In re the Marriage of Cickavage ( 2022 )


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  •                     IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF IOWA
    No. 21-1492
    Filed May 11, 2022
    IN RE THE MARRIAGE OF SARA LYNN CICKAVAGE
    AND JESSE QUANAH CICKAVAGE
    Upon the Petition of
    SARA LYNN CICKAVAGE, n/k/a SARA LYNN JARVIS,
    Petitioner-Appellee,
    And Concerning
    JESSE QUANAH CICKAVAGE,
    Respondent-Appellant.
    ________________________________________________________________
    Appeal from the Iowa District Court for Butler County, Christopher C. Foy,
    Judge.
    A father appeals from a writ of injunction, modification of visitation, and
    denial of a modification of physical care. AFFIRMED AND REMANDED WITH
    INSTRUCTION.
    Jesse Q. Cickavage, New Hartford, self-represented appellant.
    John J. Wood of Beecher, Field, Walker, Morris, Hoffman & Johnson, P.C.,
    Waterloo, for appellee.
    Considered by Greer, P.J., Ahlers, J., and Scott, S.J.*
    *Senior judge assigned by order pursuant to Iowa Code section 602.9206
    (2022).
    GREER, Presiding Judge.
    In this appeal, Jesse Cickavage contests the district court’s modification of
    the dissolution decree and the permanent injunction issued against him. To lay
    out the background, Sara Jarvis (formerly known as Sara Cickavage) and Jesse
    were married in 2014. They lived in Sara’s hometown, Fargo, North Dakota, and
    together had two children born in 2011 and 2015. After Jesse accepted a job in
    2016, the family moved to Iowa where their third child was born in 2017.
    As the relationship crumbled, Sara petitioned to dissolve the marriage in
    2019. During the dissolution proceedings, Sara was granted a protective order
    against Jesse under Iowa Code chapter 236 (2019) after he assaulted her during
    two separate arguments in early 2019. Sara considered moving back home to
    North Dakota, but she decided to remain in Iowa to attempt to peacefully co-parent.
    The two dissolved their marriage by stipulated agreement that August, which the
    court confirmed. The agreement gave Sara physical care, gave Jesse and Sara
    joint legal custody, established a visitation schedule for Jesse, and directed Jesse
    to pay child support.    As Sara had an established problem with alcohol, the
    agreement stated Sara would not consume alcohol while the children were in her
    care.
    Within a couple of months, Jesse sought to hold Sara in contempt of the
    dissolution decree for a variety of complaints pertaining to personal property, real
    property, and medical expenses. The court ordered mediation; as a result, in
    exchange for Jesse dropping the contempt order, Sara lifted the protective order.
    As time went on, Sara wanted to move back home to North Dakota where
    she felt she had a stronger support system. She approached Jesse with the idea;
    by her account, he responded that she could move with the children if she agreed
    to a joint physical care arrangement—at least on paper—so he no longer had to
    pay child support.    As this was not a tenable financial option for Sara, she
    petitioned for modification of the custody agreement in July 2020. Her proposed
    modification plan would give Jesse about the same amount of overnight visits as
    he was previously guaranteed.
    Within weeks of Sara’s modification filing, plans came to a screeching halt.
    While intoxicated, Sara backed her car into a light pole; her middle child was in the
    vehicle with her and the other two children were left home unsupervised. She was
    arrested and charged with operating while intoxicated (OWI) and three counts of
    child endangerment. The Iowa Department of Human Services (DHS) opened a
    child-abuse investigation and established a safety plan. Upon the department’s
    recommendation, Sara placed the children with Jesse until it was determined safe
    to return them to her care.
    Jesse filed an application for emergency relief seeking to gain physical care
    of the children. He also sought the suspension of his child-support payments as
    well as appropriate payments from Sara. At the hearing, Sara acknowledged that
    she had an alcohol problem.       Upon her release from jail, Sara completed a
    substance-abuse evaluation, which recommended outpatient treatment.             She
    started treatment and met weekly with a counselor, and she saw a psychiatrist to
    adjust her mental-health medications.
    Ultimately, the court determined DHS had appropriately managed the
    situation and ensured the immediate safety of the children, which made a formal
    change to the children’s physical care unnecessary and against their best
    interests. And, within ninety days of being placed with Jesse, DHS determined the
    children could be returned to Sara. She had maintained her sobriety and, despite
    completing her treatment, she voluntarily remained in counseling.
    The day before the court denied Jesse’s petition for emergency relief, Jesse
    filed an answer and counterclaim to Sara’s modification petition. The counterclaim,
    similar to the application for emergency relief filed two weeks earlier, focused on
    seeking a modification of the physical care arrangement. More than a month later,
    Jesse applied for an entry of default judgment, asserting his counterclaim had gone
    unanswered. Sara responded, stating Jesse had “engaged in a practice of filing
    frivolous and inflammatory pleadings with the Court which appear to be designed,
    in part, to cause [Sara] to incur significant attorney fees . . . .” She also, however,
    responded to the counterclaim, stating she was complying with DHS and remained
    sober. The court explained that if Sara ever was in default, she had responded
    and so the pending default application should be denied. Jesse applied for an
    interlocutory appeal, which our supreme court denied.
    The communication between Sara and Jesse continued to deteriorate,
    though; so in January 2021, Sara petitioned for a temporary injunction. The court
    granted the petition, which prevented Jesse from “[t]hreatening, assaulting,
    stalking, attacking, harassing, or otherwise contacting [Sara] in any manner either
    directly or through third-persons anywhere within the State of Iowa” or
    “[c]ommunicating with or contacting [Sara] in person, in writing, or through third-
    persons.” The injunction did not affect Jesse’s visitation and allowed for limited
    communication pertaining to the children.
    Pursuant to Iowa Rule of Civil Procedure 1.1509 (2021), Jesse moved to
    dissolve the temporary injunction and the court held a hearing to determine
    whether to dissolve, vacate, or modify it. Sara testified at the hearing that Jesse
    repeatedly threatened to file contempt actions against her, sent people to watch
    her home when he thought she had taken the children out of state, and showed up
    at her door to “serve” her papers while videotaping her. At a doctor appointment
    for one of the children, when COVID-19 restrictions allowed for only one parent in
    the examination room, Jesse made a scene that led to the receptionist calling the
    police. Overall, Sara maintained that even seeing a text message from Jesse on
    her phone caused her great stress and anxiety. In the week that the temporary
    injunction had been in place, she testified, she felt far calmer.
    At the temporary injunction hearing, Jesse, appearing pro se, began
    questioning Sara, asking if messages she had sent him “were legitimate” and
    arguing her messages did not reflect fear of him. She explained, though, that he
    was controlling and overbearing. Outside of his questioning of Sara, Jesse did not
    testify and offered no exhibits as evidence.1 Instead, he called one of the children’s
    daycare providers to give context to a recent dispute between the parties.
    The same day he filed his motion to dissolve the injunction, Jesse also
    moved for sanctions against Sara’s attorney under Iowa Rule of Civil Procedure
    1.413(1).     Jesse argued that though rule 1.413(1) states “Counsel’s
    1Jesse did attempt to offer over 200 pages of text messages into evidence. Sara
    objected, explaining she had not had sufficient time to look the messages over as
    Jesse had uploaded them to EDMS shortly before the hearing. The court
    explained Jesse would have to lay proper foundation and then offer the exhibits as
    he went. Jesse referenced the messages, but he never entered them into
    evidence.
    signature . . . shall be deemed a certificate that . . . to the best of counsel’s
    knowledge, information, and belief, formed after reasonable inquiry, it is well
    grounded in fact,” Sara’s counsel had allowed “false, misleading, and fraudulent
    claims that are unsubstantiated” to permeate the application. (Emphasis added).
    After hearing the evidence, the court confirmed the temporary injunction and
    denied the motion for sanctions. Discussing the injunction, the court described
    Jesse’s behavior as
    a pattern and practice . . . to belittle and annoy Sara for no good
    reason. . . . [F]rom the record it appears that much of the conduct of
    Jesse is motivated by malice and the primary purpose of a good part
    of the communication directed to Sara by Jesse is to attack her worth
    as a person and as a parent.
    The court found no “legitimate purpose” for Jesse’s conduct that emotionally and
    psychologically harmed Sara. As to the sanctions, the court found “nothing in the
    case file or the record made at hearing [supported] the imposition of sanctions
    under Rule 1.413(1) or finding [counsel had] engaged in unethical conduct in his
    representation of Sara in this case.”
    After the hearing on the temporary injunction, Sara applied for a permanent
    injunction.   The actions for the petition for modification and for permanent
    injunction were consolidated for trial.
    In April, the court heard the consolidated cases. Sara again explained she
    wanted to move to North Dakota where she had a better support system. She also
    confirmed she had remained sober for the eight months since her arrest. Sara
    described the time since the temporary injunction, saying it had significantly limited
    her anxiety; and, while Jesse could email her about the needs of the kids, he had
    not sent her a single message since the injunction’s entry.
    To support her move, Sara testified about the reasons for the change in
    visitation and what the children’s lives would look like in North Dakota. She
    arranged for in-network health-care providers, a school, and counseling and
    therapy services comparable to what the children had in Iowa. Addressing her
    struggles in Iowa, Sara discussed her belief she would be a better, healthier
    mother with her family and support system close by. She acknowledged, though,
    that she wanted to maintain the relationship between the children and Jesse.
    When it came time for Jesse to testify on direct examination, because he
    was pro se, he was allowed to bring his laptop to the stand to access an outline of
    points he wanted to address. But, Sara objected to the reading of the notes to
    refresh his memory of the facts. The district court agreed, allowing Jesse to use
    the notes to “stay on track,” but not as a way to retrieve information he could not
    remember off the top of his head. Still Jesse detailed his parenting strengths, his
    stability, and his concerns about Sara’s alcoholism. He offered several exhibits
    and called many witnesses.
    After the case was submitted and three days before the final orders were
    filed, Jesse moved to reopen the record. To his motion, he attached evidence
    alleging Sara had already enrolled the children in school in North Dakota.
    In two orders, the district court extended the injunction for two years,
    declined to modify physical care, and modified the visitation arrangement to allow
    Sara to move to North Dakota. In the modification order, it also denied Jesse’s
    motion to reopen the record, finding the issue would only serve to prolong the
    modification issue unnecessarily in light of the district court’s decision.
    Discussion.
    Jesse proffers twenty arguments, which relate to (1) the injunction, (2) the
    modification of the decree, and (3) trial concerns. We address each in turn below.2
    A. The Injunction.
    Jesse laments the injunction interferes with his ability to communicate about
    his children, is not necessary, and effectively violates his rights.          In some
    circumstances, there is a place for a permanent injunction between parents. A
    permanent injunction is appropriate when “[a] plaintiff [can] establish ‘(1) an
    invasion or threatened invasion of a right; (2) that substantial injury or damages
    will result unless the request for an injunction is granted; and (3) that there is no
    adequate legal remedy available.’” In re Langholz, 
    887 N.W.2d 770
    , 779 (Iowa
    2016). “In deciding whether an injunction should be issued, the court must weigh
    the relative hardships on the parties by the grant or denial of injunctive relief.” Opat
    v. Ludeking, 
    666 N.W.2d 597
    , 604 (Iowa 2003). “A plaintiff has no adequate
    remedy at law when the threat of repeated misconduct would require a multiplicity
    of suits.” 
    Id.
     An injunction is not meant to punish, but instead to prevent harm; it
    should “afford[] relief to the complainant but . . . not interfere with the legitimate
    and proper actions of the person against whom it is granted.” Langholz, 887
    N.W.2d at 779–80. The injunction should be “drawn narrowly enough to address
    2 While we consider all issues Jesse raises on appeal, there are a number of claims
    that are unpreserved or not supported by legal authority. As such, we do not
    address them. See Iowa R. App. P. 6.903(3)(g)(3); Meier v. Senecaut, 
    641 N.W.2d 532
    , 537 (Iowa 2002) (“It is a fundamental doctrine of appellate review that issues
    must ordinarily be both raised and decided by the district court before we will
    decide them on appeal.”); Mitchell v. Cedar Rapids Cmty. Sch. Dist., 
    832 N.W.2d 689
    , 695 (Iowa 2013) (“It is well-settled that a party fails to preserve error on new
    arguments or theories raised for the first time in a posttrial motion.”).
    the harm sought to be redressed.” Matlock v. Weets, 
    531 N.W.2d 118
    , 123 (Iowa
    1995). We review the issuance of a permanent injunction de novo. Opat, 
    666 N.W.2d at 603
    .
    Jesse first argues that his communications with Sara had a legitimate
    purpose apart from simply intimidating or harassing her; he claims he has a
    constitutional right and duty to communicate with her about their children. Jesse
    therefore believes the injunction granted by the district court violates his rights,
    under both the Iowa and United States Constitutions, to free speech.
    But, the terms of this injunction do not prohibit Jesse from communicating
    with Sara about their children. Instead, it merely limits the methods he can use
    while preventing him from “[t]hreatening, assaulting, stalking, attacking, harassing,
    or otherwise contacting” her. These restrictions do not “prevent [him] from going
    about his daily business,” Matlock, 
    531 N.W.2d at 123
    , or “interfere with [his]
    legitimate and proper actions.” Langholz, 887 N.W.2d at 780.
    In support of his assertion that this limitation violates his right to free speech,
    Jesse provides case law only about the fighting-words doctrine.3 While Jesse’s
    messages may not be fighting words, this doctrine is but a twig in the larger tree
    of free-speech jurisprudence. He failed to convince us his communications with
    Sara are protected speech, or that the limitations placed on him violate his
    constitutional rights in any way. See Emma Goldman Clinic v. Holman, No. 05-
    3  “‘Fighting words’ are those personally abusive epithets which by their very
    utterance inflict injury or tend to incite an immediate breach of the peace,’” and
    “[s]tates are free to prohibit the use of ‘fighting words.’” State v. Fratzke, 
    446 N.W.2d 781
    , 784 (Iowa 1989) (quoting Chaplinksky v. New Hampshire, 
    315 U.S. 568
    , 572 (1942)).
    0297, 
    2006 WL 3436221
    , at *4 (Iowa Ct. App. Nov. 30, 2006) (“[N]ot every
    limitation on speech violates the Constitution.”). We will not make these arguments
    for him, so we address the issue no further. See Goodwin v. Iowa Dist. Ct., 
    936 N.W.2d 634
    , 643 n.2 (Iowa 2019) (“It is not our role to rewrite a pro se pleading,
    nor can we act as the advocate for a pro se litigant.”).
    Third, Jesse argues that Sara was not entitled to an injunction because she
    had another remedy available to her—to press charges for harassment. This,
    however, is not a remedy that would prevent future action; it would merely
    criminalize past behavior. Because that would not be an adequate remedy, an
    injunction is appropriate. See Opat, 
    666 N.W.2d at 604
     (“The mere existence of
    criminal penalties does not preclude a party from obtaining injunctive relief.”);
    Hughes A. Bagley, Inc. v. Bagley, 
    463 N.W.2d 423
    , 425 (Iowa Ct. App. 1990)
    (“Plaintiffs are not precluded from seeking the issuance of a permanent injunction
    merely because criminal penalties exist which are designed to deter unlawful
    acts.”).
    Finally, Jesse asserts that the injunction causes more damage to him and
    offers no protection to Sara because the emails he sends her still go to her phone
    like a text message or phone call. The intent of the injunction was to limit abusive
    contact and reduce the communication to messaging only about the children and
    their needs. Likewise, the court heard Sara testify the impact of the temporary
    injunction “was like a sigh of relief.” As the district court said:
    Jesse . . . engaged in an ongoing course of harassing, intimidating,
    and demeaning conduct directed against Sara. . . . [I]t is difficult for
    the Court to imagine any reasonable person being able to tolerate or
    withstand the constant and ongoing pressure and demands put forth
    by Jesse without suffering depression, anxiety, or some other mental
    illness.
    Regardless of Jesse’s evaluation, we believe the injunction is appropriate and
    limited in scope to provide Sara relief from the hardships he imposed.
    For these reasons, we uphold the court’s imposition of a permanent
    injunction.
    B. The Modification.
    Ahead of her move to North Dakota, Sara requested approval of a new
    visitation schedule for Jesse and confirmation from the court that her move would
    be in the children’s best interests. To respond, Jesse called for a change in
    physical care to him. In the end, the district court condoned the move and changed
    the visitation schedule so Jesse would have optimum time with the children given
    the distance. Not surprisingly, Jesse challenges the district court’s modification of
    the visitation schedule and its failure to change the custody agreement. Our review
    is de novo. In re Marriage of Thielges, 
    623 N.W.2d 232
    , 235 (Iowa 2000).
    A party seeking to change physical care must prove, by a preponderance
    of the evidence, both (1) a substantial change of circumstances justifying the
    change, and (2) they can more effectively attend to the children’s well-being. 
    Id.
    The burden is high because “once custody of children has been fixed it should be
    disturbed only for the most cogent reasons.” In re Marriage of Frederici, 
    338 N.W.2d 156
    , 158 (Iowa 1983).        In seeking a change of physical care, “[t]he
    changed circumstances affecting the welfare of children and justifying modification
    of a decree ‘must not have been contemplated by the court when the decree was
    entered, and they must be more or less permanent, not temporary.’” In re Marriage
    of Harris, 
    877 N.W.2d 434
    , 440 (Iowa 2016). But, to change visitation, the courts
    require “much less extensive change in circumstances.” In re Marriage of Salmon,
    
    519 N.W.2d 94
    , 95–96 (Iowa Ct. App. 1994). Instead, the party requesting the
    change “must establish by a preponderance of evidence that there has been a
    material change in circumstances since the decree and that the requested change
    in visitation is in the best interests of the children.” 
    Id.
     (citation omitted).
    On the physical-care question, Jesse disputes the court’s denial of his
    request for change, arguing that Sara’s alcohol problem was a sufficient,
    permanent change in circumstances warranting a change in physical care. To
    make his case about the permanency of Sara’s alcoholism, Jesse offered video
    evidence of Sara’s intoxication that preceded the parties’ decree establishing
    physical care in Sara.       He argued Sara’s recent OWI arrest represents an
    “escalation of [Sara’s] abuse of alcohol.” See In re Marriage of O’Brien, No. 17-
    0828, 
    2018 WL 739329
    , at * 2 (Iowa Ct. App. Feb. 7, 2018). As support for a
    change in physical care, Jesse points to O’Brien, as lending credence to his
    contention that “escalated alcohol abuse” can be a substantial change in
    circumstances. See 
    id.
     But, O’Brien consisted of a parent who had an unmanaged
    alcohol addiction and, at the time of the modification hearing, admitted she was
    still drinking.   See id. at *1.    This is a stark contrast to Sara who not only
    successfully completed treatment soon after DHS became involved, but remained
    sober between the August 2, 2020 arrest and the modification hearing in April
    2021. While Sara’s alcoholism may be permanent, her alcohol abuse is not—
    Jesse was able to provide no evidence that Sara continued to imbibe alcohol at
    the time of the modification hearing. Sara, on the other hand, provided statements
    from her substance-abuse counselor and DHS service providers4 that she has
    shown no signs of alcohol use and is benefiting from continued counseling. Unlike
    O’Brien, where the mother had no demonstrated ability to curtail her alcohol abuse,
    Sara has shown a determination not to allow alcohol to be a persistent problem.
    See id. Her August 2 arrest is not a permanent change in circumstances requiring
    a modification of the physical care agreement. As Jesse did not meet the burden
    to show a permanent change in circumstances, we need not move forward to
    consider his argument that he is better able to minister to the needs of their
    children.5
    On the change-in-visitation issue, Jesse argues the district court was wrong
    to alter the visitation agreement because Sara had considered moving before the
    dissolution stipulation was filed. But, while Sara had thought about moving, she
    had disavowed the idea in the hopes of peaceful co-parenting and agreed to the
    visitation schedule with the intention to stay in Iowa; no part of the stipulation or
    district court decree mentions a move. Contra In re Marriage of Stone, No. 17-
    0757, 
    2017 WL 6026726
    , at *2 (Iowa Ct. App. Nov. 22, 2017) (finding a move was
    previously contemplated when the father had already moved to Michigan and the
    decree referenced his Michigan address); Gragg v. Smith, No. 03-1493, 
    2004 WL 4
     Her DHS services included random drug testing, which came back negative for
    all substances.
    5 Still, we note that while it is undisputed that Jesse cares for his children, the
    district court found that Sara was the parent better able to minister to their needs.
    As the parties provided competing accounts about each parent’s ability to care for
    the children, the decision came down to a credibility finding; we give great weight
    to the credibility determinations of the district court as it gets to see the parties in
    person and hear their testimony first hand. See In re Marriage of Vrban, 
    359 N.W.2d 420
    , 423–24 (Iowa 1984) (“There is good reason for us to pay very close
    attention to the trial court’s assessment of the credibility of witnesses.”).
    360570, at *1 (Iowa Ct. App. Feb. 2, 2004) (noting a parent’s cross-country move
    was explicitly noted in the custody decree). And she did stay for nearly a year
    before petitioning to modify the visitation schedule to accommodate her move.
    Further, we agree with the district court that the move is in the children’s best
    interests, and Jesse does not challenge this finding. While Jesse also contends
    Sara’s motive in moving was to interfere with his relationship with the children, the
    visitation schedule offered by Sara refutes that claim. See Frederici, 
    338 N.W.2d at 160
     (considering if the parent intended to defeat visitation rights or interfere with
    the relationship between the other parent and the children).              Rather, Sara
    proposed a visitation schedule that gave Jesse a similar amount of overnight visits
    with his children as he exercised when they lived in Iowa. Because Sara met her
    burden, we find no reason to disturb the district court’s modification of the visitation
    schedule.
    C. Trial Concerns.
    Finally, Jesse alleges several concerns over the process of his trial that
    seem to relate to fairness concerns. Those trial concerns Jesse raises are: (1)
    whether the judge was fair and impartial as required under Iowa Code of Judicial
    Conduct 51:2.2; (2) if the court should have found Sara in default; (3) whether
    Sara’s counsel lied, misled, or misrepresented the facts to the court; (4) whether
    the district court was wrong not to allow Jesse to read from notes during his
    testimony; (5) whether the district court discriminated against Jesse on the basis
    of sex; (6) whether the district court took too long to issue its ruling; and (7) whether
    the district court abused its discretion in awarding Sara attorney fees. We address
    each issue in turn.
    i. Iowa Code of Judicial Conduct 51:2.2.
    In his first section of argument, Jesse puts forward a litany of errors he
    believes the district court made. They all boil down to a common theme—that the
    court gave Sara too much credit and him not enough. Jesse states the court’s
    behavior ran afoul of Iowa Code of Judicial Conduct rule 51:2.2,6 which states, “A
    judge shall uphold and apply the law, and shall perform all duties of judicial office
    fairly and impartially.” Comment two clarifies, “Although each judge comes to the
    bench with a unique background and personal philosophy, a judge must interpret
    and apply the law without regard to whether the judge approves or disapproves of
    the law in question.” Iowa Code of Judicial Conduct r. 51:2.2 cmt. 2. Jesse points
    to some minor factual errors and moments where he found the court
    unsympathetic to his cause; still, he has failed to show how this behavior violated
    the rules of judicial conduct or the law, and we address the issue no further. See
    Iowa R. App. P. 6.903(3)(g)(3); see also Iowa Code of Judicial Conduct r. 51:2.2
    cmt. 3 (“When applying and interpreting the law, a judge sometimes may make
    good-faith errors of fact or law. Errors of this kind do not violate this rule.”).
    6 This rule is typically cited in recusal cases. See, e.g., In re Marriage of Herum,
    No. 17-2092, 
    2018 WL 4635908
    , at *2 (Iowa Ct. App. Sept. 26, 2018). Insofar as
    Jesse is asserting the judge should have recused himself, we note that Jesse
    would have to prove the court had “personal bias or prejudice stemming from an
    extrajudicial source.” 
    Id.
     (citation omitted). A “[j]udicial predilection or an attitude
    of mind resulting from the facts learned by the judge from the judge’s participation
    in the case” is no reason for a judge to be disqualified. State v. Millsap, 
    704 N.W.2d 426
    , 432 (Iowa 2005). He would also have to prove prejudice resulted. See 
    id.
    He does not make these arguments, and we will not make them for him. See In
    re Estate of DeTar, 
    572 N.W.2d 178
    , 180 (Iowa Ct. App. 1997) (“Iowa law dictates
    that [a pro se party’s] brief is judged by the same standard as a brief filed by an
    Iowa lawyer.”).
    ii. Default.
    Jesse next argues that Sara was in default when she failed to answer
    Jesse’s counterclaim and the court should have entered judgment for him on his
    request for physical care.          “A decision to grant or deny a motion for default
    judgment rests in the sound discretion of the trial court.”        In re Marriage of
    Christenson, No. 17-2022, 
    2018 WL 4915910
    , at *5 (Iowa Ct. App. Oct. 10, 2018)
    (citing Jack v. P & A Farms, Ltd., 
    822 N.W.2d 511
    , 515 (Iowa 2012)). “We will only
    reverse the court’s decision if its discretion has been abused.” 
    Id.
     And courts
    generally are wary, particularly in matters involving children’s welfare, to grant
    default judgment on a case that could be heard on the merits to better determine
    what is in the best interests of the children. 
    Id.
     “[I]n an action for custody, the
    court’s ultimate ruling must be governed by the child’s best interests—not a
    sanction.” Carmichael v. Philpott, No. 17-0124, 
    2018 WL 739275
    , at *3 (Iowa Ct.
    App. Feb. 7, 2018). Jesse makes a conclusory statement that Sara’s failure to
    answer his counterclaim did not bear in mind the best interests of their children—
    we find no support of this in the record, nor do we find the court abused its
    discretion in denying the request for default judgment.
    iii. Attorney Sanctions.
    Jesse next seeks to have Sara’s attorney sanctioned, accusing counsel of
    lying, misleading, and misrepresenting the facts to the court in violation of Iowa
    Rule of Civil Procedure 1.413(1).7 Specifically, he states that counsel did not make
    7   The rule states:
    Pleadings need not be verified unless special statutes so
    require and, where a pleading is verified, it is not necessary that
    subsequent pleadings be verified unless special statutes so require.
    “reasonable inquiry” into the claims asserted in the filings. “We review a district
    court’s decision on whether to impose sanctions for an abuse of discretion.”
    Barnhill v. Iowa Dist. Ct., 
    765 N.W.2d 267
    , 272 (Iowa 2009). We give deference
    to the district court, who “is in the best position to evaluate counsel’s actions and
    motivations” when deciding if counsel has breached the “fine line . . . between
    zealous advocacy and frivolous claims.” 
    Id. at 279
    . In determining if rule 1.413(1)
    was complied with, the court determines if a reasonably competent attorney could
    reasonably act that way under the circumstances. 
    Id. at 272
    . Jesse has not shown
    that Sara’s counsel acted in a way no reasonable attorney would—rather, he points
    out disputed facts that are par for the course in any trial. Contra 
    id. at 279
     (stating
    an attorney violated rule 1.413 when they made up [the case] as it went along”
    (alteration in original)). There is no indication that the case was filed in bad faith
    as Jesse alleges. As such, we agree with the district court that sanctions were not
    appropriate.
    iv. Trial Notes.
    Jesse argues the district court was wrong to stop him from using his notes
    while on the stand to bolster his direct examination. He cites to both the Iowa
    Constitution and United States Constitution,8 arguing the law was applied
    Counsel’s signature to every motion, pleading, or other paper shall
    be deemed a certificate that: counsel has read the motion, pleading,
    or other paper; that to the best of counsel’s knowledge, information,
    and belief, formed after reasonable inquiry, it is well grounded in fact
    and is warranted by existing law or a good faith argument for the
    extension, modification, or reversal of existing law; and that it is not
    interposed for any improper purpose, such as to harass or cause an
    unnecessary delay or needless increase in the cost of litigation.
    8 He cites article I, section six of the Iowa Constitution, which states “All laws of a
    general nature shall have a uniform operation; the general assembly shall not grant
    disparately between he and Sara’s counsel, who was allowed to use notes while
    questioning witnesses. Contrary to his position, the court allowed him to use his
    notes to keep track of the points he wanted to address while testifying on direct
    examination, as Sara’s counsel was also allowed. But, just as Jesse was not
    allowed to read his notes to refresh his recollection while testifying, neither was
    Sara. Jesse’s argument fails.
    v. Court’s Purported Bias against Men.
    Pointing to the same constitutional sections as his argument about the use
    of notes, Jesse argues the district court violated his constitutional rights by favoring
    Sara because she was a woman. On our de novo review, we see nothing in the
    record to support this assertion. See State v. Banks, No. 18-0721, 
    2020 WL 105078
    , at *6 (Iowa Ct. App. Jan. 9, 2020) (“We do not reach the merits of any of
    these arguments as they are . . . not developed enough to be a cognizable legal
    claim. . . . If we were to proceed to consider the merits, ‘this case would require
    us to assume a partisan role and undertake the appellant's research and advocacy.
    This role is one we refuse to assume.’” (citation omitted)).
    to any citizen, or class of citizens, privileges or immunities, which, upon the same
    terms shall not equally belong to all citizens.” He also relies on section one of the
    Fourteenth Amendment to the United States Constitution, which states:
    All persons born or naturalized in the United States and subject to
    the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the
    State wherein they reside. No State shall make or enforce any law
    which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the
    United States; nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty,
    or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within
    its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.
    vi. Length of Time to Issue Ruling.
    Jesse next takes issue with the nearly five months that passed between the
    final hearing and the court’s orders. It is true that “[n]o matter the complexity of an
    issue before a court, judicial decisions ordinarily should be reached within sixty
    days after submission.” State v. Fordyce, 
    940 N.W.2d 419
    , 428 (Iowa 2020)
    (discussing an eleven-month delay); see also Iowa Ct. R. 22.10 (requiring each
    district judge to submit to the supreme court a report of each case still under
    advisement after sixty days along with “an explanation of the reasons for the delay
    and an expected date of decision”). But, as in Fordyce, “the detail in the district
    court’s findings belie any claim that the delay diminished its ability to recall the
    evidence.” See id. at 428; see also Poole v. Hawkeye Area Cmty. Action Program,
    Inc., 
    666 N.W.2d 560
    , 562 (Iowa 2003) (discussing a sixteen-month delay). The
    district court here authored thorough findings of fact supported by the record made
    at trial in both its modification and permanent injunction orders. We find no reason
    here to allow the delay to undermine the district court’s findings.
    vii. Attorney Fees.
    Jesse argues the court abused its discretion by awarding Sara $2000 in
    attorney fees.   Iowa Code section 598.36 says the district court “may award
    attorney fees to the prevailing party in an amount deemed reasonable by the
    court.” “We have emphasized that the language of the provision is permissive.” In
    re Marriage of Michael, 
    839 N.W.2d 630
    , 639 (Iowa 2013). “The decision to award
    attorney fees rests within the sound discretion of the court, and we will not disturb
    its decision absent a finding of abuse of discretion.” In re Marriage of Rosenfeld,
    
    668 N.W.2d 840
    , 849 (Iowa 2003). “Whether attorney fees should be awarded
    depends on the respective abilities of the parties to pay. In addition, the fees must
    be fair and reasonable.” In re Marriage of Guyer, 
    522 N.W.2d 818
    , 822 (Iowa
    1994) (internal citation omitted). Based on the record in front of us, we find no
    abuse of discretion here and uphold the district court’s award of attorney fees.
    We also note that Sara requests appellate attorney fees. We consider
    whether the party seeking the fees was required to defend the district court’s order
    on appeal. See In re Marriage of Maher, 
    596 N.W.2d 561
    , 568 (Iowa 1999).
    Considering the parties disparate incomes, the fact that Jesse instigated the
    appeal, and that Sara has prevailed on each claim, we grant Sara attorney fees
    and remand the issue to the district court to determine an appropriate and
    reasonable amount.
    Conclusion.
    For all the reasons stated above, we affirm the district court’s modification
    and injunction rulings and remand for the limited purpose of determining the
    appropriate amount of appellate attorney fees.
    AFFIRMED AND REMANDED WITH INSTRUCTION.