson, 
    215 Ill. App. 3d 174
    ,
    180-81 (1991) (reversing termination of maintenance when, “[a]t most, the evidence may support
    a dating relationship”). In that same vein, however, our supreme court has also noted that a
    conjugal relationship may be found even when sexual relations have not occurred. See In re
    Marriage of Sappington, 
    106 Ill. 2d 456
    , 467-68 (1985); see also In re Marriage of Aspan, 
    2021 IL App (3d) 190144
    , ¶ 15 (“Illinois courts no longer require ‘proof of sexual conduct,’ so long as
    the party seeking termination can establish ‘facts which would lead a reasonable observer to
    believe that the individuals were [living as] husband and wife.’ ” (quoting In re Marriage of
    Lambdin, 
    245 Ill. App. 3d 797
    , 801 (1993))).
    ¶ 116 Finally, although not explored by either party here, we are also mindful that, prior to the
    more formalized use of the six-factor Herrin test, many of our earlier appellate decisions placed
    much emphasis on whether the facts of each case expressly met the three statutory requirements
    of section 510(c)—namely, whether a cohabiting relationship was “resident,” “continuing,” and
    “conjugal” in nature. 11 For instance, in discussing whether a “conjugal” relationship must include
    sexual relations, our supreme court in Sappington stated that the term “cohabitation” meant “living
    or dwelling together,” while “conjugal” is to be interpreted as “[o]f or belonging to marriage or
    the married state.” (Internal quotation marks omitted.) Sappington,
    106 Ill. 2d at 462-64
    .
    ¶ 117 However, many of our earlier decisions appeared to oscillate between declining to
    terminate or terminating maintenance based on whether the relationship is either conjugal,
    11
    We note this primarily because our review of the record shows that Richard’s petition solely
    alleged that Julee and Curt were engaged in a “continuing conjugal relationship” and not whether it was
    also “resident.” However, based on our interpretation of section 510(c), we do not see Richard’s failure to
    delineate all three statutory requirements in his petition as fatal to his appeal. Nevertheless, even if it were,
    our ultimate conclusion would still remain the same.
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    continuing, or resident. See Johnson, 215 Ill. App. 3d at 180-81 (reversing trial court’s finding of
    a conjugal, continuing relationship, where appellate court held that ex-wife was not a “resident”
    under the Act simply by occasionally staying at new partner’s home); see also In re Marriage of
    Frasco, 
    265 Ill. App. 3d 171
    , 176-77 (1994) (even after partner moved out of shared home with
    maintenance recipient, and technically was not a “resident,” the court still found evidence of
    de facto marriage). Thus, it appears that the body of law has now shifted away from those pure
    statutory definitions and has now focused on whether a relationship is “husband-and-wife-like” in
    nature, i.e. one of a de facto marriage, based on the totality of the circumstances. See Sappington,
    
    106 Ill. 2d at 467
    ; see also Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶ 2 (noting that “the absence of
    certain traditional components of a marital relationship, such as intended permanence and mutual
    commitment (speaking to the continuing and conjugal elements), a shared day-to-day existence
    (speaking to the conjugal and residential elements), and the shared use and maintenance of
    material resources (speaking to the residential element)” may be detrimental to a petition to
    terminate maintenance (emphases added)). This is reasonable because, although a given
    relationship may be short in duration or the couple may not live together at the time of trial, it may
    nonetheless still bear the hallmarks of a de facto marriage.
    ¶ 118 Thus, “[e]ach case seeking a termination of maintenance based on the recipient spouse’s
    conjugal cohabitation rests on its own unique set of facts[,]” with an eye towards preserving the
    trial court’s primary position in assessing those unique facts. Sunday, 354 Ill. App. 3d at 189.
    Although a “consideration of the nonexhaustive list of six common-law [Herrin] factors is helpful
    to any termination analysis, courts should not take a checklist approach wherein they merely note
    the presence of certain facts that fit into each category.” (Emphasis omitted.) Miller, 2015 IL Ap
    (2d) 140530, ¶ 68. Instead, courts must be conscious of the fact that “many of the six factors can
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    be present in an intimate dating relationship as well as a de facto marriage.” Id. Accordingly, with
    these principles and considerations in mind, we turn to the evidence in the record and the trial
    court’s extensive findings.
    ¶ 119                                      D. Richard’s Petition
    ¶ 120 Both Richard and Julee agree that the six-factor test articulated in Herrin was properly
    utilized by the trial court. Where the parties disagree is the weight given by the court to such factors
    in reaching its ultimate determination that, although the evidence showed that Curt and Julee had
    an intimate dating relationship, the evidence did not rise to that of a de facto marriage.12
    Ultimately, after our review of the record and the trial court’s detailed findings, we do not find that
    the trial court’s overall conclusion was against the manifest weight of the evidence.
    ¶ 121                               1. The Length of the Relationship
    ¶ 122 Richard argues that the trial court “concede[d]” that the “duration” of Curt and Julee’s
    relationship was that of a married couple. Julee disagrees, pointing out that the trial court noted
    that, although the duration and nature of the relationship was “deeply rooted” with many
    “earmarks” of a married couple, it nonetheless found that the relationship lacked the depth of
    commitment present in a de facto marriage. Julee’s position on this point is rooted in the court’s
    analysis of the other Herrin factors, where admittedly, even though the couple had been together
    for at least four years, other aspects of their relationship were not of such a nature to be a de facto
    marriage.
    12
    We note in passing that, despite the parties’ agreement that the six-factor Herrin test is helpful in
    analyzing whether Curt and Julee were in a de facto marriage, both parties failed to adhere to their own
    framework by arguing various facts or evidence against seemingly unrelated factors. We have attempted to
    separate the parties’ arguments into the category of factors we believe best suited to address those
    arguments. But it would seem that having the structure of six specific categories would have aided both in
    better organizing their briefs for our review.
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    ¶ 123 We turn to the court’s findings. In its order, the trial court observed that, at the time of
    hearing, Curt and Julee had been dating for about four and a half years but had never been engaged.
    The court noted Julee’s testimony that she and Curt had dated exclusively since 2017, but that their
    schedules had not allowed enough time together to consider marriage and that Julee was not
    interested in it at the time. Nevertheless, both considered themselves to be a couple, with Julee
    calling Curt her “companion” and Curt referring to her as his “best friend.”
    ¶ 124 The trial court weighed this testimony against that of Isabelle and Thomas. Isabelle testified
    that Julee did not want to marry Curt for multiple reasons, including that he was too “emotional”
    and that she did not want to lose her maintenance payments. Thomas also testified that Julee had
    told him that she loved Curt but did not want to marry him because she did not want to lose her
    maintenance payments, which could affect her keeping her house. Finally, the court observed that
    Thomas testified that Julee believed she deserved the maintenance payments “based upon
    everything she did during the marriage.” Ultimately, the court opined that, “on the surface, the
    duration of the relationship *** suggest[ed] a deeply rooted relationship” and that the evidence
    showed that Julee had been engaged in a long-term relationship with Curt.
    ¶ 125 We agree with the trial court that solely based on the length of time together, and without
    consideration of the other relevant Herrin factors, a four-and-a-half-year relationship partly
    suggests evidence of a de facto marriage. Although there was testimony from Curt that he and
    Julee had separated for about four to six months after they had been together for about a year, there
    was also testimony that Julee had never lived with another man after her divorce and had always
    been exclusively involved with Curt. Moreover, courts have found the existence of a de facto
    marriage, based on similar timelines when viewed in conjunction with other pillars of the
    relationship. See In re Marriage of Walther, 
    2018 IL App (3d) 170289
    , ¶ 27 (appearance of
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    de facto marriage based on at least two years’ involvement and eleven months’ exclusivity); see
    also In re Marriage of Susan, 
    367 Ill. App. 3d 926
    , 930 (2006) (finding of de facto marriage where
    couple had been together for three years); In re Marriage of Snow, 
    322 Ill. App. 3d 953
    , 956 (2001)
    (continual, conjugal relationship where couple was together for 1.5 years, even after third party
    moved out of the residence). Accordingly, this factor weighs in favor of a finding of a de facto
    marriage. However, as our further analysis will demonstrate, the length of the couple’s relationship
    carries less weight based on other relevant factors.
    ¶ 126                           2. The Amount of Time Spent Together
    ¶ 127 Richard argues that the evidence demonstrated that when Curt was not working, he was at
    Julee’s house, and thus, the two were spending a fair amount of time together. Richard takes issue
    with the trial court’s “confusing” and “contradictory” discussion of this factor that, according to
    Richard, oscillated between economic considerations regarding Curt’s residence and its attempt to
    resolve conflicting testimony regarding the amount of time Curt spent at Julee’s home. In
    Richard’s view, the court seemed to suggest that it was also Richard’s burden to demonstrate that
    Curt’s maintaining of his own home was a “sham” in order to avoid termination of Julee’s
    maintenance payments.
    ¶ 128 Julee responds that the trial court properly evaluated the evidence as to this factor,
    including when it noted that the evidence was disputed. Julee contends that there are no such
    contradictory findings and that the court expressly found that it was “probably truer than not” that
    Curt and Julee spent a considerable amount of weekend time together. Nevertheless, Julee points
    out, the court was correct in not finding this factor ultimately dispositive. Finally, Julee argues that
    Richard’s concern as to Curt’s residence is unfounded.
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    ¶ 129 We turn to the court’s findings on this factor. As noted by the parties, the trial court
    observed that the amount of time Julee and Curt spent together was “hotly contested” based on the
    differences in testimony from Isabelle and Julee, specifically, with regard to the amount of time
    Curt stayed overnight at the residence. According to Isabelle, although the couple did not spend a
    great deal of time together in the beginning of their relationship, by summer 2018, Curt was
    “around a lot more” and was often spending nights at Julee’s house. Isabelle further testified that
    it was “common” for Curt to “regularly stay overnight” at least every other weekend. However,
    the trial court acknowledged that Isabelle moved out of Julee’s home during the course of the
    relationship, with the exception being the week or two she stayed to recover from shoulder surgery,
    and thus had “less opportunity to observe the frequency of [Curt]’s overnight stays[.]” Further,
    Isabelle also admitted that Curt worked a lot and would be out of town most weekdays.
    ¶ 130 In contrast, the trial court observed that Julee denied Isabelle’s recollection of Curt’s
    presence in the home. The trial court noted that Julee and Curt’s testimony was consistent in that
    the couple began spending more time together in mid-2018, but Curt testified that he was out of
    town about 90% of the time, mostly on weeknights, and estimated his actual time at home to be
    about six days a month. Curt also stated that he would still return to his own residence unless he
    had been consuming alcohol that night. Similarly, Julee testified that the time Curt spent at her
    house was far less and that when he was home, they were probably together half of the time, and
    they were not together every weekend. Ultimately, the court determined that Julee and Curt saw
    each other frequently, that it was “more probably true than not” that the two spent a considerable
    amount of their weekend free time together, and that when Curt was in town, he was at Julee’s
    home. Nevertheless, the court declined to find the time spent together as solely dispositive on the
    issue of cohabitation.
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    ¶ 131 After reviewing the record, we also agree with the trial court. The evidence shows that
    Julee and Curt spent a significant amount of time together when able to, given Curt’s mostly out-
    of-town job schedule. We acknowledge that the amount of time spent together will ultimately
    impact the analysis of the other Herrin factors, such as the nature of the activities spent during that
    time together or the holidays or vacations the couple spent together. Indeed, the trial court noted
    that the couple was together enough to engage in certain activities with each other, despite the
    limited time frame they had based on Curt’s work schedule.
    ¶ 132 However, there is also evidence that Julee did not believe that she and Curt had spent
    enough time together for her to consider marriage, which the court found to be credible. Even
    accepting Isabelle’s testimony as true regarding the time spent together, it appears that Curt and
    Julee were only able to spend time together on the weekends and did not live a day-to-day life
    together that would be more reflective of a husband-and-wife-like relationship. Cf. Herrin, 262 Ill.
    App. 3d at 577 (finding of a de facto marriage where couple saw each other every day for two and
    a half years and spent most evenings together); Aspan, 
    2021 IL App (3d) 190144
    , ¶¶ 6, 20 (finding
    of de facto marriage where couple lived together); Walther, 
    2018 IL App (3d) 170289
     ¶¶ 27-28,
    33 (finding of de facto marriage where couple were together on a daily basis); Susan, 367 Ill. App.
    3d at 930 (finding of de facto marriage where couple spent nearly every night together during
    relationship); Sunday, 354 Ill. App. 3d at 190-91 (evidence of frequent overnight stays was not
    dispositive for determining whether a de facto relationship exists).
    ¶ 133 As such, although we do agree that the evidence showed a significant amount of time spent
    together, we also agree with the trial court’s observation that this factor alone is not sufficiently
    dispositive, given the circumstances of Curt’s employment and the trial court’s credibility
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    determinations. Accordingly, we conclude that this factor only slightly points to evidence of a
    de facto marriage.
    ¶ 134                          3. The Nature of the Activities Engaged In
    ¶ 135 Richard argues that the nature of Julee and Curt’s relationship was also one that the trial
    court found to be akin to that of a married couple, and thus also points to the finding of a de facto
    marriage. In our review of the briefs, it does not appear that Julee expressly challenges Richard or
    the court’s findings on the nature of the couple’s relationship.
    ¶ 136 On this factor, the court observed that it was clear that the two were in a monogamous,
    romantic relationship. The two spent time alone at Julee’s home, went to dinner on their own or
    with friends and family, and held themselves out as a couple in public and on social media. The
    court noted that the two “engage in same activities and events in which married couples typically
    participate” and were physically affectionate with each other. Curt also assisted Julee with chores
    and repairs around her home, as well as weekend business trips for her former wrestling gear job.
    ¶ 137 However, the court noted that there was also evidence that the couple continued to live
    completely separate lives, even within their activities together. For example, despite evidence of
    spending weekends with Julee, Curt did not have any belongings stored at her home, and she never
    stayed at his home due to her pet allergies. The court also pointed out that it never heard any
    testimony as to whether Julee or Curt assisted each other with living expenses, such as food. There
    was some testimony about Curt paying for meals at restaurants, but it was also said that Julee paid
    sometimes as well. Overall, the testimony was that both paid for their own expenses.
    ¶ 138 Further, the court stated that the two had never been engaged or ever exchanged rings and
    did not refer to each other as husband or wife, but instead as “companion,” “good friend,” “best
    friend,” or “girlfriend,” even on social media. Moreover, it was Julee’s testimony that she did not
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    want to get married, which the court found credible in light of Isabelle’s corroborating testimony,
    despite also acknowledging that she had indicated that she also did not want to get married because
    she would lose her maintenance payments. See Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶ 67 (no finding
    of relationship where the parties had discussed marriage, but maintenance recipient did not want
    it and no other evidence demonstrated a desire to manifest a similar commitment).
    ¶ 139 On this point, we find the evidence to be more equivocal for a variety of reasons. First,
    socializing and eating together either in the home or in public have been found to be characteristic
    of de facto marriages. See Herrin, 262 Ill. App. 3d at 577 (finding of de facto marriage where there
    was evidence of eating together at maintenance recipient’s home); Sappington, 
    106 Ill. 2d at
    465-
    66 (socializing together indicative of de facto relationship); In re Marriage of Arvin, 
    184 Ill. App. 3d 644
    , 647, 650 (1989) (no de facto relationship where couple only occasionally went out socially
    together); Snow, 322 Ill. App. 3d at 956 (de facto relationship where couple socialized together
    frequently and engaged in “dating activities” such as dinners, movies, and drinks); Frasco, 265 Ill.
    App. 3d at 176 (finding of de facto relationship where couple took meals together); In re Marriage
    of Nolen, 
    200 Ill. App. 3d 1072
    , 1075-76 (1990) (no finding of de facto relationship where pair
    infrequently socialized).
    ¶ 140 We have also found evidence of a de facto marriage where the record demonstrates shared
    household chores, ranging from laundry to cooking to maintenance work. See In re Marriage of
    Toole, 
    273 Ill. App. 3d 607
    , 612 (1995) (sharing of chores may be evidence of de facto
    relationship); Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶¶ 44, 69 (no de facto relationship where the
    parties did not share a household or perform household duties together); Lambdin, 245 Ill. App.
    3d at 804 (no de facto relationship where maintenance recipient did not do her partner’s laundry);
    Arvin, 184 Ill. App. 3d at 650 (no de facto relationship where maintenance recipient did not do
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    laundry); Snow, 322 Ill. App. 3d at 956 (de facto relationship where couple split chores); Frasco,
    265 Ill. App. 3d at 176 (finding of de facto marriage where relationship was akin to husband and
    wife, in that maintenance recipient acted as homemaker and partner did maintenance and yard
    work); Walther, 
    2018 IL App (3d) 170289
    , ¶¶ 28-29 (de facto relationship where maintenance
    recipient did household chores and prepped meals); Roofe, 122 Ill. App. 3d at 59-60 (maintenance
    recipient cooked meals at partner’s home); Bramson, 83 Ill. App. 3d at 663 (no de facto
    relationship even with shared chores); Schoenhard v. Schoenhard, 
    74 Ill. App. 3d 296
    , 301 (1979)
    (no relationship where maintenance recipient lived with another man half the time and lived with
    her parents the other half, even though she performed chores for him and his children).
    ¶ 141 However, these considerations are balanced against the fact that Curt was generally only
    at the house when Julee was, as it was his testimony that he briefly had access to Julee’s home
    when he and her brother were remodeling her basement, but that she changed the code thereafter
    and he otherwise could only enter the home when she left the door unlocked. Cf. Sappington, 
    106 Ill. 2d at 460
     (partner had free access to maintenance recipient’s home); Walther, 
    2018 IL App (3d) 170289
    , ¶ 29 (maintenance recipient had “unfettered access” to partner’s home, even without
    a key).
    ¶ 142 There was also evidence on the record that the two spent a lot of time with members of
    both their families, where they presented themselves as a couple, which we discuss more
    extensively in consideration of the “interrelation of personal affairs” factor. See Walther, 
    2018 IL App (3d) 170289
    , ¶¶ 14, 29-30 (finding of de facto relationship where maintenance recipient
    maintained a good relationship with partner’s daughter and engaged in multiple family activities);
    Roofe, 122 Ill. App. 3d at 60 (finding of de facto relationship where maintenance recipient’s
    partner provided supervision and guidance to her daughter).
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    ¶ 143 Finally, the record shows that Curt and Julee have shared a bedroom at her house, as well
    as on various vacations, such as Isabelle’s wedding in Las Vegas. Courts have found that sharing
    a bedroom may point towards evidence of a de facto relationship. See In re Support of Halford, 
    70 Ill. App. 3d 609
    , 614 (1979); Walther, 
    2018 IL App (3d) 170289
    , ¶¶ 27-30; Roofe, 122 Ill. App.
    3d at 60; In re Marriage of Caradonna, 
    197 Ill. App. 3d 155
    , 159-60 (1990). However, there was
    also testimony that, as of August 2021, Curt no longer sleeps in the same bedroom due to snoring
    issues, and the trial court noted that he did not believe there was any evidence of the parties
    changing their behaviors, including sleep patterns, following the filing of Richard’s petition.
    ¶ 144 Ultimately, the trial court came to the conclusion that Julee and Curt’s relationship was
    romantic and “clearly emotional, social and intimate.” Thus, it implicitly found that the nature of
    their relationship, on balance, seemed to favor the finding of a de facto marriage. We agree that
    the evidence supports the court’s assessment of Julee and Curt’s relationship on this issue, and we
    find no error with the court’s conclusion on this factor.
    ¶ 145                          4. The Interrelation of Personal Affairs
    ¶ 146 Richard argues that the trial court improperly placed emphasis on the lack of
    interrelationship of the parties’ finances and ignored other evidence relating to the couple’s
    personal affairs, such as (1) Curt’s active involvement in Julee’s home maintenance, (2) both
    parties’ involvement in each other’s family events where they held themselves out as a couple, (3)
    Curt’s listing in Julee’s brother’s obituary, (4) Julee borrowing Curt’s car and allowing his son to
    live at her house, and (5) Curt being present at the hospital for Julee’s medical episode. Further,
    even if the court properly placed more weight on the couple’s financial relationship, Richard
    contends that the court ignored evidence such as Curt purchasing a washer, dryer, and television
    for Julee; his financial contribution to Isabelle’s wedding; and Curt travelling with Julee to assist
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    with her wrestling gear business. Finally, Richard points to the fact that there was testimony
    indicating that Julee would not marry Curt due to her fear of losing her maintenance payments.
    ¶ 147 Julee responds that Richard’s attempts to minimize the parties’ lack of financial
    entanglement contradicts recent case law, which, according to her, emphasizes the importance of
    a couple’s economic interrelation to determine whether a conjugal relationship exists. Julee argues
    that she and Curt did not have any intermingled finances or assets together, and, but for a single
    incident, Julee has never received any financial support from him. As to personal affairs, Julee
    emphasizes that the two have maintained fairly separate households.
    ¶ 148 As discussed above, the trial court emphasized that its consideration of the evidence on this
    factor was both personal and financial in nature. The court reiterated that it had to assess the
    “totality of the circumstances to determine whether the new relationship functions practically and
    economically in a marriage-like way and resist deciding primarily upon emotional and social
    considerations.” (Emphasis added.)
    ¶ 149 With regard to personal affairs, the court acknowledged that the two had involved one
    another in their personal and social lives, with the record demonstrating both being present at many
    holidays and special events over the years. In contrast, however, the two had never been engaged,
    and Julee was not interested in marrying Curt at this time. 13 Further, the court also heard evidence
    that neither Julee nor Curt expected his name to be reflected on Julee’s brother’s obituary, with
    Julee even finding his inclusion to be “inappropriate,” as he was in no way considered to be a
    family member.
    13
    In its order, the court considered some additional evidence under an “other” category, such as
    Curt’s son’s stay at Julee’s house, as well as Curt’s inclusion in Julee’s brother’s obituary. We consider the
    two under the “interrelation of personal affairs” factor instead.
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    ¶ 150 With regard to the parties’ financial relationship, the court found that the two had
    “completely and consistently maintained separate households and finances.” The court observed
    that Curt had lived in a rental home in Caledonia, Illinois, for 10 to 12 years, which was far beyond
    the time he had begun dating Julee. He also lived there with his son, Gavin, and the rent and utilities
    were in his name. There was some testimony regarding Gavin’s stay at Julee’s home as being
    related to the fact that she had wi-fi there, which implicitly suggests that Curt’s home did not, but
    that was unexplored by either party. Curt also never received mail at Julee’s home and only
    received it at his rental. The court noted that, but for an article of clothing or tools, Curt did not
    have any furniture or other belongings at Julee’s home, and when he did stay overnight, he would
    bring his own toiletries.
    ¶ 151 As to Julee’s living arrangements, the court observed that she had lived with both her
    daughters at some point and currently lives with Angelina. Only Julee’s name is on the deed and
    mortgage to her current residence, and she is solely responsible for her mortgage, utilities, and real
    estate taxes.
    ¶ 152 With regard to credit cards and other financial accounts, the court observed that the two
    did not share any and maintained their own. There was testimony that neither assisted each other
    with any of their bills or debts, with the exception being Curt’s purchase of the washer, dryer, and
    television, which Julee repaid within a few months. Both of their life insurance policies listed their
    children as beneficiaries. However, the court appeared to imply that Julee likely saved some
    expenses by having Curt help her with projects around the home, including a major basement
    remodel, as well as work on her and her daughters’ cars. The court also took into account testimony
    regarding Julee’s reluctance to marry Curt, which was partly based on the potential loss of
    maintenance payments, although it did not find this to be persuasive to its overall conclusion.
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    ¶ 153 Ultimately, the trial court concluded that, despite the length and nature of the relationship,
    “[o]n a practical and economic level,” the two “could end their relationship and go their own way
    with virtually no effort whatsoever” because “financially, there [was] nothing to untangle[,]” “no
    assets or debts to divide[,]” “no deeds to quit claim[,]” “no titles to transfer[,]” and “no refinancing
    [] necessary.” On this point, the court found In re Marriage of Miller persuasive, where there the
    parties, like Julee and Curt here, also had a long relationship, but were not contemplating marriage,
    did not share a residence, and did not comingle finances. As such, the trial court cited approvingly
    Miller’s conclusion that a “termination of maintenance must evince a permanence based on mutual
    commitment, as manifested by, for example, a combination of the length of the relationship, the
    intertwining of significant assets that would be difficult to undo, and/or verbal testimony of
    commitment[.]” See Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
     ¶ 67.
    ¶ 154 It is clear that it was this factor that turned the tide on the court’s assessment of the
    evidence. To begin, we emphasize the purpose of the fourth factor, which is distinct from analyzing
    a recipient’s financial needs. As stated in In re Marriage of Susan, the fourth factor evaluates “not
    whether the new de facto spouse financially supports the recipient but, rather, whether their
    personal affairs, including financial matters, are commingled as those of a married couple would
    typically be.” 367 Ill. App. 3d at 930-31; see Frasco, 265 Ill. App. 3d at 177-78. Thus, courts are
    to consider all aspects of the couple’s life together, including financial, that might imply a husband-
    and-wife-like relationship.
    ¶ 155 The record demonstrates that Julee and Curt did not live together and that it was only Curt
    that stayed overnight, as Julee was allergic to Curt’s cat. However, we acknowledge that Illinois
    courts have stated that a couple can still be found to cohabit even if they maintain separate
    households. See Susan, 367 Ill. App. 3d at 927-28, 930; Herrin, 262 Ill. App. 3d at 577-78. Further,
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    there was also evidence that two of Curt’s sons at some point resided with Julee, albeit for short
    periods of time. Thus, the trial court’s initial determination that Julee and Curt maintain separate
    households is not necessarily dispositive of their financial and personal affairs.
    ¶ 156 Nevertheless, we do not find the trial court’s conclusion on this factor, and in particular its
    emphasis on the parties’ lack of financial and commercial relationships, to be unreasonable. Our
    review reveals that the body of law interpreting this factor with regard to financial relationships is
    extensive. See Sunday, 354 Ill. App. 3d at 191-92 (“It is clear that this factor is very significant in
    determining the existence of a conjugal relationship” as our supreme court in “Sappington
    acknowledged that a conjugal relationship mimics the economic aspects of a marriage.”); see also
    Herrin, 262 Ill. App. 3d at 577 (finding of conjugal relationship where partner utilized maintenance
    recipient’s phone number for his business, partner borrowed money from maintenance recipient,
    and maintenance recipient took out loans for partner in order to pay for a computer and a car and
    to help pay partner’s child support obligations); Lambdin, 245 Ill. App. 3d at 804 (no relationship
    where parties did not share real estate, personal property, or bank accounts); Toole, 273 Ill. App.
    3d at 612 (relationship found where parties shared bank and credit accounts); Johnson, 215 Ill.
    App. 3d at 181-82 (no relationship where parties did not share expenses and third party did not
    take on maintenance recipient’s other expenses); Aspan, 
    2021 IL App (3d) 190144
    , ¶¶ 17, 20
    (relationship found where parties pooled resources and intermingled finances); Walther, 
    2018 IL App (3d) 170289
    , ¶¶ 28-29 (relationship found where maintenance recipient cashed checks for her
    partner’s business, despite not intermingling other finances); Caradonna, 197 Ill. App. 3d at 160
    (no relationship where maintenance recipient paid her own expenses, shared no personal accounts
    with new partner, and did not comingle funds); Susan, 367 Ill. App. 3d at 930 (parties did not
    comingle funds but evidence still pointed to a de facto marriage).
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    ¶ 157 Courts have also taken into account whether parties have formally integrated the new
    relationship into their future endeavors. See Weisbruch, 304 Ill. App. 3d at 108 (finding of
    relationship where third party was named as beneficiary on maintenance recipient’s will, deferred
    compensation and retirement plan, and life insurance policies); see also Bramson, 83 Ill. App. 3d
    at 663 (no relationship where third party received mail at another address and had identification
    cards with multiple addresses on them); see also Sappington, 
    106 Ill. 2d at 460
     (third party had the
    newspaper delivered to the maintenance recipient’s household).
    ¶ 158 In contrast, the occasional payment of a bill or utility, evidence of a loan, or even one
    shared nonfinancial account, has not been sufficient to rise to a de facto marriage against the other
    circumstances of the relationship. See Sunday, 354 Ill. App. 3d at 191 (no relationship where
    parties did not comingle funds, did not pay for each other’s expenses, but third party would
    occasionally pay for food and gas when he used maintenance recipient’s resources); Arvin, 184 Ill.
    App. 3d at 649-50 (payment of oil bill insufficient to find de facto marriage where no other
    household expenses were shared, no joint checking account, and no other comingling of funds);
    Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶¶ 62-63 (parties shared a joint golf membership, but no de facto
    relationship where parties otherwise did not comingle finances and did not share household duties);
    In re Marriage of Leming, 
    227 Ill. App. 3d 154
    , 158, 161 (1992) (although maintenance recipient
    paid utilities and rent, couple otherwise did not comingle funds and maintained separate expenses);
    Schoenhard, 74 Ill. App. 3d at 301 (no relationship where, despite new partner loaning
    maintenance recipient money, she otherwise paid her own expenses).
    ¶ 159 In considering the gravity of this factor, as we noted initially, we find the Second District’s
    discussion in In re Marriage of Miller to be helpful:
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    “In distinguishing an intimate dating relationship *** from a marriage-like
    relationship *** we think it fair to state the following. Intimate dating relationships have
    companionship and exclusive intimacy, whereas marriage-like relationships, while likewise
    having companionship and exclusive intimacy (not necessarily sexual but such that the
    former spouse does not engage in a similar relationship with a third person), also have a
    deeper level of commitment, intended permanence, and, unless reasonably explained,
    financial or material partnership (which would most likely come in the form of a shared
    household).” (Emphases added.) 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶ 61.
    ¶ 160 The Miller court pointed to language utilized by our supreme court and in recent appellate
    court decisions that highlighted such characteristics of permanence—i.e., planning to be together
    permanently and retiring with a new partner, designating the new partner as one’s health care
    power of attorney, and naming her new partner as beneficiary over her will, rather than her
    children—and partnership, such as “join[ing] forces to run a single household, comingl[ing] funds
    and goods, and, at a minimum, look[ing] to one another for financial and material support.”
    (Emphasis omitted.) 
    Id.
     In the end, the Miller court reasoned that “companionship and exclusive
    intimacy” were not enough to carry the day against a lack of evidence relating to formal
    commitment and partnership ventures. Id. ¶¶ 62-63.
    ¶ 161 We find this reasoning persuasive, and, thus, we do not find error in the trial court’s
    ultimate conclusion regarding Julee and Curt’s personal and financial affairs. The court gave
    proper credence to the fact that on a social and emotional level, Julee and Curt had begun to
    integrate their lives with the time they had together. However, when assessing the more “practical
    and economical” hallmarks of a husband-and-wife-like relationship, including showings of
    commitment and mutual permanence, we agree with the court that the partnership is lacking.
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    ¶ 162 We first take notice that, per Curt’s testimony, the two had already separated once during
    the course of their relationship, albeit seemingly in the beginning. To the trial court’s point that
    the couple’s lives were so “neatly separated that they could end their relationship and go their own
    separate ways with nothing more than a final phone call or perhaps a text,” this event demonstrates
    that such a separation had already occurred and there was no such testimony as to how that
    separation affected either of their lives. However, based on the record, we can presume that neither
    party’s home life or finances were affected, nor were their relationships with their family members.
    ¶ 163 Julee also expressly indicated that marriage was not currently in her plans, based on the
    lack of quality time she and Curt have spent together, and although the evidence shows that the
    two try to be together when they can, there is no evidence of a true life spent together where the
    two actively involve themselves with each other’s financial and future plans. We acknowledge that
    there is certainly evidence on the record that the two cook together and that Curt assisted her with
    maintenance work and on some business travels when he is able to. However, in their day-to-day
    existence, their individual lives are very much separate.
    ¶ 164 We also do not find Richard’s contention regarding the “sham” of Curt maintaining his
    residence to be persuasive, and we also reject the notion that the trial court was seeking to add an
    additional burden for him to meet on his petition. Rather, it is clear that the case law suggests that
    courts may take into account whether one party maintained a separate residence but find that the
    party was sufficiently intermingled both personally and financially in the new relationship to
    render the keeping of the other home a sham. See Roofe, 122 Ill. App. 3d at 59 (relationship found
    where maintenance recipient kept her initial residence but rented it out to her daughter who took
    out utilities in her name and moved her furniture into her partner’s residence and contributed to
    half the mortgage); Herrin, 262 Ill. App. 3d at 575 (noting that third party owned another residence
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    for four years, but the home did not have gas, water or heat). Here, the evidence shows that Curt
    has maintained his residence far beyond the time in which he began dating Julee and that his son
    Gavin, who for some time Curt was financially responsible for, began living with him about four
    years prior. Although his lease is month-to-month and Gavin spent some time at Julee’s house for
    what appears to be a practical purpose, Curt is responsible for all such utilities and clearly
    maintains a residence in which himself and another person reside. See Sunday, 354 Ill. App. 3d at
    190 (noting no evidence of abandonment of residence to live with partner).
    ¶ 165 Accordingly, we find the trial court’s assessment of the evidence on this factor to be well-
    reasoned, not arbitrary, and grounded in the record before it. We also believe that many of the
    other Herrin factors sufficiently take into account various aspects of the couple’s personal affairs
    other than financial, and thus this factor was adequately considered as a whole. We agree with the
    court that this was indeed a close call with “lots of gray areas to address,” but given the trial court’s
    primary role in assessing the evidence and witnesses before it, we agree that this factor counsels
    against the finding of a de facto marriage.
    ¶ 166                            5. Whether They Vacation Together
    ¶ 167 Richard argues that the record demonstrates that Curt and Julee always traveled together
    as a couple, notwithstanding whether such trips were for business or leisure, and that there was no
    evidence that they ever travelled separately. Richard also contends that the trial court erred by
    considering business trips as trips taken together, when it was more accurately suited to evaluating
    the interrelationship of their personal affairs. Last, Richard points out that the court did not
    consider trips to South Dakota or Indiana and, thus, failed to properly consider all the evidence
    related to this factor.
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    ¶ 168 Julee points out that the trial court concluded that Julee and Curt’s testimony regarding
    vacations was credible and should be given deference. Further, according to her, the court also
    considered social trips taken together, including time that initially started as a business trip in South
    Dakota and then became personal in nature when the two visited Mount Rushmore.
    ¶ 169 On this factor, similarly to the amount of time spent together, the trial court noted that the
    evidence regarding joint vacations was disputed. Most of the testimony concerned Julee’s business
    trips, which occurred prior to the COVID-19 pandemic. The evidence showed that Curt would
    occasionally travel with Julee on the weekends to assist her on long business trips for the wrestling
    apparel business she operated for about a year. Such trips included South Dakota, West Virginia,
    Michigan, Arkansas, and Missouri. He would also sometimes assist her on more local trips within
    two hours of her home. Julee covered all the business expenses on the trip, including lodging and
    gas, but the pair split meals. Julee testified that Curt helped her with driving because she was
    unable to travel long distances, as her vision at night was poor, which was confirmed by Isabelle’s
    testimony. Curt also helped Julee with setting up her presentations and assisting with the sale of
    merchandise.
    ¶ 170 With regard to leisure trips, the court noted that both Julee and Curt considered the Florida
    trip as such, although both stated that Curt had originally intended to take this trip with his mother,
    despite it being on Julee’s fiftieth birthday. Julee also admitted that she did not pay for the vacation,
    but the record demonstrated that she and Curt stayed at a family member’s home for the trip in
    exchange for maintenance work. Further, at least one of the business trips to South Dakota included
    a stop at Mount Rushmore.
    ¶ 171 The trial court acknowledged that, overall, Curt and Julee travelled together numerous
    times and found that the pair had taken at least two trips together for leisure purposes, specifically
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    to Florida and Mount Rushmore. However, it found Julee and Curt’s testimony regarding their
    trips together to otherwise be credible, in that most of their time together had been for business-
    related purposes. Our review of the record also shows that Julee traveled to visit Curt at least once
    in Indiana for an overnight trip, while he was on a location for work, which appears to be somewhat
    in the middle of being considered a leisure or business trip.
    ¶ 172 We note that the court did not make an express finding as to this factor, but we interpret its
    findings on this issue to be related to its conclusion regarding the nature of the relationship and
    time spent together and, thus, was relatively equivocal. Case law suggests that evidence of multiple
    vacations taken together may lean towards the finding of a de facto relationship, even when it
    includes business trips. See In re Marriage of Andres, 
    2021 IL App (2d) 191146
    , ¶¶ 15, 22 (trial
    court found evidence of cohabitation where maintenance recipient and third party travelled
    together for business and leisure); Herrin, 262 Ill. App. 3d at 577 (de facto relationship where
    parties took vacations together); Sunday, 354 Ill. App. 3d at 192-93 (reversing trial court’s finding
    of a conjugal relationship where, among other bases, evidence showed that the parties did not take
    vacations together); Lambdin, 245 Ill. App. 3d at 804 (no relationship where parties did not take
    vacations together); Sappington, 
    106 Ill. 2d at 466
     (evidence of vacations together established
    sufficient relationship); Aspan, 
    2021 IL App (3d) 190144
    , ¶¶ 10-11, 18, 20 (same); Frasco, 265
    Ill. App. 3d at 176 (same); Walther, 
    2018 IL App (3d) 170289
    , ¶¶ 29, 31 (de facto relationship
    established where evidence of short trips were taken together); Susan, 367 Ill. App. 3d at 930
    (evidence of many trips established a de facto marriage); Nolen, 200 Ill. App. 3d at 1075 (no
    relationship where parties did not travel together unless by necessity); but see Rosche v. Rosche,
    
    163 Ill. App. 3d 308
    , 313-314 (1987) (no relationship, even though parties took trips together).
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    ¶ 173 Here, the record indicates multiple trips, but most were business-related because Julee, as
    confirmed by her daughter and Curt’s testimony, had issues with driving long distances and at
    night. Further, Curt would not usually accompany Julee on shorter, more local trips, and there was
    testimony that she had also travelled on one of these trips with one of her daughter’s ex-boyfriends.
    One of Julee’s leisure trips was taken to Curt’s jobsite, and the Mount Rushmore trip was incidental
    to her business trip. Thus, the evidence shows that only one other joint leisure trip was taken over
    the course of four or so years. This may be explained by Curt’s work schedule, where he was likely
    only able to accompany Julee on her business trips because they occurred on the weekends. As
    such, we agree with the trial court’s implicit finding that although the two are said to have spent a
    good amount of time together, which encompassed such trips, this factor is not necessarily
    compelling in establishing a de facto marriage. Accordingly, we do not find any error.
    ¶ 174                          6. Whether They Spend Holidays Together
    ¶ 175 Finally, as to holidays, Richard contends that the court erred in giving little weight to this
    factor. Richard argues that the record demonstrates that “the level of commitment” between Julee
    and Curt was “so significant, that they do not spend holidays apart.” Specifically, Richard points
    to Isabelle’s testimony that the two spent “all holidays over the past several years” together,
    primarily at Julee’s home, which Richard equates to that of a married couple. On this point, it does
    not appear that Julee challenges any specific argument on this issue, but generally argues that the
    trial court did take into account the fact that the couple spent numerous holidays and events
    together and yet, still concluded based on the totality of the circumstances, that the evidence was
    insufficient to establish a de facto marriage.
    ¶ 176 In its order, the court considered evidence relating to holidays and special events spent
    together, and ultimately found that the two had shared “numerous” experiences both together and
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    with their immediate and extended families. Specifically, the court pointed to the following events:
    (1) May 2018, when Julee attended the high school graduation of Curt’s son, Mason, (2) May
    2019, when Julee attended Mason’s induction ceremony into the United States Navy,
    (3) December 2019, when Julee was present for Mason’s departure for service, and (4) Isabelle’s
    wedding.
    ¶ 177 The court further acknowledged that there had been testimony concerning holidays that
    was “all over the board and difficult to follow,” but, nevertheless, it was clear that the two had
    spent numerous holidays together, such as Easter, Memorial Day, Fourth of July, Thanksgiving,
    and Christmas, all of which were spent at Julee’s residence. Depending on the year, different
    members of their families attended such events, including their own children. The court observed
    that it was also Isabelle’s testimony that Curt had spent more holidays with them than he
    acknowledged on the stand and that every time they were all together, the comingled attendees
    “act[ed] like family.”
    ¶ 178 With regard to Isabelle’s wedding, the court observed that Julee and Curt had each covered
    their own expenses. Curt had also rented a vehicle and did not ride in the limousine with the bride
    and groom, whereas Julee and Richard did. However, Julee and Curt shared a hotel room, Curt
    attended most events and functions, and Curt appeared in many of the photographs throughout the
    weekend. Curt also gave Isabelle $800, which Isabelle considered a contribution to the cost of the
    wedding, while Curt considered it a gift. On this point, we also observe that it was Richard’s
    testimony that the money was a gift from both Julee and Curt.
    ¶ 179 With regard to Mason’s party, the court observed that in mid-February 2022, Julee and
    Curt co-hosted, but most of the attendees were Curt’s relatives, excluding Julee’s daughters and
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    son-in-law. Curt paid for most of the costs of the event, and Julee supplied the venue, soda, and
    water. Julee volunteered to host due to her allergies.
    ¶ 180 Similarly to the factor assessing vacations taken together, courts have found that the
    existence of a de facto marriage may be supported by evidence of a couple celebrating holidays
    and special events together. See Herrin, 262 Ill. App. 3d at 577 (de facto relationship may be found
    where holidays were spent together); Toole, 273 Ill. App. 3d at 612 (exchange of holiday and
    birthday gifts sufficient to satisfy factor); Snow, 322 Ill. App. 3d at 956 (exchange of gifts); Frasco,
    265 Ill. App. 3d at 177 (exchange of gifts and shared holidays and events); Walther, 
    2018 IL App (3d) 170289
    , ¶ 32 (all major holidays spent together); Susan, 367 Ill. App. 3d at 927, 930 (same).
    ¶ 181 Ultimately, we think the court’s conclusion that Julee and Curt had a social and emotional
    relationship also applies to its assessment of the two spending holidays together. A great deal of
    testimony was taken regarding how much time was spent together was during holidays, with Curt
    stating that he had holidays off from his job. There was testimony that some holidays were spent
    apart, but overall, the two did appear to be together on most major holidays and with members of
    their immediate and extended family. Interestingly, no real testimony was taken regarding each
    other’s birthdays, beyond the fact that the Florida trip was taken around Julee’s fiftieth, or
    regarding any gift exchanges on holidays and birthdays. However, there was testimony that Curt
    had contributed, either as assistance or as a gift, to Isabelle’s wedding and that both Julee and Curt
    had also contributed as a couple.
    ¶ 182 However, just as the court found that taking vacations together was not necessarily
    dispositive of the finding of a de facto marriage, we also believe the same to be true here. In our
    view, this factor simply further demonstrates that, in the amount of time the two spent together,
    given that Curt had those dates off from work, they would spent time together during holidays and
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    that Julee and Curt presented themselves as a couple to the public. 14 At best, this evidence again
    goes to how the two spent their time when they were together, and only slightly suggests a finding
    of a de facto relationship.
    ¶ 183           E. Finding of Intimate Relationship, But Not a De Facto Marriage
    ¶ 184 The trial court’s denial of Richard’s petition rested on the fact that, based on the totality of
    the circumstances, Julee and Curt’s relationship was more akin to an intimate dating relationship,
    rather than a de facto marriage. The court agreed that Richard had sufficiently established the
    social and emotional aspects of a long-term, romantic relationship that involved both parties’
    families. However, on balance, it determined that the relationship lacked certain practical and
    economic characteristics, specifically with regard to their otherwise separate lifestyles and
    financial situations, citing In re Marriage of Miller as persuasive to its conclusion. In doing so, the
    court gave less credence to the evidence concerning the amount of time spent together and what
    the couple did during that time, versus what they did not do during that same time, as telling of the
    true nature of the relationship.
    ¶ 185 Given the practical realities of our ever-evolving world and the uniqueness of each
    relationship assessed pursuant to this section of the Act, we do not find this conclusion to be
    unreasonable and actually anticipate such outcomes to become more common over time.
    Ultimately, our review of the trial court’s decision is not based on whether we would come to the
    same conclusion as the court, but whether an “opposite conclusion is clearly evident” or if the
    decision is “unreasonable, arbitrary, or not based on the evidence.” Miller, 2015 IL App (2d)
    14
    Indeed, as noted by some courts, it would seem that the factors relating to “amount of time spent
    together,” “nature of the relationship,” “vacations,” and “holidays” could very well be assessed together.
    See Miller, 
    2015 IL App (2d) 140530
    , ¶ 49.
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    140530, ¶ 40. We agree with the trial court that this was a close call and, thus, not clearly evident.
    We are also mindful that the trial court is in the best position to assess the evidence before it, and
    we cannot say that the court’s ultimate and well-reasoned conclusion is not supported by the
    record. See Lambdin, 245 Ill. App. 3d at 804 (“Although there was sufficient evidence presented
    to grant the petition to terminate, there also was sufficient evidence to deny the petition.”). As
    such, we do not find that the trial court’s denial of the petition was against the manifest weight of
    the evidence and, thus, affirm. 15
    ¶ 186                                    III. CONCLUSION
    ¶ 187 For the reasons stated, we affirm the trial court’s denial of Richard’s petition to terminate
    maintenance payments.
    ¶ 188 Affirmed.
    15
    We note that, in Richard’s request for relief, he also sought retroactive application to the
    termination of maintenance. Having determined that the trial court did not err in its denial of Richard’s
    petition, we need not address this briefly mentioned request for relief.
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    In re Marriage of Edson, 
    2023 IL App (1st) 230236
    Decision Under Review:    Appeal from the Circuit Court of Boone County, No. 2016-D-4;
    the Hon. Ronald A. Barch, Judge, presiding.
    Attorneys                 Richard M. Butera, of Butera Law Offices, P.C., of Rockford, for
    for                       appellant.
    Appellant:
    Attorneys                 James T. Zuba, of Zuba & Associates, P.C., of Rockford, for
    for                       appellee.
    Appellee:
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Document Info

Docket Number: 1-23-0236

Citation Numbers: 2023 IL App (1st) 230236

Filed Date: 6/20/2023

Precedential Status: Precedential

Modified Date: 6/20/2023