In Re the Marriage of Constance G. Pauscher and Curtis R. Pauscher Upon the Petition of Constance G. Pauscher, and Concerning Curtis R. Pauscher ( 2016 )


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  •                    IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA
    No. 15-1073
    Filed September 14, 2016
    IN RE THE MARRIAGE OF CONSTANCE G. PAUSCHER
    AND CURTIS R. PAUSCHER
    Upon the Petition of
    CONSTANCE G. PAUSCHER,
    Petitioner-Appellant,
    And Concerning
    CURTIS R. PAUSCHER,
    Respondent-Appellee.
    ________________________________________________________________
    Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Polk County, Dustria A. Relph,
    Judge.
    Constance Pauscher appeals the physical care, property valuation, and
    property distribution provisions of the decree dissolving her marriage to Curtis
    Pauscher. AFFIRMED AS MODIFIED AND REMANDED.
    Amanda L. Green of Nading Law Firm, Ankeny, for appellant.
    Alexandra D. Frazier of R.J. Hudson Law Firm, P.C., West Des Moines,
    for appellee.
    Considered by Vaitheswaran, P.J., and Doyle and Mullins, JJ.
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    MULLINS, Judge.
    Constance Pauscher appeals the physical care, property valuation, and
    property distribution provisions of the decree dissolving her marriage to Curtis
    Pauscher. Constance argues the district court erred in granting physical care of
    the parties’ minor children to Curtis, or in the alternative, erred in limiting her
    visitation with the children. Constance further argues the district court erred in
    valuing Curtis’s retirement account at the time of separation rather than at the
    time of trial and erred in failing to award Constance a property settlement. We
    affirm as modified and remand.
    I.    Background Facts and Proceedings
    Constance and Curtis were married in 2005.        They have three minor
    children, born in 2006, 2008, and 2011. Constance is employed as a registered
    nurse in Des Moines, where she works as a critical care nurse three evenings
    per week making $46,000 per year. Constance obtained her associate’s degree
    in nursing in 2008 and has numerous certifications. While attending school,
    Constance also worked part-time and cared for the parties’ children. Curtis is
    employed as a union journeyman pipe insulator and has worked for the same
    union shop since before the parties were married. His earnings are $54,288 per
    year.
    During the marriage, Constance was the primary caregiver for the
    children.    Though Curtis currently works from 7:00 a.m. to 3:30 p.m., he
    previously traveled as part of his job and sometimes would be out of town on
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    assignment for months at a time.1         Prior to separating, the parties resided
    together in Alleman.
    At trial, Constance testified to certain events during which Curtis was
    physically and mentally abusive during the marriage and that, after the death of
    his brother, Curtis started and continued to abuse alcohol. Constance’s father
    also testified that Curtis’s anger and drinking intensified in the months and years
    following his brother’s death.      He testified he saw Curtis intoxicated and
    intervened in disputes between Curtis and Constance, although he never saw
    Curtis commit acts of physical assault against Constance.          He also testified
    Curtis confirmed to him the alleged incidents of abuse. Constance’s father also
    testified—and Curtis and Constance confirmed—that Constance’s father often
    served as a mediator in their marriage.
    Curtis denied any abuse ever occurred, saying “She is saying what
    happened, but she is saying it the wrong way.” As an example, Curtis explained
    that one alleged incident of abuse did include a verbal fight between Constance
    and him, but there was never any physical violence on his part, rather Constance
    had thrown a phone at him. Curtis also denied the alcoholism,2 but admitted he
    “us[ed] alcohol as medicine” following his brother’s death in July 2006. Curtis
    indicated the self-medication lasted for only a few months, and he got better after
    engaging in counseling.     Constance claimed financial difficulties and Curtis’s
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    Both Curtis and Constance agreed Curtis would take these long-distance assignments.
    On one occasion, during a seven-to-eight month assignment, Curtis saw Constance and
    the children approximately every other weekend. Normally, Constance brought the
    children to him.
    2
    When Curtis was twenty, he was charged with operating while intoxicated for which he
    received a deferred judgment and successfully completed probation.
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    alcoholism led to the divorce. Curtis blamed the couple’s financial problems on
    Constance taking the full amount of maternity leave after the birth of each child
    and being unable to keep her job while caring for the children when he was out of
    town.
    In 2010, Constance and the eldest Pauscher child were involved in a
    serious car accident. Constance suffered serious injuries from the accident, for
    which she received a settlement of approximately $100,000, less attorney fees.
    The settlement was spent during the marriage on various items including a
    vacation, paying off Curtis’s truck, purchasing another vehicle, and making
    mortgage payments.
    In June 2013, the parties separated, and the petition for dissolution of the
    marriage was filed. Constance testified that, before leaving the marital home,
    she first asked Curtis to stay with his father and stepmother but he refused. She
    then moved out of the marital home with the children and into her parents’ home
    in Slater. Constance was awarded temporary physical care of the children by
    order regarding temporary matters on July 15, 2013. Constance and the children
    then remained in Slater, where the children attended the local school district,
    which was different from their school system in Alleman.
    The record reflects that, as the primary caregiver to the children,
    Constance kept Curtis informed of the children’s activities and appointments
    through a jointly-shared, on-line calendar. Curtis testified Constance sent him
    emails about the children, she made sure he was on the schools’ weekly emails,
    and he had access to the school information. Curtis stated Constance had done
    a good job of keeping him informed of the children’s activities and events. During
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    the separation, Constance allowed Curtis time with the children in addition to that
    allocated under the temporary order.
    However, the communication between Curtis and Constance has been
    strained and sometimes hostile. Part of the tension between the parties during
    the separation arose from the baptism of their eldest child. While married, all of
    the children received blessings from the church Constance attends. In 2014,
    Constance allowed, over Curtis’s objections, the eldest child to choose to be
    baptized. The parties agree the child was baptized at a time that conforms with
    the standard practice of Constance’s church. Curtis attended the baptism.
    Both parties currently reside with their new significant others. Curtis lives
    in Ankeny with his girlfriend and her two children in a home the girlfriend owns.
    Constance lives in a rental home in Altoona with her fiancé, Jeffrey Glaspie.
    Constance moved to Altoona in February 2015, at which time the school-aged
    children changed school systems to the local school district.       Curtis did not
    approve of moving the children mid-school year or before the divorce
    proceedings were complete. At all times, the school-aged Pauscher children
    have done well in school.
    Part of the tension between the parties, to which the district court gave
    significant consideration, is Constance’s relationship with Glaspie. Curtis has
    expressed his concerns about Glaspie to Constance, as Glaspie has picked the
    children up from school and monitored the children on the nights Constance is
    working.   Glaspie has three previous domestic abuse charges, occurring
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    between 1993 and 2004.3 Glaspie is employed by an information technology
    department and has five children. He and his ex-wife, Rhonda Connett, have
    four children together.
    Connett has physical care of the children, and Glaspie has visitation.
    Connett and Glaspie have a very contentious relationship, and, at the time of
    trial, were seeking a modification of their divorce decree, with Glaspie seeking
    contempt charges against Connett. Connett testified at trial about the domestic
    abuse that allegedly occurred in their marriage and a suicide attempt by Glaspie,
    the latter of which occurred in 2011.          She also testified that Constance and
    Glaspie had befriended Connett’s current husband’s ex-wife and, through that
    friendship, were causing issues.
    At the time of trial, Glaspie had assault charges pending against him, was
    subject to a no-contact order with his twelve-year-old son, and had been placed
    upon the child abuse registry for an incident occurring at the boy’s school.
    Arising from this incident, Glaspie had a founded Iowa Department of Human
    Services (DHS) claim for denial of critical care–failure to provide proper
    supervision, which Glaspie was appealing. DHS did not confirm the charge of
    physical abuse.4
    3
    The record indicates Glaspie also had a theft charge.
    4
    Limited record was made on this incident at trial. According to Constance’s testimony,
    Glaspie had gone to his son’s school to pick him up. He could not find his son, and his
    son was not answering his phone. When he found his son, he grounded him from his
    basketball game the following day. Connett arrived and said Glaspie could not ground
    their son. The boy went behind Connett and indicated he did not want to go with
    Glaspie. Glaspie grabbed the boy by the arm to escort him toward the door. The boy
    braced himself against the door, and Glaspie ran into him. The boy started throwing
    elbows and kicked Glaspie in the groin; Glaspie then bear-hugged the boy in an attempt
    to subdue his struggles.
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    At trial, evidence was also presented regarding a second alleged incident
    between Glaspie and his twelve-year-old son that had been reported by Connett.
    The accusations were investigated by DHS and the police. According to police
    reports entered into evidence after the trial, dated April 10 and 14, 2015, both
    DHS and the police believed Connett “exaggerated what [had] occurred . . . in an
    attempt to get [Glaspie] into trouble in a criminal matter.” The police report stated
    “[n]one of the injuries were consistent with the facts in th[e] case” and, instead,
    the facts showed the injuries had been caused to try to get Glaspie arrested.
    The police officer further noted Connett knew some of the injuries on the child
    were caused by the child—or from other unrelated accidents—but did not share
    this fact with the police. When investigating, DHS spoke with a treating physician
    who contradicted the story provided by Connett. The police report indicates the
    charge was “unfounded” and a “false report” and states “this case is closed.”
    After Glaspie became involved with Constance, Connett reached out to
    Curtis and his girlfriend in October 2013.      At trial, Curtis admitted he knew
    Connett did not have a good relationship with Glaspie and Constance; he had
    become good friends with Connett; he spent time with Connett socially a couple
    of times; and, though first denying his relationship with Connett could cause
    issues with Constance, he later admitted he thinks his relationship with Connett
    “adds fuel to the fire” regarding his disputes with Constance. Curtis testified he is
    aware Connett has multiple founded DHS reports against her, but indicated he
    might allow his children to be in her charge.
    Constance and Connett also have a contentious relationship. Constance
    has been charged with harassment for a particularly inappropriate and offensive
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    email she sent to Connett after being warned by the police not to contact
    Connett. Constance has also brought her children along to custody exchanges
    between Connett and Glaspie of their four children. In some of the exchanges,
    Glaspie called the police for their intervention.
    At trial, Curtis also expressed concern about the way in which Constance
    and Glaspie discipline the children and Constance’s past refusal to allow the
    children to call him when in her care. Curtis’s step-sister also testified that she
    disapproved of the discipline Constance used with the children while Constance
    and Curtis were married but she had not seen Constance since the separation.
    Constance’s father also testified to an incident where he believed Curtis was
    aggressive toward one of the children while intoxicated.
    Trial commenced on April 1, 2015. On May 22, 2015, the district court
    entered the decree of dissolution of marriage, awarding physical care to Curtis.
    On June 1, 2015, Constance filed a motion for stay and motion to enlarge or
    amend, the latter of which the district court denied without a hearing and the
    former of which the Iowa Supreme Court denied on July 9, 2015. Constance
    appeals.
    II.    Scope and Standard of Review
    We review dissolution cases, which are tried in equity, de novo. Iowa R.
    App. P. 6.907; In re Marriage of Schenkelberg, 
    824 N.W.2d 481
    , 483-84 (Iowa
    2012). While we give weight to the factual findings of the district court, especially
    when considering the credibility of witnesses, we are not bound by them. Iowa
    R. App. P. 6.904(3)(g). “Precedent is of little value as our determination must
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    depend upon the facts of the particular case.” In re Marriage of Fennelly, 
    737 N.W.2d 97
    , 100 (Iowa 2007) (citation omitted).
    III.   Analysis5
    A.      Physical Care
    Where child custody and physical care are at issue in marriage dissolution
    cases, the primary consideration is the best interests of the children. Iowa R.
    App. P. 6.904(3)(o). We look to the factors listed in Iowa Code section 598.41(3)
    (2013): (1) whether each parent would be a suitable custodian for the children;
    (2) whether the psychological and emotional needs and development of the
    children will suffer due to lack of active contact with and attention from both
    parents; (3) whether the parents can communicate with each other regarding the
    children’s needs; (4) whether both parents have actively cared for the children
    before and since the separation; (5) whether each parent can support the other
    parent’s relationship with the children; (6) whether the custody arrangement is in
    accord with the children’s wishes or whether the children have strong opposition,
    taking into consideration each child’s age and maturity; (7) whether one or both
    the parents agree or are opposed to joint custody; (8) the geographic proximity of
    the parents; (9) whether the safety of the children, other children, or other parent
    will be jeopardized; (10) whether a history of domestic violence exists; and
    (11) whether either parent has allowed a sex offender access to the children. We
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    In his brief, Curtis alleges Constance failed to preserve error on the admissibility of
    certain evidence. On appeal, Constance’s challenge is not to the admissibility of
    evidence but the weight the district court granted that evidence; thus, error was
    preserved.
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    also look at the factors announced in In re Marriage of Winter, 
    223 N.W.2d 165
    ,
    166-67 (Iowa 1974):
    (1) The characteristics of each child, including age, maturity,
    mental and physical health.
    (2) The emotional, social, moral, material, and educational
    needs of the child.
    (3) The characteristics of each parent, including age,
    character, stability, mental and physical health.
    (4) The capacity and interest of each parent to provide for
    the emotional, social, moral, material, and educational needs of the
    child.
    (5) The interpersonal relationship between the child and
    each parent.
    (6) The interpersonal relationship between the child and its
    siblings.
    (7) The effect on the child of continuing or disrupting an
    existing custodial status.
    (8) The nature of each proposed environment, including its
    stability or wholesomeness.
    (9) The preference of the child, if the child is of sufficient age
    and maturity.
    (10) The report and recommendation of the attorney for the
    child or other independent investigator.
    (11) Available alternatives.
    (12) Any other relevant matter the evidence in a particular
    case may disclose.
    Also relevant to this decision are the factors of continuity, stability,
    communication, and approximation. See In re Marriage of Hansen, 
    733 N.W.2d 683
    , 700 (Iowa 2007). Not all factors are given equal consideration, and the
    weight attributed to each factor depends on the specific facts and circumstances
    of each case. See In re Marriage of Williams, 
    589 N.W.2d 759
    , 761 (Iowa Ct.
    App. 1998).
    At the conclusion of the trial, the district court told the parties:
    I do want both of you [Pauschers] to know, too, that this is going to
    be a very tough decision for me. This is not a slam-dunk for either
    one of you. This is really probably the most difficult custody case I
    have had yet. There are troubling things about this.
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    In its decree, the district court focused on the relationship Constance has
    with Glaspie. See generally In re Marriage of Decker, 
    666 N.W.2d 175
    , 179
    (Iowa Ct. App. 2003) (noting “if a parent seeks to establish a home with another
    adult, that adult’s background and his or her relationship with the children
    becomes a significant factor in a custody dispute”).    The court did not make
    specific credibility findings, but the tone of the opinion in several locations
    demonstrated a greater reliance on the testimony of Curtis and the evidence in
    support of his contentions. The district court clearly held Constance primarily
    responsible for the negative tone of communications between the parties
    concerning the children but failed to consider the open communication Curtis
    admitted Constance maintained regarding the children’s activities, schooling, and
    appointments. The district court also did not believe Constance’s testimony that
    Curtis is an angry person who abuses alcohol. The district court impliedly found
    that Constance downplayed Glaspie’s history of troubling behaviors and violent
    tendencies and overplayed allegations of Curtis’s abusive behaviors. The district
    court was also concerned about Constance’s troubling relationship with Connett
    and the fact Constance allowed the Pauscher children to be exposed to that
    conflict, while implicitly blaming Constance for all the troubles associated with
    that relationship. The court contrasted those facts with positive findings about
    Curtis’s girlfriend, that she is a positive role model who has remained above the
    fray of the conflict between Constance and Curtis, while ignoring the fact that
    Curtis and his girlfriend had become friends with Connett—facts that clearly
    fueled the flames of those problems.
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    The district court was also critical of Constance enrolling the children in a
    different school district after the parties’ separation without having discussed it
    with Curtis first. Our review of the record shows the petition for dissolution of
    marriage was filed on June 13, 2013. Around that time, Constance asked Curtis
    to move out of the house and live with his father and stepmother. He refused.
    So, she moved with the children into her parents’ home in Slater. In July she
    was awarded temporary physical care and enrolled the children in the local
    school district where she and the children were living. We cannot find fault with
    that decision. Also, Curtis admits she informed him where they were enrolled
    and gave the school contact information for Curtis including his email address so
    he had access to school information concerning the children.
    Aside from the analysis of the factor concerning Constance’s relationship
    with Glaspie, and some references to communication, the decree does not
    disclose analysis of the other factors we consider applicable. There are factual
    findings that implicate those factors but provide no analysis or weighing as
    between the parties. The court obviously did not like Constance or some of the
    decisions she made. “Care must be taken, however, to distinguish between
    likeability of the witness and credibility: credibility and likeability do not
    necessarily correlate.” In re P.C., No. 16-0893, __ WL __, at *__ (Iowa Ct. App.
    Aug. 17, 2016) (Mullins, J., specially concurring); see also Iowa Civ. Jury
    Instructions 100.9. Ultimately, we “must decide in whose custody the long-range
    best interest of the children will be better served.” In re Marriage of Weidner, 
    338 N.W.2d 351
    , 359 (Iowa 1983).
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    First, we note that, as the district court found, both parties are very
    capable of caring for the day-to-day material needs of their children.          Both
    parents are gainfully employed and trained in their respective fields. Each parent
    is a suitable custodian, capable of providing for the emotional, social, moral,
    material, and educational needs of the children.
    The record reflects that Constance has been, throughout the life of these
    three children, their primary caregiver. See Hansen, 
    733 N.W.2d at 697
     (noting
    “the caregiving of parents in the post-divorce world should be in rough proportion
    to that which predated the dissolution”). In marriage, Constance cared for the
    children while Curtis was gone for months at a time on assignments earning
    much-needed financial support for the family. During the prolonged separation
    leading to this dissolution, Constance has had physical care, with Curtis actively
    engaging in the visitation available to him.
    It is apparent from the testimony and evidence presented that the children
    thrived while in Constance’s physical care. See 
    id.
     (“[S]uccessful caregiving by
    one spouse in the past is a strong predictor that future care of the children will be
    of the same quality.”). The school-aged children continued to do well in school
    and even received special honors from their school for their performances. The
    concepts of continuity, stability and approximation from Hansen clearly favor
    Constance. See id.; see also 
    Iowa Code § 598.41
    (3)-(4); Winter, 
    223 N.W.2d at 166-67
     (factors 2 and 4).
    At trial, Curtis admitted Constance had allowed him visits with the children
    in excess of those allowed under the temporary order. Constance indicated that,
    were she given physical care, she would ask the court to increase the amount of
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    visitation Curtis was receiving with the children. Curtis initially indicated he would
    recommend liberal visitation for Constance, but subsequently requested minimal
    visitation based on Constance’s involvement with Glaspie.
    The record also reflects that, while in Constance’s care, the parties have
    been able to successfully communicate about the children’s schedules and
    activities. See In re Marriage of Clark, No. 12-2192, 
    2013 WL 3291834
    , at *4
    (Iowa Ct. App. June 26, 2013) (“A significant factor in the physical care
    determination is the ability of each parent to communicate effectively with the
    other about the needs of their children.”). Constance created a calendar to keep
    Curtis notified of all events, signed Curtis up to receive school communications,
    and has generally kept Curtis apprised on matters concerning the children.
    While    the   record   also   reflects   the   parties   have    had    contentious
    communications—and the district court made findings clearly placing much of
    that responsibility on Constance—this has not prevented the parties from
    discussing the needs of their children. We determine communication as a factor
    is neutral as between the parties.
    The record also reflects that both parties have engaged in behaviors that
    have antagonized the situation between them. Constance has verbally engaged
    Glaspie’s ex-wife, Connett, resulting in harassment charges against her. Post-
    separation, Curtis and his girlfriend have created a friendship with Glaspie’s ex-
    wife, which he admitted at trial “adds fuel to the fire” regarding his disputes with
    Constance. Like the district court, we find Constance’s conflicts with Connett
    disturbing, but question whether all the blame rests on Constance. And while we
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    agree Constance should avoid allowing the children to witness the conflicts with
    Connett, we do not consider that circumstance a deciding factor.
    At trial, Constance made certain allegations regarding Curtis’s physical
    and emotional actions toward her. These allegations, based on their lack of
    substantiation beyond Constance’s father’s testimony, were given little weight by
    the district court.
    While we are cognizant of the district court’s concerns regarding Glaspie’s
    past criminal record—including his three convictions for domestic abuse, which
    are a decade to two decades old—we are concerned the district court seemingly
    hinged the entire custody decision on Constance’s decision to have a
    relationship with Glaspie. See generally Decker, 
    666 N.W.2d at 179
     (finding “the
    numerous charges [against the mother’s] companion . . . most of which are three
    to five years old” did “not preclude [the mother] from receiving primary care”).
    The record reflects a history of issues between Glaspie and his ex-wife, which
    now involve their twelve-year-old child, but the record reveals no concerns
    regarding Glaspie’s other children. More importantly, the record reflects that no
    allegations have been made—and no investigations have been instituted—with
    regard to the Pauscher children or Constance.
    While we understand the concerns voiced by Curtis concerning Glaspie’s
    history, which were embraced by the district court, that is but one factor to be
    considered. We do not find the record supports a determination there is such a
    risk of harm to the Pauscher children as to outweigh the other factors that were
    not addressed by the district court in its decree, including those of approximation,
    continuity, and stability; the fact the children have thrived when in the mother’s
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    physical care; the fact Constance has supported Curtis’s contact with the
    children; and Curtis’s admission Constance ensures his access to information
    regarding the children’s activities, schooling, and appointments.
    As we consider all the applicable factors for physical-care determinations
    set forth by our legislature and in our case law, we disagree with the district
    court’s conclusion and find the long-term best interests of the children are best
    served by an award of physical care to Constance.
    When one party has been awarded physical care, the other parent should
    receive visitation that assures the children “the opportunity for the maximum
    continued physical and emotional contact with both parents.”                 
    Iowa Code § 598.41
    (1)(a). We must also balance the practicalities of day-to-day life. We
    determine Curtis shall have visitation with the children every Tuesday from
    4:30 p.m. to 8:00 p.m.; on Thursdays from 4:30 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. on weeks when
    he does not have weekend visitation; and weekend visitation every other
    weekend, starting on Thursday at 6 p.m. and ending on Sunday at 6 p.m. The
    other visitation provisions remain as ordered by the district court.
    B.     Retirement Assets
    Constance contends the district court erred in valuing the parties’
    retirement assets as of the date of separation.6 As a general rule, “[t]he value of
    the assets . . . should be determined as of the date of trial.” In re Marriage of
    Driscoll, 
    563 N.W.2d 640
    , 642 (Iowa Ct. App. 1997). The district court provided
    6
    In his brief, Curtis alleges Constance failed to preserve error on this issue because she
    did not raise it in her motion to enlarge or amend. This dispute was clearly before the
    district court at the time of trial and was raised by Constance in her motion to enlarge or
    amend. We find error was preserved.
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    no explanation for its deviation from this rule, beyond noting that the parties did
    not share expenses or financial planning during their separation and that the
    parties have similar incomes. While “[t]here may be occasions when the trial
    date is not appropriate to determine values,” 
    id.,
     this is not one of those
    circumstances. We find the parties’ retirement assets should have been valued
    as of the date of trial.
    C.      Property Distribution7
    Constance requests she be awarded $17,000 as a property settlement. In
    matters of property distribution, we are guided by Iowa Code section 598.21.
    The parties in a dissolution action “are entitled to a just and equitable share of
    the property accumulated through their joint efforts.” In re Marriage of O’Rourke,
    
    547 N.W.2d 864
    , 865 (Iowa Ct. App. 1996). Iowa law does not require an equal
    division, but rather “what is fair and equitable in each circumstance.”            In re
    Marriage of Campbell, 
    623 N.W.2d 585
    , 586 (Iowa Ct. App. 2001).
    At trial, the district court made the following distribution: Curtis was
    awarded the marital home that was in foreclosure; each party was awarded his or
    her own savings and checking account; each party was awarded the vehicle
    registered in his or her individual name; each party was awarded the household
    contents already in his or her possession, except Constance was given the
    washer and dryer held by Curtis; the retirement assets were divided pursuant to
    In re Marriage of Benson, 
    545 N.W.2d 252
     (Iowa 1996); each party was
    7
    Again, Curtis raises error preservation. Again, this matter was clearly disputed by the
    parties at trial and resolved by the district court’s order. We find error was preserved.
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    responsible for his or her own student loans; and each party was responsible for
    whatever debt was held in his or her name.
    Constance claims the district court erred in its consideration of the
    equitable distribution of the property.        First, she contends the district court
    improperly concluded that, after the parties separated, “Curtis attempted to catch
    up with the mortgage payments with no assistance from Constance, even though
    she was living rent-free at her parents’ house.”           The record demonstrates
    Constance left the marital home in July 2013, Curtis made partial payments until
    February 2014, and Curtis ceased making any payments since that time. The
    record does not address whether Constance paid rent while living with her
    parents.     Regardless, the property is in foreclosure, and Curtis has been
    assigned any debt or expense resulting from that foreclosure.
    Second, Constance notes Curtis sold certain marital assets without her
    approval, despite an order to preserve assets. At trial, Curtis admitted he had
    sold a refrigerator, a microwave, and a stove between December 2014 and
    January 2015 without telling Constance, making approximately $250 on those
    sales.     Curtis indicated he believed he could sell the property because
    Constance had provided a list of the items she wanted from the marital property
    and these items were not on the list. Curtis also sold a dishwasher he had
    received during the marriage as a gift from his parents and the children’s swing
    set for $75.8 While it is clear Curtis disposed of certain assets in violation of the
    8
    Curtis also traded in a truck—the loan for which was paid off by Constance with the
    money she received from her accident settlement—for a Buick Rainier in July 2015, after
    the order to preserve assets was entered in June 2013. Curtis subsequently sold the
    Buick Rainier for $3000, which he used to pay his counsel.
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    order to preserve, Constance also received property from the marital home prior
    to trial and has failed to provide any evidence of the value of those items. On the
    record made by the parties, we are unable to determine if the division of the
    assets was unequitable.
    Third, Constance contends she left the marriage with considerably more
    debt than Curtis: Constance having approximately $10,000 in a car loan, $17,000
    in potential unsubrogated medical debt, $60,000 in student loans, and $31,000 in
    other debts; and Curtis having approximately $5000 in credit card debt, $9000 in
    a car loan, and the mortgage in foreclosure. Again, beyond the medical debt
    addressed below, Constance has failed to provide any demonstration of how the
    debt could be more equitably distributed.
    In its order, the district court determined Constance was not entitled to any
    reimbursement for the proceeds she received from an automobile accident, the
    entirety of which was spent during the course of the marriage. While we agree
    the proceeds were marital sums for which Constance should not receive
    reimbursement, the parties agreed a possible subrogation claim remained and
    the parties should each bear half of the cost of whatever claim is brought, if any.
    We therefore modify the decree to provide that each party will bear half of any
    subrogated amount from that automobile accident. The property distribution is
    otherwise affirmed.
    D.      Appellate Attorney Fees
    Constance requests appellate attorney fees. “Appellate attorney fees are
    not a matter of right, but rather rest in this court’s sole discretion.” In re Marriage
    of Okland, 
    699 N.W.2d 260
    , 270 (Iowa 2005). In determining whether to award
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    attorney fees, we consider “the needs of the party seeking the award, the ability
    of the other party to pay, and the relative merits of the appeal.” 
    Id.
     Having
    considered these factors, we determine the parties shall pay their respective
    attorney fees. Costs shall be assessed one-half to each party.
    IV.   Conclusion
    For the foregoing reasons, we conclude physical care should have been
    placed with Constance. We modify the visitation schedule as set forth above.
    We also modify the date for valuation of the parties’ retirement assets to the date
    of trial. We further modify the decree to provide that each party will bear half of
    any subrogated amount resulting from Constance’s 2010 automobile accident;
    we do not otherwise disturb the property distribution.         We remand for a
    determination of child support consistent with this opinion along with other related
    financial support matters including, but not limited to, medical expenses and tax
    returns.
    AFFIRMED AS MODIFIED AND REMANDED.