In the Interest of Q.G. and W.G., Minor Children , 911 N.W.2d 761 ( 2018 )


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  •                 IN THE SUPREME COURT OF IOWA
    No. 16–2152
    Filed May 4, 2018
    IN THE INTEREST OF Q.G. AND W.G.,
    Minor Children.
    A.P., Mother,
    Appellee,
    B.G., Father,
    Appellant.
    On review from the Iowa Court of Appeals.
    Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Hancock County, Karen
    Kaufman Salic, District Associate Judge.
    Father requests further review of district court order terminating
    his parental rights in two minor children.         DECISION OF COURT OF
    APPEALS VACATED; DISTRICT COURT JUDGMENT REVERSED.
    Grant C. Gangestad of Gourley, Rehkemper & Lindholm, P.L.C.,
    West Des Moines, for appellant.
    Dani L. Eisentrager of Eisentrager Law Firm L.L.P., Eagle Grove,
    for appellee.
    Lynn Collins Seaba of Malloy Law Firm, L.L.P., Goldfield, guardian
    ad litem for minor children.
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    APPEL, Justice.
    In this case, we are called upon to make one of the most difficult
    and consequential decisions we as judges face, namely, whether the
    rights of a parent should be terminated in a private action filed by the
    other parent under Iowa Code chapter 600A (2016). After a hearing on
    termination petitions brought by the mother, A.P., the district court,
    sitting as a juvenile court, entered an order terminating the parental
    rights of B.G., the father of young children, Q.G. and W.G.
    B.G. appealed.    Among other things, B.G. asserted the custody
    provisions of a stipulation in a recent prior dissolution action prevented
    the district court from hearing the termination action. In the alternative,
    B.G. argued the district court could only consider events that occurred
    after the entry of the stipulation in the dissolution action. Further, B.G.
    argues A.P. failed to show that termination was in the best interest of the
    children by clear and convincing evidence.      Finally, B.G. asserts the
    district court erred in admitting certain documents into evidence that
    should have been excluded on hearsay grounds.
    We transferred the case of the court of appeals.        The court of
    appeals affirmed the judgment of the district court. We granted further
    review.
    We allow the decision of the court of appeals on evidentiary issues
    to stand. See In re Marriage of Schenkelberg, 
    824 N.W.2d 481
    , 483 (Iowa
    2012) (“In considering an application for further review, we have
    discretion to review all or part of the issues raised on appeal or in the
    application for further review.”); In re Marriage of Becker, 
    756 N.W.2d 822
    , 824 (Iowa 2008) (same). On the remaining issues, for the reasons
    expressed below, we vacate the decision of the court of appeals and
    reverse the judgment of the district court.
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    I. Factual and Procedural Background.
    Based on our de novo review of the entire record, we find the
    following facts.
    A. Background of the Parties. B.G. graduated from high school
    and attended some college. In his late teens, his mother had concerns
    about his possible suicidal tendencies. While in high school and college,
    he saw doctors and psychologists for depression and was on prescription
    medication for some time.
    B.G. has a history of involvement with drugs. During high school,
    B.G. used marijuana.       B.G. also has alcohol abuse issues and was
    arrested twice for operating a motor vehicle while intoxicated (OWI). B.G.
    admits using methamphetamine sporadically beginning in 2004.
    In 2006, a woman that B.G. had been dating for a short period
    gave birth to a child. B.G. at first questioned whether the child was his.
    Upon learning that he was, in fact, the biological father, in 2008 B.G.
    voluntarily allowed the termination of his parental rights so that a
    stepfather could adopt the child. According to B.G., he did not see why
    he should “throw [himself] into something that was working good at that
    time.”     He testified at the termination hearing that he had made a
    mistake and that he regretted his decision, noting the person who
    adopted his child is no longer part of the child’s life.
    B.G. met A.P. while volunteering at a grade school sporting event
    in the fall of 2007.    They began dating.      After the passage of several
    months, B.G. became suspicious that A.P. had a relationship with
    another man, which, when confronted, A.P. admitted.
    Nonetheless, the relationship between A.P. and B.G. continued.
    During the course of the relationship, A.P. was under stress dealing with
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    the illegal behavior and ultimately the death of her mother.        B.G.’s
    parents “took her in” and treated her as one of the family.
    A.P. and B.G. were married in the fall of 2009. A.P. had a well-
    paying job that she enjoyed, while B.G. had a factory job that he did not
    like.
    Q.G. was born in early 2011.    A.P. took an extended maternity
    leave of several months before returning to work. A.P. and B.G. mutually
    decided B.G. would quit his factory job to stay home and take care of the
    baby.    In the months immediately following A.P.’s return to work, the
    record does not reveal any parenting issues between B.G. and A.P.
    In the fall of 2011, B.G. began seasonal employment outside the
    home. Shortly thereafter, B.G. resumed using methamphetamines and
    ultimately other drugs such as hydrocodone. At the time he began using
    meth, B.G. suspected A.P. was having another affair and began
    distancing himself from Q.G. B.G.’s drug use continued after the birth of
    W.G. in 2013.     The children were sent to daycare so B.G. could use
    methamphetamine during the day at home without the presence of the
    children. In addition to using, B.G. on occasion sold drugs.
    A.P. and B.G. argued over her work commitments, performance of
    housework, and payment of bills. According to A.P., “[i]t was hell in the
    house.” When A.P. returned home from work, B.G. would leave for the
    evening. By October 2014, B.G. had informed his father he could not
    take it anymore and wanted out of the marriage.
    During the marriage, B.G. maintained a gun collection. Included
    in the gun collection was a fully automatic assault rifle, an AK-47, which
    B.G. characterized as a “machine gun.” B.G. also owned an AK-15 with
    various accessories.     B.G. additionally was working on developing
    homemade silencers for his guns.
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    B. Criminal Charges and Guilty Pleas Involving B.G.
    1. December 16, 2014 assault.        On December 16, 2014, the
    tension between the spouses boiled over. Q.G. had a holiday program
    that evening. A.P. arrived home late from work. The spouses fought over
    laundry and unpaid bills.      Nonetheless, A.P. and B.G. attended the
    holiday program, went out to eat with B.G.’s parents and their children,
    and returned home.
    After they arrived home from the event, the argument escalated.
    A.P. decided to get her children into the car and leave the home but B.G.
    refused to allow her to leave.     Q.G. had already fallen asleep in a
    downstairs bedroom but W.G. was in A.P.’s arms. A.P. went to Q.G.’s
    bedroom to assemble clothes so she and the children could leave the
    residence.   When in Q.G.’s room, B.G. pushed A.P. and W.G. to the
    ground and punched the light bulb above them, causing shattered glass
    to fall on A.P. and W.G. B.G. began to strangle A.P., who ultimately was
    able to kick him in the groin and escape his grasp.
    B.G. called his parents, who arrived at the home quickly.        That
    night, B.G. threatened to kill himself, his parents, A.P., and the children.
    B.G.’s mother later told police she was scared for A.P. and the boys that
    night. She also stated she was considering calling 911 but decided not
    to do so because she feared when the police arrived, B.G. would harm
    himself. Ultimately, A.P., Q.G., and W.G. went to B.G.’s parents’ home
    for the evening.
    2. December 26, 2014 assault. Apparently, A.P., Q.G., and W.G.
    returned to the family home following the December 16 events.           The
    family spent Christmas day at B.G.’s parents’ home. When the family
    returned home the following day, an argument ensued. A.P. had some
    work at her office on December 26 and decided that instead of dropping
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    the boys off at the grandparents’ home she would have a sitter look after
    them. B.G. became enraged, threw objects in the kitchen, and strangled
    her multiple times, leaving red marks on her neck. A.P. agreed to take
    the children to the grandparents’ home but stopped at the police station
    to report the assaults of that day and of December 16. She also asked
    law enforcement to walk through the house and remove all weapons.
    Local law enforcement conducted an investigation.           During the
    walk through of the home, law enforcement officers seized a baggie
    containing methamphetamine residue.            When interviewed by law
    enforcement, B.G.’s father stated B.G. “flips his switch and turns into a
    monster.” B.G.’s father further told law enforcement B.G. was going to
    shoot him.
    State authorities arrested B.G. A.P., Q.G., and W.G. checked into
    a safe hotel with the assistance of a crisis intervention center.
    3. State criminal charges: domestic assaults, child endangerment,
    possession of drugs. The state originally charged B.G. with six charges:
    three    felony   counts   of   domestic   abuse   assault,   one   aggravated
    misdemeanor of child endangerment, one count of kidnapping in the
    second degree, and one count of possession of a controlled substance
    (methamphetamine).
    B.G. pled guilty to four charges: two aggravated misdemeanor
    counts of domestic abuse assault, one aggravated misdemeanor count of
    child endangerment, and one serious misdemeanor count of possession
    of a controlled substance. He was sentenced on May 13, 2015, to the
    maximum prison sentence on each of the four counts, to be served
    consecutively, for a total of seven years in prison. The record before the
    district court reveals his tentative discharge date for his state crimes is
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    November 11, 2018, with a possible parole hearing in February 2017 and
    possible release in June 2017. 1
    4. Federal criminal charges: guns and drugs.                   B.G. also faced
    federal criminal charges. Although the original federal indictment was
    not part of the district court record, the plea bargain reveals that of the
    original charges, B.G. pled guilty to three counts of “Unlawful User of a
    Controlled Substance in Possession of a Firearm.”                    See 18 U.S.C.
    § 922(g)(3) (2012).      During the termination hearing, B.G. testified he
    knew he possessed a gun, a fully automatic AK-47, in violation of federal
    law. He further testified the silencers he was trying to make, but had not
    yet completed, would have given rise to federal offenses. According to
    B.G., the federal authorities told him the original federal charges would
    be fully prosecuted unless he pled guilty to the state charges.                B.G.
    contended that without a plea bargain on the state charges he would
    have been looking at up to a forty-year sentence on the federal charges.
    B.G. pled to the four state charges and the three federal counts.
    On January 19, 2016, the federal district court sentenced B.G. to forty-
    two months’ imprisonment, with credit for time served on his state
    charges.
    After sentencing in federal court, B.G. called A.P. He told her the
    sentence was her fault because the federal authorities brought up the
    domestic assaults and he now had a long time, in A.P.’s words, “to think
    about how he could destroy [her] and [her] family.” B.G. admitted he told
    A.P. that he was going to attempt to expose what B.G. claimed was A.P.’s
    personal and professional misconduct and the fact that she “never did
    anything to help [him] get clean.”
    1The   record does not include if or when B.G. was released.
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    C. Postarrest Events.
    1. B.G.’s contact with Q.G. and W.G. Prior to B.G. being turned
    over to federal authorities, B.G. was held in the Hancock County jail. On
    May 15, 2015, a visitation was arranged between B.G., Q.G., and W.G. at
    the jail. B.G. gave the children presents. W.G. was very young, however,
    and could not have received much benefit from the experience. Q.G. was
    older and seemed particularly to enjoy the presents provided by B.G.’s
    parents.   This occasion was the last time B.G. had direct personal
    contact with Q.G. and W.G., who at the time were ages four and one.
    Early in his incarceration, B.G. recorded audio books and signed
    cards for his children.   These materials, however, were apparently not
    provided to the children but were kept by B.G.’s parents.     B.G. wrote
    letters to his parents so there would be “documented proof of just how
    much [he] miss[ed] [Q.G.] and [W.G.].” He received photos of the children
    from his parents.
    After the May 15 visit, periodic phone contact between B.G. and
    the children continued until late fall of 2015. The phone contact tapered
    off during this time, however, as B.G. became frustrated when A.P. began
    to tell him the children could not talk to him because of scheduling
    issues. B.G. stopped calling A.P. to arrange contact with the children in
    November, but instead called his parents when the children were with
    them until early 2016.
    In February 2016, officials at the Iowa Department of Corrections
    advised A.P. that B.G. could not have contact with the children because
    they were registered victims of his crimes. Contact could resume once
    B.G. completed one-half of the recommended treatment. As a result, the
    department suspended B.G.’s contacts with Q.G. and W.G.               The
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    department lifted these restrictions on November 17, 2016, just five days
    prior to the termination hearing at the district court.
    A.P. consulted with medical providers regarding the effect on Q.G.
    and W.G. of contact with their incarcerated father.             In April 2016, a
    licensed social worker counseled against face-to-face visits with B.G.
    while     he   was   incarcerated.     B.G.   did     not    disagree   with   this
    recommendation. A.P. also testified Q.G. had episodes of diarrhea from
    September until December 2014.          Q.G. was examined by physicians,
    including a specialist.       Q.G.’s primary physician diagnosed stress
    induced irritable bowel syndrome. The diarrhea ceased in January 2015
    after Q.C. no longer had contact with B.G. Q.G. had another diarrhea
    incident in May 2015 when a visit was arranged involving B.G. and Q.G.
    at the Hancock County jail. Diarrhea is not a current issue with Q.G.
    2. Relationship between B.G.’s parents and A.P., Q.G., and W.G.
    B.G.’s    parents    wanted   to   continue   their    relationship     with   their
    grandchildren after the events of December 2014. Email records show at
    first the grandparents and A.P. frequently communicated, and A.P.
    arranged opportunities for contact with Q.G. and W.G., including
    overnight visits.    In May 2015, six months after the December 2014
    events, A.P. and the grandparents exchanged emails regarding how to
    facilitate a visit with B.G. and the children.              After that event, the
    relationship between the grandparents and Q.G. and W.G. continued.
    In July 2015, a hearing was held on the state’s request to extend a
    no-contact order prohibiting B.G. from having any contact with A.P.,
    Q.G., and W.G. The district court continued the no-contact order as to
    A.P. but not with regard to the children. The district court noted matters
    related to the children could be considered in the pending divorce action.
    After the hearing, A.P. sent an email to the grandparents stating, “I truly
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    do want you to have the same relationship with the boys.” A month after
    the July hearing, A.P. petitioned the court to cancel the no-contact order
    in order for her to facilitate communication between B.G. and the
    children. The district court cancelled the no-contact order as requested
    by A.P.
    At about the same time, B.G. wrote his parents expressing
    frustration with A.P. He told his parents that if his kids were taken away
    from him, “I’ll have a vendetta with years of inspiration driving me. A lot
    of those feelings won’t be good.”
    By spring of 2016, the relationship between the grandparents,
    A.P., and the children deteriorated. The change in relationship between
    A.P. and the grandparents began to occur shortly after the department
    informed A.P. that B.G. could not have contact with the children. A.P.
    was upset by a comment made by B.G.’s father to Q.G. that “mean
    people” were keeping B.G. from calling them.      A.P. also heard rumors
    that B.G.’s mother told people that A.P. did not adequately help B.G.
    with his drug problem. A.P. also was concerned about a comment made
    by B.G.’s father to Q.G. that his real father was B.G., not J.P., A.P.’s new
    romantic partner.     A.P. began not to respond to requests by the
    grandparents to see the children.
    The grandfather wrote an email to A.P. dated July 25, 2016,
    stating a desire for peace and a desire to rebuild their relationship with
    the children.   The email stated the grandparents visit their son every
    week. Further, the email told A.P.,
    I also know how he is prepared to “bring you down”
    should a “normal” relationship with his sons be denied him.
    He has a lot of ammunition stored on his phone—I’ve seen it.
    I pray that he never feels the need to use it against you, and
    we will continue to preach to him, daily if necessary, not to
    resort to that for revenge.
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    Upon viewing the above email prior to the termination hearing, the
    Hancock County sheriff had some concern B.G. might be a threat to the
    children.   The “bring you down” quote in the grandfather’s email was
    consistent with the statements made by B.G. to A.P. six months earlier
    after the entry of his federal sentence.
    In the fall of 2016, A.P. contacted the Hancock County sheriff’s
    office regarding the activities of the children’s grandfather near their
    daycare center. A.P. asserted the grandfather was stalking the daycare
    center, often driving by multiple times in a single day. On one occasion,
    Q.G. entered the truck of the grandfather. These events did not result in
    any law enforcement action, however.
    3. Dissolution of marriage. A.P. filed for dissolution of marriage in
    January 2015.     In an order entered in May 2016, the district court
    approved a stipulation agreed to by the parties that dissolved the
    marriage, divided the couple’s assets and liabilities, and established
    custody and visitation arrangements.
    Of particular concern in this case is the parties’ stipulation relating
    to custody and visitation. The parties stipulated A.P. would have sole
    legal and physical custody of the children. Further, the parties agreed to
    the following:
    The parties further and specifically agree that phone, mail, e-
    mail,[(offender email)] and visiting between the Respondent
    and the minor children will be considered by the Petitioner
    upon the Respondent being active in recommended
    treatment and/or full or partial completion of such programs
    as required by the Department of Corrections and their
    policy. The parties further agree that (1) if such contact is
    unreasonably withheld, or (2) if/when [B.G.] addresses
    treatment as by DOC policy required or (3) upon release from
    prison, the Court specifically reserves jurisdiction to
    consider modification of custodial/visitation provisions upon
    application by [B.G.] and affirmative demonstration of
    compliance with requirements and the children’s continuing
    best interests.
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    Of particular note in the stipulation, the parties agreed that upon
    release   from     prison,   the   court    reserved   jurisdiction   to   consider
    modification of the custodial and visitation provisions upon application
    by B.G.
    4. A.P.’s new relationship, marriage, and stepfather’s desire to
    adopt. A.P. knew J.P. from high school. In January 2015, J.P. offered to
    move snow for A.P.       Beginning in March, A.P., Q.G., and W.G. began
    living with J.P., with A.P. and J.P. splitting household expenses. J.P. is
    employed with an adequate income.
    Since March 2015, J.P. has been actively involved in the children’s
    lives, engaging in farm activities and snowmobiling with them, reading
    books together, and engaging in play with them. Q.G. and W.G. refer to
    J.P. as “Dad” or “Daddy.” Q.G. and W.G. spend time with J.P.’s parents
    on the farm.
    When depositions were taken in the termination proceeding, A.P.
    and J.P. noted their intention to be married. They were married a few
    days prior to the termination hearing.           J.P. desires to adopt Q.G. and
    W.G. B.G. agrees J.P. is “a fine person to be around [his] children” but
    sees no reason why he cannot also be around the children as the
    biological parent.
    5. B.G.’s prison record. B.G. had a good prison record. He had no
    major disciplinary infractions. He was invited to an awards banquet for
    model prisoners at the Fort Dodge Correctional Facility even though he
    had not resided in the facility for a full year—the usual applicable length-
    of-stay requirement for banquet participation.
    In prison, B.G. participated in various programs. He voluntarily
    completed      a   fathering   class.       He   regularly   attended      Narcotics
    Anonymous, receiving an award for 180 days of perfect attendance. At
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    the time of the termination hearing, B.G. had completed the “Achieving
    Change Through Value-Based Behavior” program, a forty-eight-hour
    program that includes anger management. B.G. had thus complied with
    all of the treatment requirements of the parties’ stipulation in the divorce
    proceeding related to child custody issues.             A minister who met B.G.
    after his arrest and who continued a relationship with B.G. after his
    incarceration developed favorable impressions about “the person B.G.
    had become.”
    B.G. testified at the termination hearing he may be released in
    June 2017.       This date, however, may not include completion of his
    federal sentence and any requirements for residency in a halfway house.
    Upon release, B.G. testified he plans to live with his parents and has
    lined up a job with a local construction contractor. He thus will have a
    stable social and economic environment upon his release from prison.
    D. Termination Proceedings Under Iowa Code Chapter 600A.
    On August 15, 2016, A.P. filed petitions to terminate the parental rights
    of B.G. to Q.G. and W.G. under Iowa Code chapter 600A. A.P. alleged
    three grounds for termination: abandonment, failure to support, and a
    crime against a child. 2
    B.G. resisted. In the district court, he asserted no grounds existed
    for termination and terminating his rights was contrary to the children’s
    best interest.       Additionally, B.G. characterized the termination of
    parental rights as “essentially a modification or change” in the custody
    decree, and there had been no changed circumstances warranting
    2The  termination petitions were filed four days after the district court filed a
    signed copy of the stipulation of the parties related to custody and visitation. The
    parties agreed to the stipulation months earlier, however, and the stipulation was
    approved in the district court order of May 25, 2016.
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    modifying the custody decree of the district court.         It is thus not
    appropriate, he argued, to consider evidence of conduct occurring prior
    to the custody order. The district court appointed a guardian ad litem to
    represent the children.
    A.P. and B.G. presented evidence at the termination hearing. In
    support of the petition, A.P. testified on her own behalf and called the
    Hancock County sheriff as a witness.       B.G. testified in response.   He
    called a high school secretary, a lay minister, a longtime friend and
    godfather of Q.G., and his parents.
    After the close of evidence, the guardian ad litem filed a report with
    the court.   The guardian ad litem recounted that she had interviewed
    Q.G. at home and B.G. by telephone, attended the deposition of A.P., and
    participated in the evidentiary hearing.       Among other things and
    consistent with the testimony at the hearing, the guardian ad litem noted
    that Q.G. had some recollection of B.G. but had bonded with his
    stepfather, whom he referred to as “Dad.” The guardian ad litem urged
    termination of B.G.’s parental rights was in the best interest of the
    children.
    The district court found A.P. proved by clear and convincing
    evidence that grounds for termination existed for abandonment under
    Iowa Code section 600A.8(3) and for a crime against a child under
    section 600A.8(9). Most of the district court opinion addressed whether
    there was clear and convincing evidence termination was in the best
    interest of the children.
    According to the district court, B.G. never contributed significantly
    to the financial costs of supporting the children. Even after the children
    were in daycare, B.G.’s work history was spotty, and his child support
    obligation while incarcerated was set to the minimal amount possible.
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    Further, although B.G. expressed an interest in his children while
    incarcerated, when he was living in the same house he was uninvolved
    with the children.    The court found B.G. did not seek to exercise his
    parental rights while incarcerated in the ways that he was able given the
    incarceration, such as seeking the assistance of the court to reestablish
    phone contact with the children. Additionally, B.G. had not established
    and maintained a place of importance in the children’s lives. The court
    found there was no evidence that B.G. could meet the children’s
    physical,   mental,   and   emotional     needs,   even   after   release from
    incarceration—citing B.G.’s recurrent drug use, his struggles to maintain
    employment, and his decision to consent to the termination of his
    parental rights with another biological child. The court also found that
    J.P. was a supportive father figure in the children’s lives, which weighed
    in favor of termination of B.G.’s parental rights.
    But the district court went into the most detail with respect to
    B.G.’s history with A.P. and his continued animosity toward her and
    denial of responsibility for the assaults. The court emphasized B.G. was
    clearly still enraged with A.P., blaming her for his drug use and
    incarceration. The court also described a few factors that were in B.G.’s
    favor, including his positive prison record, his access to support from
    family and friends, and the positive influence his parents have been in
    their grandchildren’s lives.     However, the district court ultimately
    concluded the termination of B.G.’s parental rights was in the children’s
    best interest.
    B.G. appealed the termination order, and we transferred the case
    to the court of appeals.    The court of appeals held the termination of
    B.G.’s parental rights was in the best interest of the children, among
    other things. B.G. applied for further review, which we granted.
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    II. Standard of Review.
    We review termination proceedings under Iowa Code chapter 600A
    de novo. In re R.K.B., 
    572 N.W.2d 600
    , 601 (Iowa 1998).
    III. Preliminary          Issues     Regarding        Nature     and     Scope      of
    Proceedings.
    A. Introduction.         We first address preliminary issues raised by
    B.G. related to this appeal. B.G. seeks to limit the scope or significance
    of evidence considered in the termination proceeding under interrelated
    but not well-defined theories. First, B.G. asserts the district court could
    consider only evidence after the approval of the stipulation in the parties’
    divorce, which B.G. dates as beginning in May 2016, and the standards
    for modification of a divorce decree provide the proper standard for the
    district court to apply to these limited facts.               Second, B.G. claims it
    would be inappropriate to relitigate issues which B.G. asserts were
    already determined in the divorce proceeding. 3
    B. Application         of     Custody       Modification         Standards        to
    Termination Proceeding. In his briefing, B.G. argues the only evidence
    to be considered in this termination petition is evidence of events that
    occurred after the entry of the divorce decree in the district court. B.G.
    argues that when a district court establishes legal custody rights and
    responsibilities, physical placement, and visitation rights, a subsequent
    application for termination of parental rights “is essentially an application
    3B.G.   phrases this inappropriateness alternatively and at various points
    throughout the appeal and on further review, as whether the district court has the
    “authority” or the “jurisdiction” to hear the matter or to consider facts occurring prior to
    the stipulation. We do not view these as independent arguments, but rather as
    advancing the central premise that it was improper of the district court to decide that
    the best interest of the children required termination of B.G.’s parental rights when
    another district court had already considered the best interest of the children when it
    awarded custody in the dissolution of marriage proceeding.
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    for modification of the original decree.”    B.G. argues that under the
    applicable rules for modification of a divorce decree, there must be a
    change in circumstances not within the contemplation of the district
    court when the original decree was entered. In re Marriage of Vetternack,
    
    334 N.W.2d 761
    , 762 (Iowa 1983).
    A.P. rejects the argument.        A.P. emphasizes the question of
    termination of parental rights is different from determination of custody
    issues in a divorce. A.P. notes, among other things, a district court in a
    divorce proceeding under Iowa Code chapter 598 does not have authority
    to terminate parental rights. A.P. cites Iowa Code section 600A.3, which
    provides “[t]ermination of parental rights shall be accomplished only
    according to the provisions of this chapter.” According to A.P., nothing
    in Iowa Code chapter 600A.3 restricts the evidence to be considered.
    In his reply brief on appeal, B.G. offered a somewhat different
    argument, namely, that the district court does not have exclusive
    jurisdiction of private termination actions. B.G. noted that while Iowa
    Code section 232.61 expressly provides the district court, sitting as a
    juvenile court, with exclusive jurisdiction of termination of parental
    rights cases brought by the state, there is no similar provision in Iowa
    Code chapter 600A.
    The district court in this case, however, did not address these
    issues.   As a result, the issues are not preserved for our review.    See
    Meier v. Senecaut, 
    641 N.W.2d 532
    , 537 (Iowa 2002) (“When a district
    court fails to rule on an issue properly raised by a party, the party who
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    raised the issue must file a motion requesting a ruling in order to
    preserve error for appeal.”). 4
    IV. Termination of Parental Rights Under Iowa Code Chapter
    600A.
    A. Introduction.           Termination proceedings under Iowa Code
    chapter 600A are a two-step process. See Iowa Code §§ 600A.1, .8. In
    the first step, the petitioner seeking termination must first show by clear
    and convincing evidence a threshold event has occurred that opens the
    door for potential termination of parental rights. 
    Id. § 600A.8.
    Once that
    threshold showing has been made, the petitioner next must show, by
    clear and convincing evidence, termination of parental rights is in the
    best interest of the child. 
    R.K.B., 572 N.W.2d at 602
    .
    B. Threshold Determination.                  A.P. alleged termination was
    proper in this case because (1) B.G. had abandoned the children, (2) B.G.
    had been ordered to provide financial support to the children and failed
    to do so without good cause, and (3) B.G. had been imprisoned for a
    crime against a child. See Iowa Code § 600A.8. B.G. does not dispute,
    however, that he was incarcerated for a crime against one of his children.
    See 
    id. § 600A.8(9).
    As a result, A.P. has met the threshold requirement
    4To   the extent B.G. is attempting to challenge the subject matter jurisdiction of
    the district court, we reject the challenge. The district court, sitting as a juvenile court,
    has exclusive jurisdiction over terminations under Iowa Code chapter 600A. In re G.A.,
    
    826 N.W.2d 125
    , 127 (Iowa Ct. App. 2012). We see no reason to depart from that
    ruling.
    In addition, although no party raised the question, we have held that the
    doctrine of judicial estoppel may be raised sua sponte on appeal. See Tyson Foods, Inc.
    v. Hedlund, 
    740 N.W.2d 192
    , 195 (Iowa 2007). In light of our disposition in this case,
    however, it is not necessary to consider whether to raise judicial estoppel on our own
    motion or whether the doctrine should be applied under the facts and circumstances of
    this case.
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    for private termination by clear and convincing evidence. It is thus not
    necessary for us to decide the abandonment or financial support issues.
    C. Best Interest of the Child.
    1. Applicable framework for determining the best interest of the
    child. Iowa Code section 600A.1 provides a lengthy description regarding
    application of the concept of “best interest of the child” in termination
    proceedings. The provision states the best interest of the child “shall be
    the paramount consideration” in interpreting the chapter. 
    Id. § 600A.1.
    Yet, the section further provides the interests of the parents of the child
    “shall be given due consideration.” 
    Id. The best
    interest of the child requires each parent “affirmatively
    assume the duties encompassed by the role of being a parent.”           
    Id. Among other
    things, the court is directed to consider “the fulfillment of
    financial obligations, demonstration of continued interest in the child,
    demonstration of a genuine effort to maintain communication with the
    child, and demonstration of the establishment and maintenance of a
    place of importance in the child’s life.” 
    Id. In addition
    to applying the language of Iowa Code section 600A.1,
    we have also borrowed from Iowa Code section 232.116(2) and (3) to flesh
    out the best-interest-of-the-child test.    In re A.H.B., 
    791 N.W.2d 687
    ,
    690–91 (Iowa 2010).      We consider the child’s “physical, mental, and
    emotional condition and needs” and the “closeness of the parent-child
    relationship.” Iowa Code § 232.116(2)–(3).
    The best-interest-of-the-child test plainly has both backward-
    looking and forward-looking components. We have cited with approval a
    discussion of the court of appeals, which stated,
    We look to the child’s long-range, as well as immediate,
    interests. We consider what the future holds for the child if
    returned to his or her parents. Insight for this determination
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    can be gained from evidence of the parent’s past
    performance, for that performance may be indicative of the
    quality of the future care the parent is capable of providing.
    Our statutory termination provisions are preventative as well
    as remedial. They are designed to prevent probable harm to
    a child.
    
    R.K.B., 572 N.W.2d at 601
    (quoting In re C.M.W., 
    503 N.W.2d 874
    , 875
    (Iowa Ct. App. 1993)).
    2. Discussion. In this case, in considering the best interest of the
    children, there are factors pointing in both directions. While our caselaw
    illuminates how these many factors may affect the balance in
    determining the best interest of the child, we have not adopted a
    formulaic or rule-bound approach. As a result, the caselaw has limited
    utility. Each case must be decided on its own facts.
    There are factors that point toward termination. Certainly B.G.’s
    past conduct gives one pause.        We have stated, for instance, that
    “[i]nsight for this determination [of the child’s long-range best interest]
    can be gained from evidence of the parent’s past performance, for that
    performance may be indicative of the quality of the future care that
    parent is capable of providing.”    In re Dameron, 
    306 N.W.2d 743
    , 745
    (Iowa 1981).
    In this case, B.G. has a history of depression and suicidal ideation
    as a youth, two OWI convictions, and experimentation with meth at the
    age of twenty-four.      Later, he developed an addiction to meth over a
    three-year period during which he was so incapable of providing
    parenting to his children that they were placed in daycare even though
    he was a stay-at-home father. During the period of his drug addiction,
    he possessed powerful weapons including a fully automatic AK-47
    assault rifle and was working on assembling unlawful silencers.
    Ultimately, he pled guilty to four state criminal charges including two
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    counts of domestic assault involving strangulation of his spouse, one
    count    of   child   endangerment,   and   one   count   of   possession   of
    methamphetamines. B.G. also pled guilty to federal weapons charges.
    We also note B.G. has not fully taken responsibility for his actions.
    See In re J.L.W., 
    523 N.W.2d 622
    , 624 (Iowa Ct. App. 1994), overruled on
    other grounds by In re P.L., 
    778 N.W.2d 33
    , 40 (Iowa 2010). He tends to
    deflect responsibility. In the termination hearing, B.G. claimed A.P. kept
    coming after him on December 16 and kicked him in the testicles, which
    caused him to shove back. He claimed he was only trying to prevent A.P.
    from driving off with the kids in the middle of the winter on bad roads.
    B.G. also minimizes the December 26 assault, testifying he and A.P. were
    struggling over a car seat and he pushed her away with his hand slipping
    from her neck to her shoulder. The district court found B.G.’s rendition
    of events not credible. On this point, we agree with the district court.
    Some further minimization occurred after B.G. was sentenced in
    federal court. B.G. seemed to blame A.P. for his predicament because
    the federal prosecutors insisted he plead to the state charges.         With
    respect to his weapons cache, B.G. testified A.P. purchased accessories
    for one of his guns and she bought the tools necessary to work on
    silencers.
    B.G. also in the past has had issues with anger and thoughts of
    revenge that are troubling. In July 2015, he told his parents that if he
    did not have contact with his children, “I’ll have a vendetta with years of
    inspiration driving me. [A lot] of those feelings won’t be good.” When he
    was sentenced in federal court, B.G. told A.P. that he would have time “to
    think about how he could destroy [A.P.] and [A.P.’s] family.” The July
    2016 email from B.G.’s father to A.P. shows that B.G. continued to
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    express that he was prepared “to bring [A.P.] down” if he was not
    restored to a normal relationship with his sons.
    We give weight to the closeness of the parent–child bond. 
    A.H.B., 791 N.W.2d at 691
    .      Here, it is clear that W.G. and B.G. have no
    meaningful bond because of W.G.’s extremely young age and limited
    exposure to B.G. Unlike W.G., Q.G. has some memory of his father. But
    B.G. overstates the quality of his involvement in the lives of the children.
    For the three-year period beginning ten months after the birth of Q.G.,
    B.G. was taking methamphetamines.        In order to avoid entangling the
    children in his drug use, Q.G. and W.G. were placed in daycare rather
    than in the care of their stay-at-home dad.     The record further shows
    when A.P. returned home from daycare with the children, B.G. often left
    the residence.
    Further, once arrested, B.G.’s contact with the children was
    limited to one in-person meeting, periodic phone calls, and for the ten-
    month period prior to the termination hearing, no contact at all.       The
    general rule is that unavailability of a parent due to incarceration is no
    excuse for the lack of a meaningful bond. In re R.L.F., 
    437 N.W.2d 599
    ,
    601–02 (Iowa Ct. App. 1989).
    Another factor to consider is the fact that a stepfather is willing to
    provide for the children’s needs and is willing to adopt the children. See
    In re G.A., 
    826 N.W.2d 125
    , 131 (Iowa Ct. App. 2012). Indeed, in the
    period between March 2015 and the termination hearing in November
    2016, J.P. surely has had a better opportunity to bond with Q.G. and
    W.G. than B.G in the period from fall of 2011, when he began using
    meth, until his arrest in December of 2014.
    Although A.P. claims B.G. does not desire a relationship with his
    children, we do not think the record supports this particular contention.
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    Both A.P. and B.G. came to the reasonable conclusion it would not be a
    good idea for the children to visit B.G. in a prison setting. Immediately
    after his imprisonment, B.G. communicated by phone for a substantial
    period until A.P. appeared to present obstacles to such contact.
    Apparently, A.P.’s seeming evasiveness discouraged B.G. from continuing
    efforts to contact his children, which is to neither parents’ credit.
    Eventually, in the period between February and November 2016, contact
    with the children was cut off by prison policy. B.G. cannot be blamed for
    this development.    We think the record on the whole supports B.G.’s
    fervently stated interest in resuming a relationship with his children
    upon his release from prison.
    There are other aspects of the record that point in favor of B.G.’s
    position. It is undisputed that B.G. has had a good prison record. He
    has not had any major behavioral problems and has completed prison
    courses involving parenting and anger management. He was rewarded
    for exemplary prison behavior by being invited to attend an offender
    banquet recognizing his prison conduct.
    We have recognized that an unresolved, severe, and chronic drug
    addiction can render a parent unfit to raise children. See, e.g., In re A.B.,
    
    815 N.W.2d 764
    , 776 (Iowa 2012); In re J.K., 
    495 N.W.2d 108
    , 112–13
    (Iowa 1993). In the dissolution decree, A.P. and B.G. agreed that contact
    between B.G. and the children would depend upon B.G. being active in
    recommended treatment and full or partial completion of programs
    required by the department of corrections. B.G. has complied with that
    requirement.    In prison, his commitment to dealing with his drug
    problem is reflected in his perfect attendance at Narcotics Anonymous
    sessions for 180 days.      He recognizes that he made poor decisions
    regarding the use of drugs and that his drug usage led to his current
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    predicament. B.G. appears to understand that he is a different person
    when on drugs and that he cannot successfully parent using them.
    Upon his release, he will be subject to parole supervision, including
    periodic drug testing.
    B.G. also has an extended family willing to provide additional
    support for his parenting activities.    See Dale v. Pearson, 
    555 N.W.2d 243
    , 246 (Iowa Ct. App. 1996) (noting family support is important in
    best-interest-of-children decisions).    Our examination of the record
    reveals the grandparents of Q.G. and W.G. are loving, warm-hearted
    people who love their grandchildren but have been forced to deal with the
    extraordinarily difficult life situation posed by having a son addicted to
    methamphetamines.
    Upon release, B.G. plans to live with his parents. Although B.G.
    has a checkered past with respect to employment, he has a job lined up
    with   a   local   construction   company   upon    his   release.    These
    arrangements indicate upon release B.G. will have a solid structure to
    support his reentry into society and to help avoid relapse.
    We also note that shortly before the private termination proceeding
    was filed, the parties agreed to a stipulation that upon B.G.’s release
    from prison, the district court may consider terms and conditions of
    visitation between B.G. and the children.      Although there have been
    some changes between the date the stipulation was signed and the filing
    of the termination petition, the desirability of allowing the recent
    stipulated agreement of the parties to play out before the district court is
    a factor to be considered.
    On balance, we conclude A.P. did not show by clear and convincing
    evidence the best interest of the children will be advanced by termination
    of B.G.’s parental rights. Families come in all shapes and sizes, and the
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    prospect of B.G. having parental rights should not undermine the home
    that A.P. and J.P. have provided the children. It is clear B.G. loves his
    children and strongly desires to continue as their father.       Although
    contact has been quite limited during the past few years due to B.G.’s
    incarceration, the children remain quite young and may benefit from
    years of exposure to their father upon his release from prison.     B.G.’s
    loving, extended family offers the prospect of meaningful support for the
    children.   Although B.G. has a history of serious drug problems and
    domestic violence, B.G. has regularly attended Narcotics Anonymous
    while in prison and understands his past failure as a parent was drug
    related. Upon release, he plans to live with his parents in a supportive
    environment and has lined up a job in construction.
    Under the totality of circumstances, we are not ready to write off
    B.G.’s potential positive contributions to his sons’ lives.   We therefore
    conclude that A.P. has not proved by a clear and convincing
    preponderance of the evidence that B.G.’s parental rights should be
    terminated.   We note, however, that any future relapse of involvement
    with drugs or violence may well tip the balance in any future termination
    action. See In re L.L., 
    459 N.W.2d 489
    , 495 (Iowa 1990) (noting reversion
    into old ways with respect to issues of domestic violence, alcohol, and
    drug use as factor in termination of parental rights).
    V. Conclusion.
    For the above reasons, we vacate the decision of the court of
    appeals and reverse the judgment of the district court.
    DECISION OF COURT OF APPEALS VACATED; DISTRICT
    COURT JUDGMENT REVERSED.
    All justices concur except Hecht, J., who takes no part.