B.H.M. VS. L.E.P.-M. (FM-13-0363-12, MONMOUTH COUNTY AND STATEWIDE) ( 2019 )


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    SUPERIOR COURT OF NEW JERSEY
    APPELLATE DIVISION
    DOCKET NO. A-1751-16T2
    B.H.M.,
    Plaintiff-Respondent,
    v.
    L.E.P.-M.,
    Defendant-Appellant.
    ___________________________
    Argued January 16, 2019 – Decided February 20, 2019
    Before Judges Alvarez and Mawla.
    On appeal from Superior Court of New Jersey,
    Chancery Division, Family Part, Monmouth County,
    Docket No. FM-13-0363-12.
    Andrew M. Shaw argued the cause for appellant (The
    DeTommaso Law Group, LLC, attorneys; Andrew M.
    Shaw and Michael J. DeTommaso, on the briefs).
    John F. DeBartolo argued the cause for respondent
    (Atkinson & DeBartolo, PC, attorneys; John F.
    DeBartolo, on the brief).
    PER CURIAM
    Defendant L.E.P-M.1 appeals from a November 18, 2016 judgment of
    divorce following a lengthy trial. She challenges the trial judge's findings
    regarding custody, alimony, child support, equitable distribution, counsel fees,
    and credibility. We affirm in all respects, but reverse and remand specific
    aspects of the alimony and child support determination for further consideration.
    The following facts are taken from the record. The parties were married
    in 2000. Two children were born of the marriage in 2004 and 2006, respectively.
    The older child was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome and the younger child
    suffers from asthma.
    Before the marriage, defendant earned approximately $35,000 as an office
    manager. She also worked as a cosmetician specializing in aiding injured and
    disfigured individuals. Her work was featured in numerous magazine articles.
    Defendant also owned patents and had authored a chapter in a plastic surgery
    textbook published in 2000.         In 2008, she earned a bachelor's degree in
    psychology from Rutgers University.
    Plaintiff B.H.M. possessed a master's degree in computer science and was
    employed as a software engineer, earning $125,000 in 2001. In 2008 and 2010,
    he received 500,000 and 406,000 stock options, respectively, from his employer
    1
    We use initials to protect the confidentiality of the parties and their children.
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    valued at one cent per share. In 2012, post-complaint, he received 593,750
    options also valued at one cent per share. The value of the options remained the
    same at trial.
    In August 2011, defendant claimed plaintiff assaulted her and she
    obtained a temporary restraining order (TRO), which was later dismissed.
    Plaintiff vacated the marital residence and lived with his mother. On August 22,
    2011, he filed a complaint for divorce and an order to show cause seeking,
    among other relief, joint legal and physical custody of the children. On August
    26, 2011, the court entered a pendente lite consent order, which required plaintiff
    to pay for certain expenses and pay support to defendant and the children. The
    parties' consent order also awarded them shared parenting time. Specifically,
    defendant was designated parent of primary residence (PPR) and enjoyed
    exclusive use of the marital residence. Plaintiff had the children two evenings
    per week and every other weekend.
    In December 2011, defendant filed a motion to modify the consent order
    and requested sole legal and physical custody of the children, more than double
    the amount of pendente lite support, and a custody evaluation. Defendant's
    requests were denied.
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    The parties' motion practice continued in 2012. Relevant to this appeal,
    defendant renewed her request for a custody evaluation. The motion judge
    denied her request, and instead ordered a custody neutral assessment (CNA) and
    custody mediation.
    In July 2012, defendant contacted the Division of Child Protection and
    Permanency (Division) and claimed plaintiff had not provided sufficient funds
    for the children's allergy medications. Plaintiff informed the Division he had
    provided the funds to defendant and she used them to purchase oxycodone.
    Defendant had been prescribed the drug as a result of ankle surgery she had in
    2012. However, the Division's investigation established that more than one
    physician prescribed oxycodone for defendant and she had filled the
    prescriptions at various pharmacies. A Division caseworker who visited the
    marital residence discovered butcher paper covering the windows, which
    defendant claimed she had installed for privacy. The Division also learned
    defendant had self-medicated the youngest child's asthma with an oral steroid.
    The children's allergist informed the Division that defendant historically did not
    follow doctor's instructions, but relied on her own intuition regarding the
    children's medications. She also spoke badly of plaintiff in front of the children,
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    "flies off the handle all the time," "screams at my staff," and kept a cat even
    though the children were allergic to it.
    In September 2012, the children began attending public school because
    the parties could no longer afford private school. The children received good
    grades in public school, but had many absences. Defendant testified they were
    not really learning and did not deserve their grades.
    In October 2012, Superstorm Sandy damaged the former marital
    residence. Defendant filed a claim with FEMA, administered in conjunction
    with the New Jersey Department of Community Affairs Reconstruction,
    Rehabilitation, Elevation and Mitigation program. The claim contradicted a
    statement defendant made in December 2012 to the New Jersey Senate Budget
    and Appropriations Committee, in which she asserted the home had suffered
    minimal damage from Sandy. Defendant applied as a low-to-moderate income
    family and claimed a yearly household income of $16,500, which represented
    the support she received from plaintiff. Plaintiff refused to sign the grant
    application because he believed the insurance proceeds were sufficient to repair
    the damage. Also, the parties' income exceeded the eligibility limits for a FEMA
    grant. The parties' insurance eventually paid $13,069.64, which nearly equated
    a repair estimate for the damage.
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    Defendant filed another motion for increased support, which was denied.
    The motion judge concluded:
    defendant has not provided any rational basis
    whatsoever for relief, and [] she has not been candid
    with the [c]ourt.     Defendant's [case information
    statement] shows credit card debt in excess of $39,000,
    [and] monthly expenses in excess of $10,000 . . . .
    Clearly, defendant has failed to come to grips with the
    reality that both parties are debt-ridden and their
    financial circumstances must change.
    Meanwhile, the Division's investigation had turned into litigation, and the
    judge handling that matter ordered defendant to undergo a psychological
    evaluation. In January 2013, defendant contacted police and claimed plaintiff
    hit her with the car door.
    Plaintiff filed an order to show cause seeking sole legal and physical
    custody of the children because defendant was not following the allergist's
    orders, stopped giving the children their allergy medication, and permitted them
    to sleep with the cat. Plaintiff also claimed the children had excessive absences
    from school while in defendant's care and expressed concerns of her prescription
    drug abuse. Plaintiff's motion attached Division reports confirming his claims.
    On January 11, 2013, the motion judge filed an order granting plaintiff
    sole custody of the children and supervised parenting time for defendant.
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    Defendant filed a custody related order to show cause seven days later, which
    was denied.
    Dr. Mark Singer, Ed.D. performed a psychological evaluation of
    defendant on behalf of the Division and issued a report in February 2013. Singer
    concluded the parties had a highly conflictual relationship, but found defendant
    was sensitive to the children's needs, had a clear understanding of the role of
    parent and child, and valued the children's empowerment. Singer diagnosed
    defendant with histrionic personality disorder with obsessive compulsive
    features. Singer's report stated: "This report is intended to be use[d] only for
    the stated purposes and not intended to be used as a custody evaluation ."
    Nonetheless, defendant attached Singer's report to her certification in
    opposition to plaintiff's order to show cause seeking custody. Her certification
    also referred to the caseworker's report. An initial hearing occurred and the
    court granted defendant three visits per week with the children. The matter was
    then set down for a trial of the custody issue. The parties appeared for trial on
    April 3, 2013, but instead entered into a consent order agreeing to shared, equal
    custody, and other relief, which continued unchanged throughout the remaining
    five years of the litigation and through the trial. The Division terminated its
    litigation in June 2013.
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    In July 2013, defendant filed for Chapter 7 bankruptcy. The bankruptcy
    resulted in a discharge of: $65,000 in legal fees defendant owed to three
    attorneys; and credit card debt, including more than $30,000 owed to American
    Express, $13,705 to Chase, and $7285 to Citibank. Plaintiff retained counsel
    and participated in the bankruptcy proceedings in order to protect the marital
    residence from liquidation by the trustee. He paid his counsel $5429.53 for these
    services.
    Throughout 2014, defendant continued to exhibit erratic behavior with
    regard to the children. She engaged in a conflict with their therapist and
    ultimately terminated therapy.     She assaulted the younger child during a
    pediatric visit causing the pediatrician to expel the family from the practice. She
    threatened to notify the Division if plaintiff did not take the older child to the
    doctor for a cold. Defendant traveled to plaintiff's home with the police to
    compel him to fill a prescription for the child's antibiotics. During a doctor's
    visit with the older child's ophthalmologist, defendant asked plaintiff to explain
    to the children why he broke up the family. Defendant told plaintiff "I'm going
    to be suing you . . . we're going to be litigating until the end of your life ." A
    physical altercation ensued. Defendant claimed plaintiff assaulted her, which
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    led police to arrest plaintiff. Defendant filed a criminal complaint and both
    parties obtained TROs, which were later dismissed.
    The parties continued to communicate regarding their daughter's glasses.
    Plaintiff asked defendant to fill the prescription and stated he would reimburse
    her up to $125. Defendant responded with a series of emails, including the
    following:
    [Y]ou are mentally delusional . . .
    ....
    . . . You caused irreparable harm to me and the
    children through your continued abuse and
    psychopathology.
    You are a sick man . . . .
    . . . [S]top your campaign of hate and harm
    against me and the kids, and start thinking about how
    to survive the imminent collapse of the dollar which
    will cause civil upheaval and martial law.
    . . . Stop and think what you will do when the
    government puts an RIF chip in everyone and our new
    currency is located in this chip. If you don’t cooperate
    they turn your chip off and you have no money.
    ....
    . . . You have forced us into total financial
    destitution.
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    Defendant filled the eyeglass prescription herself and ignored plaintiff's
    requests that she give him proof of the expenditure in order to reimburse her. In
    response to one such request by plaintiff, defendant stated the following:
    Get professional help before you destroy these children.
    You cannot handle co-parenting or any parenting.
    Money is only God to those who practice service to self.
    It corrupts as it has corrupted you.
    Earth is changing. It is going into [Fifth dimension]
    which represents a positive timeline of ["]unity
    consciousness["] or service to others. Those stuck on
    the wheel of karma don't go. They stay on [third
    dimension] earth and live out what they created. Those
    are service to self or negative timeline.
    Defendant sent plaintiff several more emails in this vein, all of which were
    admitted into evidence.
    The CNA commenced in February 2015. In her CNA questionnaire,
    defendant wrote "irreparable harm [was] caused to my children[] and myself that
    is unconscionable, by the vindictive and criminal behavior of their [f]ather."
    She told the CNA evaluator plaintiff was autistic and an incompetent parent. At
    trial, the evaluator testified: defendant's thoughts were disjointed, she was
    focused on medical issues and believed plaintiff was not taking care of the
    children's medical needs, and her emails to plaintiff "reveal[ed] a troubling
    pattern of paranoid and delusional thinking."      The evaluator met with the
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    children and noted they had substantial knowledge of the parties' dispute and
    were "coached," because their answers to questions mirrored defendant's
    statements.
    He concluded the following: the marriage was volatile and chaotic;
    defendant estranged the children from plaintiff; the children had a skewed
    allegiance to their mother, who failed to insulate them from her negative feelings
    about their father; defendant expressed significant concerns about the children's
    health, but did not follow medical advice; her emails contained a "troubling
    pattern of paranoid and delusional" thinking; and the children discussed plaintiff
    with "derision and contempt" and in "inappropriate and disrespectful" terms.
    The evaluator expressed concerns about defendant's "stability to parent
    effectively," given her "delusional thought content," her "Munchausen's-like
    preoccupation with [the children's] medically complex issues," and her failure
    to adhere to the children's medical regimens.         He recommended shared
    parenting, the appointment of a parenting coordinator, and a parenting schedule
    with minimal transfers between the parties' homes.
    Defendant's erratic conduct continued during the trial, which commenced
    in February 2016. The children were visiting with plaintiff at his mother's home
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    for Easter when defendant contacted police and claimed plaintiff was abusing
    the older daughter. Police responded and determined there was no abuse.
    In May 2016, the trial judge relieved defendant's counsel, her seventh
    attorney, because she claimed he had assaulted her in the courthouse. Defendant
    represented herself for the remainder of the trial. The judge surmised she
    accused her attorney of assault in order to represent herself in order to provide
    "unfiltered" testimony to the court. The trial transcripts confirm the judge's
    impressions.      Defendant's presentation was disorganized and unnecessarily
    prolonged the trial. Defendant interrupted testimony, sought to adduce evidence
    which had either not been provided in discovery or was irrelevant, and failed to
    comply with evidence and court rules.
    Defendant adduced a CIS dated September 28, 2011, nearest the date of
    the complaint, which had not been updated and contained errors. Defendant
    characterized the parties' standard of living as "upper middle class" because they
    lived in a home with a view of the ocean.
    Defendant requested the court designate her as the PPR, and for plaintiff
    to have parenting time two evenings per week and every other weekend. She
    requested $434 per week for child support and $300 per week alimony for twenty
    years.
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    At the time of trial, defendant was forty-seven years of age and enrolled
    in the master's in public policy program at Monmouth University. She testified
    she was a homemaker and had been absent from the job market for sixteen years.
    She stated her plan was to turn the former marital residence into a bed and
    breakfast over a period of ten years. Defendant also claimed she was interested
    in pursuing a career in academia and worked as an unpaid intern for the
    ambassador of the Global Mission of Peace.
    Plaintiff was fifty-two at the time of trial. He presented an up-to-date CIS
    and testified his salary was $150,800 per year. He described the marital and
    non-marital assets and liabilities in detail, and explained the relief he sought
    from the court. He testified he had been granted one million stock options,
    740,234 of which were vested as of October 2014. Plaintiff requested the court
    order a shared parenting time plan in accordance with the CNA.
    Early in the trial, defendant alleged the former marital residence was
    dangerous because of mold infestation. She urged the trial judge to contact the
    Division to inquire as to the issue. The trial judge obliged and learned the mold
    issue had been resolved.     The Division also informed the judge it had no
    concerns regarding either party's ability to parent the children.
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    On November 18, 2016, the judge entered a dual judgment of divorce and
    attached a written opinion totaling 188 pages, addressing custody and parenting
    time, alimony, child support, equitable distribution, and counsel fees. The judge
    found plaintiff's testimony credible, especially as it related to defendant's
    conduct during the divorce. She found defendant not credible. This appeal
    followed.
    I.
    [F]indings by a trial court are binding on appeal when
    supported by adequate, substantial, credible evidence.
    Cesare v. Cesare, 
    154 N.J. 394
    , 411-12 (1998). We
    defer to the credibility determinations made by the trial
    court because the trial judge "hears the case, sees and
    observes the witnesses, and hears them testify,"
    affording it "a better perspective than a reviewing court
    in evaluating the veracity of a witness." 
    Id. at 412
                (citing Pascale v. Pascale, 
    113 N.J. 20
    , 33 (1988)).
    If the trial court's conclusions are supported by
    the evidence, we are inclined to accept them. 
    Ibid. We do "not
    disturb the 'factual findings and legal
    conclusions of the trial judge unless . . . convinced that
    they are so manifestly unsupported by or inconsistent
    with the competent, relevant and reasonably credible
    evidence as to offend the interests of justice.'" 
    Ibid. (quoting Rova Farms
    Resort, Inc. v. Inv'rs Ins. Co. of
    Am., 
    65 N.J. 474
    , 484 (1974)). "Only when the trial
    court's conclusions are so 'clearly mistaken' or 'wide of
    the mark'" should we interfere to "ensure that there is
    not a denial of justice." N.J. Div. of Youth & Family
    Servs. v. E.P., 
    196 N.J. 88
    , 104 (2008) (quoting N.J.
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    Div. of Youth & Family Servs. v. G.L., 
    191 N.J. 596
    ,
    605 (2007)).
    [Gnall v. Gnall, 
    222 N.J. 414
    , 428 (2015).]
    "Appellate courts accord particular deference to the Family Part because
    of its 'special jurisdiction and expertise' in family matters." Harte v. Hand, 
    433 N.J. Super. 457
    , 461 (App. Div. 2013) (quoting 
    Cesare, 154 N.J. at 412
    ).
    However, "[t]his court does not accord the same deference to a trial judge's legal
    determinations." Ricci v. Ricci, 
    448 N.J. Super. 546
    , 565 (App. Div. 2017)
    (citing Reese v. Weis, 
    430 N.J. Super. 552
    , 568 (App. Div. 2013)). Rather, "all
    legal issues are reviewed de novo." 
    Ibid. Defendant challenges the
    judgment in virtually every respect. We address
    the arguments warranting a discussion below.
    A.
    Defendant contests the trial judge's custody determination. She argues:
    the judge relied upon Division records, reports, and conversations with
    caseworkers outside of the record, which were hearsay; the CNA evaluation was
    a net opinion; the award of joint legal custody was erroneous because the trial
    judge found the parties had an inability to communicate and agree on matters
    related to the children; the custody determination was unduly influenced by the
    parties' pendente lite consent order, which she asserts was engendered by a
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    frivolous order to show cause filed by plaintiff; and a guardian ad litem should
    not have been appointed without notice to the parties and an opportunity to be
    heard.
    The Legislature has declared it public policy that children have access to
    both parents, and parents share the rights and responsibilities of child rearing.
    N.J.S.A. 9:2-4. Where parents disagree on custody and parenting time, the court
    is charged with determining the best interests of the child, specifically, by
    considering the factors set forth in N.J.S.A. 9:2-4(c) in making a custody and
    parenting time award. The court's primary consideration is the best interests of
    the child, which include the child's safety, happiness, and physical, mental, and
    moral welfare.    Kinsella v. Kinsella, 
    150 N.J. 276
    , 317 (1997); Faucett v.
    Vasquez, 
    411 N.J. Super. 108
    , 118 (App. Div. 2009). Because Family Part
    judges are often called upon to make difficult and sensitive decisions, their
    determinations are entitled to deference given their familiarity with the details
    of the case. Hand v. Hand, 
    391 N.J. Super. 102
    , 111 (App. Div. 2007).
    Here, the trial judge ordered an equal shared parenting and custody
    arrangement.     She relied upon the parties' testimony, including plaintiff's
    support of such an arrangement and the CNA.            Additionally, the judge
    considered the statutory factors, and found: the parties had a dysfunctional and
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    highly conflictual relationship and were not able to communicate, largely
    because of defendant's behavior; defendant was hostile, angry, abusive, and
    erratic; with respect to multiple incidents at doctors' offices, defendant resorted
    to violence because she believed she was always correct; plaintiff was more
    willing to afford parenting time to defendant; defendant disparaged plaintiff to
    the children; minimizing the transfers between the parties' homes would be best
    for the children; plaintiff's reluctance to be alone in a room with defendant, or
    to speak to her, was due to defendant's erratic, angry, violent outbursts; and
    plaintiff was able to provide a stable home environment.          The judge also
    considered the special needs of the child with Asperger's.
    Additionally, the judge made extensive and detailed findings that
    defendant was "incredible, unbelievable and untruthful." The judge attributed
    this to defendant's "mental health, a personality disorder, PTSD, and desire to
    seek revenge against plaintiff for having deigned to [seek] . . . sole legal and
    physical [custody] of the parties' two children" when he filed an order to show
    cause pendente lite.
    We reject defendant's challenges to the custody determination.              A
    pendente lite order was entered by a different judge, in which defendant was
    ordered to remove the cat. Moreover, there was testimony on this issue at trial.
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    Therefore, this aspect of the judge's findings were a part of the record.
    Furthermore, although the Division's records were not a part of the trial record,
    the trial judge contacted the Division at defendant's behest regarding her
    complaint of mold in the former marital home and to determine whether the
    living conditions there were satisfactory. The information the judge received
    from the Division did not prejudice defendant because the Division advised it
    had no concerns regarding either party's parenting ability.
    Defendant did not object to the trial judge's consideration of the Division's
    expert report and her counsel utilized the document for cross-examination of the
    CNA evaluator. "A party who consents to, acquiesces in, or encourages an error
    cannot use that error as the basis for an objection on appeal."        Spedick v.
    Murphy, 
    266 N.J. Super. 573
    , 593 (App. Div. 1993) (citing State v. Harper, 
    128 N.J. Super. 270
    , 276-77 (App. Div. 1974)).
    The CNA was not a net opinion because the evaluator relied on more than
    the Division's expert report. Indeed, the evaluator's credentials and expertise
    were not challenged. He conducted his own investigation before issuing his
    report, namely, consulting collateral sources, and interviewing the children and
    both parties. As we noted, the Division's expert report was evidential. The
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    evaluator's report explained the evaluative process and the conclusions drawn
    from it.
    A net opinion is "a bare conclusion unsupported by
    factual evidence." Creanga v. Jardal, 
    185 N.J. 345
    , 360
    (2005). To avoid a net opinion, the expert must "'give
    the why and wherefore' that supports the opinion."
    [Townsend v. Pierre, 
    221 N.J. 36
    , 54 (2015)] (quoting
    Borough of Saddle River v. 66 E. Allendale, LLC, 
    216 N.J. 115
    , 144 (2013)).
    Experts are required to "be able to identify the
    factual bases for their conclusions, explain their
    methodology, and demonstrate that both the factual
    bases and the methodology are reliable." [Townsend,
    221 N.J.] at 55 (quoting Landrigan v. Celotex Corp.,
    
    127 N.J. 404
    , 417 (1992)). The net opinion rule is a
    "prohibition against speculative testimony." 
    [Harte, 433 N.J. Super. at 465
    ] (quoting Grzanka v. Pfeifer, 
    301 N.J. Super. 563
    , 580 (App. Div. 1997)).
    [Ehrlich v. Sorokin, 
    451 N.J. Super. 119
    , 134 (App.
    Div. 2017).]
    Neither the CNA nor the evaluator's testimony fit this description.
    The trial judge expressed concerns regarding the parties' ability to co-
    parent and also addressed defendant's claims regarding the order to show cause
    plaintiff had filed for custody. The judge's concerns regarding communication
    emanated from defendant's conduct. Indeed, the judge found the parties had a
    "limited ability to agree, communicate or cooperate on anything" because
    defendant was "unreasonable" and tried to "get her way" by becoming "hostile
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    and angry" and took "no responsibility for her behavior[.]" The judge also cited
    defendant's insistence the order to show cause was evidence of bad faith as
    evidence of her inability to let go of her anger. As we noted, the decision to
    grant the order to show cause was borne of concern defendant could be abusing
    prescription drugs and not meeting the children's medical needs. Thus, the order
    to show cause could not be characterized as frivolous.
    Given the totality of the circumstances, we fail to see how defendant could
    have achieved a better result custody-wise. The record clearly supports the
    judge's decision to appoint a guardian ad litem and the custody determination as
    a whole, and we will not disturb it.
    B.
    Regarding the alimony determination, defendant argues the trial judge:
    failed to include income from plaintiff's receipt of the stock options in
    determining his ability to pay; incorrectly imputed income to defendant and
    failed to account for the costs of child care necessary for her to obtain full-time
    employment; artificially adjusted the marital lifestyle downward; incorrectly
    calculated defendant's tax rate; incorrectly analyzed her CIS; and did not
    allocate the surplus in plaintiff's income to meet her needs.
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    Courts may award alimony "as the circumstances of the parties and the
    nature of the case shall render fit, reasonable and just[.]" N.J.S.A. 2A:34-23. In
    a review of an alimony award, we defer to the trial judge's findings. Overbay v.
    Overbay, 
    376 N.J. Super. 99
    , 106 (App. Div. 2005). We will not overturn an
    alimony award unless we find
    the trial court clearly abused its discretion or failed to
    consider all of the controlling legal principles, or we
    must otherwise be satisfied that the findings were
    mistaken or that the determination could not reasonably
    have been reached on sufficient credible evidence
    present in the record after considering all of the proofs
    as a whole.
    [Gonzalez-Posse v. Ricciardulli, 
    410 N.J. Super. 340
    ,
    354 (App. Div. 2009) (citing Rolnick v. Rolnick, 
    262 N.J. Super. 343
    , 360 (App. Div. 1993)).]
    However, "failure to consider all of the controlling legal principles
    requires a remand." 
    Ibid. (quoting Boardman v.
    Boardman, 
    314 N.J. Super. 340
    ,
    345 (App. Div. 1998)). "An alimony award that lacks consideration of the
    factors set forth in N.J.S.A. 2A:34-23(b) is inadequate[.]" Crews v. Crews, 
    164 N.J. 11
    , 26 (2000).
    Here, the trial judge considered the statutory factors and awarded
    defendant limited duration alimony of $600 per week payable for six years
    following the sale of the marital residence. The duration of alimony awarded
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    considered the period of pendente lite support, which lasted five years and three
    months. The judge also imputed income of $32,000 per year to defendant and
    utilized a seven percent tax rate for defendant to determine the alimony sum.
    We reject defendant's claim the income from the stock options should have
    been considered as part of the alimony award. Although income from assets is
    a statutory consideration, N.J.S.A. 2A:34-23(b)(10) and (11), the options
    plaintiff acquired were worth one penny each and did not increase in value.
    We reject defendant's claims regarding the income imputation.
    "Imputation of income is a discretionary matter not capable of precise or exact
    determination[,] but rather require[es] a trial judge to realistically appraise
    capacity to earn and job availability." Elrom v. Elrom, 
    439 N.J. Super. 424
    , 434
    (App. Div. 2015) (alterations in original) (quoting 
    Gnall, 432 N.J. Super. at 158
    ). In Elrom, we noted the authority to impute income
    is incorporated in the New Jersey Child Support
    Guidelines (Guidelines).     See R. 5:6A (adopting
    Guidelines set forth in Appendix IX-A to the Court
    Rules). The Guidelines state:
    [i]f the court finds that either parent
    is, without just cause, voluntarily
    underemployed or unemployed, it shall
    impute income to that parent according to
    the following priorities:
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    a. impute income based
    on potential employment and
    earning capacity using the
    parent's     work      history,
    occupational qualifications,
    educational background, and
    prevailing job opportunities in
    the region. The court may
    impute income based on the
    parent's former income at that
    person's usual or former
    occupation or the average
    earnings for that occupation as
    reported by the New Jersey
    Department        of     Labor
    (NJDOL);
    b. if potential earnings
    cannot be determined, impute
    income based on the parent's
    most recent wage or benefit
    record[.]
    [Id. at 435 (first alteration in original) (quoting Child
    Support Guidelines, Pressler & Verniero, Current N.J.
    Court Rules, comment 12 on Appendix IX-A to R. 5:6A
    at 2635 (2015)).]
    Furthermore,
    [c]onsiderations involving children must be weighed
    when imputing income. . . . [T]he Guidelines discuss
    the need to account for young children's needs when
    imputing income to [a] parent . . . stating:
    In determining whether income
    should be imputed to a parent and the
    amount of such income, the court should
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    consider: (1) what the employment status
    and earning capacity of that parent would
    have been if the family had remained intact
    or would have formed, (2) the reason and
    intent for the voluntary underemployment
    or unemployment, (3) the availability of
    other assets that may be used to pay
    support, and (4) the ages of any children in
    the parent's household and child-care
    alternatives. . . . When imputing income to
    a parent who is caring for young children,
    the parent's income share of child-care
    costs necessary to allow that person to
    work outside the home shall be deducted
    from the imputed income.
    [Pressler & Verniero, comment 12 on Appendix
    IX-A to R. 5:6A at 2635.]
    On this issue, the Supreme Court has "noted that
    '[t]he key to both the [G]uidelines and the statutory
    factors is flexibility and the best interest of children.'"
    The importance of addressing a child's needs because
    of health or tender years may dictate the proximity of
    parental employment.
    [Id. at 439-40 (last three alterations in original)
    (citations omitted).]
    This imputation rubric applies equally to alimony. 
    Id. at 435-36.
    The record amply supports the income imputation. Defendant's earning
    history demonstrated she earned approximately $35,000 per year in 1998 and
    1999, as a cosmetologist. Also, in light of the college education defendant
    already possessed, and her enrollment in Monmouth University, the judge
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    considered the United States Bureau of Labor Statistics median wage for a
    college graduate with a bachelor's of arts degree, which was $59,124 per year.
    However, exercising her discretion, and considering defendant's absence from
    the labor market, the judge imputed an income of half the amount, a figure less
    than what defendant previously earned. Moreover, the judge noted defendant
    could return to work on a full-time basis because both children attended school
    during the day. For these reasons, we are satisfied the income imputation was
    based on the credible evidence in the record.
    Defendant argues that the court erred in downwardly adjusting the marital
    lifestyle from the actual sums expended during the marriage. The standard of
    living during the marriage serves as the "touchstone" for alimony. 
    Crews, 164 N.J. at 16
    . Whenever possible, the alimony award should be set at an amount
    that will "enable each party to live a lifestyle 'reasonably comparable' to the
    marital standard of living." 
    Id. at 26
    (citing N.J.S.A. 2A:34-23(b)(4)).
    In Hughes v. Hughes, 
    311 N.J. Super. 15
    , 34 (App. Div. 1998), we
    reversed a trial court's finding which artificially lowered a family's standard of
    living to exclude the portion of the lifestyle financed by debt. We stated:
    As to the question of the standard set during the
    marriage, the judge distinguished between the standard
    at which the parties actually lived and that which he
    determined they should have lived, what he called the
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    "real" standard of living, without resort to excessive
    borrowing. The judge here confused two concepts. The
    standard of living during the marriage is the way the
    couple actually lived, whether they resorted to
    borrowing and parental support, or if they limited
    themselves to their earned income.
    [Ibid.]
    Here, the judge noted the joint marital lifestyle, expressed on a monthly
    basis in each party's CIS, namely, $12,004 for plaintiff and $13,564 for
    defendant. However, the judge's decision "adjusted" the expenses. In analyzing
    plaintiff's representation of the joint marital lifestyle, the judge reduced the
    schedule C expenses listed as "other" by $1518 and concluded "these expenses
    are unexplained; rider is not attached[.]" Thus, the judge concluded the joint
    marital expenses were $10,486 per month and the monthly deficit, based on
    plaintiff's net income of $9100 per month, was $1386.
    Defendant's CIS projected a joint marital budget of $13,564 per month.
    The trial judge adjusted defendant's schedule A budget upwards because it
    understated the mortgage. The judge deducted $969 from defendant's schedule
    C budget for various items and stated "[t]he [c]ourt [finds] these expenses to be
    excessive[.]" Thus, the judge concluded the joint marital lifestyle pursuant to
    the defendant's CIS was $12,595 per month.
    The judge concluded:
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    Based on the above analysis, the parties were living
    above their means since plaintiff was the only party
    working and both parties agree that the joint marital
    lifestyle exceeded $12,000[] net per month. After this
    [c]ourt adjusted both parties' expenses downward, their
    joint marital lifestyle expenses remain at least
    $10,500[], which exceeded plaintiff's net monthly
    income of approximately $9100[] per month by at least
    $1400[], and even more so if this [c]ourt were to
    accredit defendant's CIS. This [c]ourt, however, does
    not accredit defendant's CIS as it is excessive. But the
    point remains, the parties' expenses exceeded plaintiff's
    income.
    The judge concluded "[t]he standard of living established by the parties was
    approximately $11,000[] per month[.]"
    Pursuant to Hughes, we agree with defendant the judge could not "adjust"
    the marital lifestyle on account of its excesses. However, considering the judge's
    conclusion that defendant lacked credibility altogether, this error was harmless
    and not "clearly capable of producing an unjust result." R. 2:10-2. The judge
    clearly based the finding of the marital standard of living on plaintiff's CIS,
    which she found credible. The adjustments she made to his projection of the
    lifestyle were not on account of excess, but for a lack of evidence to corroborate
    a segment of the schedule C expenses. For these reasons the judge's findings
    regarding lifestyle were not reversible error.
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    Defendant argues the trial judge's alimony determination utilized the
    incorrect tax rate. Specifically, the judge used a seven percent tax rate, which
    defendant asserts yielded a higher net income than the sum she would realize if
    her actual tax rate had been applied. We agree.
    The trial judge did not explain how she derived the seven percent tax rate,
    and we can find no support for its use in the record. Moreover, the tax rate
    utilized in the child support guidelines projected defendant's tax rate to be
    fourteen percent. For these reasons, we are constrained to remand this aspect of
    the alimony determination for further consideration by the trial judge.
    Defendant also argues the judge also did not explain how she determined
    a housing expense of $2000 per month for each party. The judge's decision
    allotted each party this sum as a shelter expense, but gave no reasons for doing
    so, and the record lacked evidence to support the expense. For these reasons,
    we remand this aspect of the alimony determination for further findings. R. 1:7-
    4(a).
    Defendant argues the trial judge's analysis of her needs was erroneous.
    She argues the judge's deduction of certain expenses for her car, vacations,
    professional, educational, food, and household supplies was reversible error.
    We are unpersuaded.
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    As we noted, defendant failed to file an updated CIS. Moreover, the judge
    noted her CIS was incomplete. Defendant's CIS asserted her current needs were
    $11,902 per month. This figure exceeded the joint marital lifestyle, and did not
    include plaintiff's share of the expenses and the fact defendant did not have the
    children for fifty percent of the time. The judge reduced defendant's budget to
    $7534 per month, which exceeded her finding plaintiff's monthly needs were
    $6656. The judge noted defendant's auto loan payment was overstated and the
    schedule C expenses were adjusted because there was "no support . . . provided
    to the [c]ourt." The judge reduced expenses for items on defendant's CIS that
    were "excessive" and/or "no support" for them was provided. For these reasons,
    the judge's findings were not an abuse of discretion.
    Defendant argues the court left plaintiff with a budgetary surplus of $1320
    per month and did not explain why she did not allocate the sum between the
    parties. We reject this argument because an alimony award does not mandate
    an income equalization.     Moreover, the judge imposed the majority of the
    responsibility for the children's extracurricular expenses and special classes for
    the parties' elder daughter, including "Hippotherapy, social skills classes,
    computer camp, and speech therapy," on plaintiff. Thus, we find no error in this
    aspect of the judge's determination.
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    C.
    Defendant challenges the child support award and argues the judge's
    guideline calculation included the wrong figure in the alimony line item and
    incorrectly calculated the taxes. She argues the judgment's imposition of a
    requirement that she submit the children's extracurricular expenses to plaintiff
    for reimbursement, or otherwise waive a reimbursement, was tantamount to an
    illegal waiver of child support.
    The judgment requires plaintiff to pay child support at a rate of thirty-nine
    dollars per week, utilizing a shared parenting worksheet.         The guidelines
    attributed alimony of $645 per week to defendant, where the judge had ordered
    it payable at a rate of $600. The judge utilized a seven percent tax rate, as we
    previously noted, in arriving at the $645 figure, reasoning she had to utilize a
    greater figure to account for the taxability of alimony.
    The child support calculation was erroneous because the guidelines
    consider taxes on income from all sources, including alimony and deduct taxes
    in accordance with the recipient's total adjusted gross income. See Use of the
    Child Support Guidelines, Pressler & Verniero, Current N.J. Court Rules,
    Appendix IX-B to R. 5:6A, lines 1c, 2 and 2a, www.gannlaw.com (2018). For
    these reasons, we reverse and remand the child support award for a recalculation.
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    Given the difficult history of this case and the adversarial nature of the
    parties' interactions, we find no error in the trial judge's imposition of a system
    to assure the reimbursement of the children's extracurricular activity expenses.
    The reimbursement mechanism established by the judge incentivizes defendant
    to cooperate with plaintiff by denying her a reimbursement if she fails to submit
    receipts and proof of payment for the children's activities. This does not equate
    with a child support waiver because plaintiff could continue to fund the
    children's expense, and seek enforcement of defendant's share of the obligation
    through the entry of a judgment or adjustment of alimony or child support in the
    event she failed to cooperate. See Rule 5:3-7(b)(1), (2), and (8).
    D.
    Defendant challenges the equitable distribution award. She asserts: the
    credit card debt was discharged in bankruptcy, therefore plaintiff should not
    have been awarded equitable distribution to enable him to satisfy his
    responsibility for the debt; the judge should have ordered an equitable
    distribution of stock options awarded to plaintiff one year after the filing of the
    complaint for divorce; the judge failed to consider her argument that plaintiff's
    failure to apply for Hurricane Sandy funds to repair the former marital residence
    was a form of dissipation; the judge erred when she determined defendant had
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    dissipated the marital estate by sending money to her family; and the judge erred
    by ordering the sale of the marital residence.
    "[T]he goal of equitable distribution . . . is to effect a
    fair and just division of marital [property]." Steneken
    v. Steneken, 
    183 N.J. 290
    , 299 (2005) (quoting
    Steneken v. Steneken, 
    367 N.J. Super. 427
    , 434 (App.
    Div. 2004)). After a trial judge identifies the marital
    assets and determines the value of each asset, the judge
    must decide "how such allocation can most equitably
    be made." Rothman v. Rothman, 
    65 N.J. 219
    , 232
    (1974). This demands more than simply "mechanical
    division[,]" it requires a "weighing of the many
    considerations and circumstances . . . presented in each
    case." Stout v. Stout, 
    155 N.J. Super. 196
    , 205 (App.
    Div. 1977), overruled on other grounds by Petersen v.
    Petersen, 
    85 N.J. 638
    , 643, n.2 (1981). This is because
    equitable distribution "reflects a public policy that is 'at
    least in part an acknowledgment that marriage is a
    shared enterprise, a joint undertaking, that in many
    ways [] is akin to a partnership.'" Thieme v. Aucoin-
    Thieme, 
    227 N.J. 269
    , 284 (2016) (quoting Smith v.
    Smith, 
    72 N.J. 350
    , 361 (1977) (quoting 
    Rothman, 65 N.J. at 229
    )).
    However, an equitable distribution does not presume an
    equal distribution. See 
    Rothman, 65 N.J. at 232
    n.6.
    Rather, N.J.S.A. 2A:34-23.1, requires an equitable
    distribution be "designed to advance the policy of
    promoting equity and fair dealing between divorcing
    spouses." Barr v. Barr, 
    418 N.J. Super. 18
    , 45 (App.
    Div. 2011). This policy is best implemented by
    evaluating the facts and evidence associated with each
    asset.
    [M.G. v. S.M., __ N.J. Super. __, __ (App. Div. 2018
    (slip. op. at 9-10) (alterations in original).]
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    Pursuant to these principles, and having considered the judge's decision
    and the record, we are convinced the challenges raised to the equitable
    distribution lack merit and do not warrant further discussion. R. 2:11-3(e)(1)(E).
    E.
    Defendant challenges the judge's award of an IRA and a small bank
    account to plaintiff to satisfy counsel fees. Specifically, she claims the judge
    undervalued the IRA by assuming a hypothetical tax obligation for liquidation
    of the account and awarding its entirety to plaintiff. Defendant asserts the judge
    could not award counsel fees to plaintiff for his attorney's efforts in the
    bankruptcy matter.    She also argues the judge should have undertaken an
    independent analysis of counsel fees, which another judge pendente lite had
    found defendant should pay plaintiff. Defendant claims the judge should have
    awarded her counsel fees.
    Rule 5:3-5(c) lists nine factors the court must consider in making an award
    of counsel fees in a family action. Essentially,
    in awarding counsel fees, the court must consider
    whether the party requesting the fees is in financial
    need; whether the party against whom the fees are
    sought has the ability to pay; the good or bad faith of
    either party in pursuing or defending the action; the
    nature and extent of the services rendered; and the
    reasonableness of the fees.
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    [Mani v. Mani, 
    183 N.J. 70
    , 94-95 (2005) (emphasis
    omitted) (citing Williams v. Willaims, 
    59 N.J. 229
    , 233
    (1971)).]
    An award "of counsel fees is discretionary, and will not be reversed except upon
    a showing of an abuse of discretion."       
    Barr, 418 N.J. Super. at 46
    (citing
    Packard-Bamberger & Co., v. Collier, 
    167 N.J. 427
    , 444 (2001)).
    We conclude there is ample evidence in the record to support the trial
    judge's award of counsel fees to plaintiff, as opposed to defendant. The judge's
    opinion explained in detail how defendant acted in bad faith by dissipating
    assets, pursuing unreasonable pendente lite applications, and involving the
    Division through reports of alleged child abuse or neglect. The judge further
    explained how defendant delayed the litigation by discharging multiple
    attorneys, including during the trial, and filing for bankruptcy.
    Plaintiff's IRA was valued at $93,834. We find no error in the trial judge's
    valuation, which reduced its value by twenty-six percent to account for a ten
    percent liquidation penalty and a sixteen percent tax. This calculation was not
    hypothetical because, as plaintiff's counsel confirmed during oral argument,
    plaintiff would need to liquidate the asset in order to pay his counsel fees, which
    totaled more than $140,000, excluding this appeal.
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    Furthermore, we find no error in the award of $5429 in counsel fees to
    plaintiff related to the bankruptcy litigation because those fees were incurred to
    preserve marital assets, namely, the former marital residence and Sandy-related
    insurance proceeds. Additionally, the trial judge's award of $2108, relating to a
    pendente lite motion argued before a motion judge in May 2012, was not
    erroneous. The motion judge's order had preserved plaintiff's right to seek
    counsel fees at a final hearing for the successful defense of a pendente lite
    motion filed by defendant. The trial judge's award of $2108 in counsel fees for
    this motion was not erroneous because the record demonstrates plaintiff incurred
    $5790 in counsel fees during the months of April and May 2012 to defend the
    motion.
    F.
    Finally, defendant challenges the trial judge's findings on credibility. In
    addition to the deference we owe to a trial judge's credibility findings, we add
    that defendant's arguments in this regard lack merit because the record simply
    does not support the suggestion the judge's credibility findings were erroneous.
    To the extent we have not addressed an argument raised by defendant in
    this appeal it is because it is without sufficient merit to warrant discussion in a
    written opinion. R. 2:11-3(e)(1)(E).
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    Affirmed in part, reversed and remanded in part for further proceedings
    consistent with this opinion. We do not retain jurisdiction.
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