Samuel Randall Friedsam, III v. Frankie Michelle Krisle ( 2022 )


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  •                                                                                         08/25/2022
    IN THE COURT OF APPEALS OF TENNESSEE
    AT NASHVILLE
    May 17, 2022 Session
    SAMUEL RANDALL FRIEDSAM, III, v. FRANKIE MICHELLE KRISLE
    Appeal from the Chancery Court for Rutherford County
    No. 19CV-537      J. Mark Rogers, Judge
    ___________________________________
    No. M2021-00530-COA-R3-CV
    ___________________________________
    Mother appeals the trial court’s decision to award Father equal parenting time with the
    child, arguing that limitations are warranted under Tennessee Code Annotated section 36-
    6-406. We affirm the trial court’s findings that neither abandonment nor abusive conflict
    support limitations on parenting time under section 36-6-406. We vacate the trial court’s
    finding that limitations are not warranted due to physical abuse or a pattern of emotional
    abuse because the trial court made no finding as to whether such abuse occurred. Finally,
    Mother’s argument as to the exclusion of evidence is waived, as she made no offer of proof
    Tenn. R. App. P. 3 Appeal as of Right; Judgment of the Chancery Court Affirmed
    in Part; Vacated in Part; and Remanded
    J. STEVEN STAFFORD, P.J., W.S., delivered the opinion of the court, in which ARNOLD B.
    GOLDIN and CARMA DENNIS MCGEE, JJ., joined.
    R. Michelle Howser, Murfreesboro, Tennessee, for the appellant, Frankie Michelle Krisle.
    Benjamin Lewis, Murfreesboro, Tennessee, for the appellee, Samuel Randall Friedsam,
    III.
    OPINION
    I. FACTUAL AND PROCEDURAL BACKGROUND
    This case involves the minor child of unmarried parents Plaintiff/Appellee Samuel
    Randall Friedsam, III (“Father”) and Defendant/Appellant Frankie Michelle Krisle
    (“Mother”). The child was born in September 2016. Following the child’s birth, Mother
    allowed Father to have unsupervised time with the child until an incident when the child
    was three months old. During this visit, Father called Mother because the child was crying
    uncontrollably and directed her to come get the child. Mother retrieved the child and would
    no longer permit Father contact with the child unless she or someone she chose was present.
    Father filed a petition to establish the parentage of the child and to set visitation on
    April 8, 2019 in the Rutherford County Chancery Court.1 On June 18, 2019, the parties
    entered into an agreed order establishing Father as the legal parent of the child and directing
    Father to undergo a mental examination pursuant to Rule 35 of the Tennessee Rules of
    Civil Procedure. This order further provided that Father would not be required to pay child
    support until the completion of the examination, nor would he be permitted visitation.
    Mediation later proved unsuccessful.
    Trial on the petition occurred over three days in the summer of 2020. Both Mother
    and Father submitted a proposed parenting plan. Mother’s plan allotted Father only
    supervised visits starting at two hours every other week, gradually increasing to
    unsupervised parenting time every other weekend over the course of approximately twenty-
    four weeks. Father’s plan gave the parties equal parenting time with no gradual build-up.
    The testimony of Mother, Father, and Dr. David C. Mathis, the licensed
    psychologist who performed Father’s mental examination, made up the bulk of the proof.2
    Father testified that Mother placed unreasonable restrictions on his parenting time
    following the above-described incident. Mother agreed that she prevented Father from
    having unsupervised parenting time with the child after this incident. As to this incident,
    Mother claimed that Father was parenting the child, but called her at work to inform her
    that the child would not “shut the f**k up, and I’m not dealing with it anymore.” According
    to Mother, she denied Father’s request for unsupervised time after this incident because
    she was afraid that Father would lose his temper with the child. After this incident, Father
    was able to exercise some supervised visitation with the child for a time upon his request.
    Mother never allowed Father to see the child unsupervised, although he did request it
    periodically.
    Father claimed, however, that Mother’s decision to impose restrictions on his
    visitation was about control. One example was undisputed by Mother: on Father’s Day
    weekend 2017, Mother “offered” to allow Father to see the child. But Father asked Mother
    if he could pick the child up from daycare and keep her for the entire weekend, as his son
    from a prior relationship would also be home. According to Father, he and Mother had
    previously discussed a gradual increase in his visitation. In order to prevent Father from
    picking up the child, Mother left work, picked the child up from daycare, and then kept her
    1
    Under Tennessee Code Annotated section 36-2-307, Father’s petition could have been filed in
    “juvenile court or any trial court with general jurisdiction[.]”
    2
    Father also called his current girlfriend, while Mother called a former friend of Father’s, discussed
    infra. The trial court denied Mother’s request to allow one witness, Father’s older child’s mother, to testify
    through electronic means.
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    home the rest of the day. Mother then denied Father any visitation on Father’s Day.
    Father’s supervised visitation continued until April 2018, when the parties had an
    argument over an issue unrelated to parenting. According to Father, Mother stopped
    visitation at that point and “blocked him.” In retaliation, he stopped paying child support,
    which he never resumed.3 Father was eventually able to contact Mother via email; his
    emails often dealt with the parties’ relationship rather than visitation with the child. By
    August 2018, however, Father was no longer asking Mother for visitation of any kind.
    Mother claimed that Father was both emotionally and physically abusive during the
    parties’ relationship. As for the physical abuse, Mother testified that during an argument,
    Father “charged” her, threw a phone, “butted up against” her, slapped a water bottle out of
    her hand, and “kick[ed] at [her] feet.” During another incident, Mother testified that Father
    “smacked [her] across the face” with a couch cushion because he did not have access to
    Mother’s cell phone. Mother admitted that she never sought any criminal charges against
    Father for these alleged actions, nor did she seek an order of protection against him.
    Mother also claimed that Father was emotionally abusive toward her and other
    women, which both Father and his current live-in girlfriend denied. Mother recounted that
    Father claimed that a past girlfriend with whom he had a child had committed suicide after
    their child died. But the woman who was the subject of the lie, who was very much alive,
    testified that she had never been in a romantic relationship with Father. This woman further
    testified that she is fearful of Father knowing her whereabouts, as he persisted in attempting
    to contact her after she cut off communication with him. Father denied having fabricated
    this story, but Mother submitted text messages in which he appears to admit that he “lie[d]
    about it.”
    Mother also submitted text messages in which Father claimed to have a sexually
    transmitted disease and directed Mother to get testing as well; Mother later believed that
    Father’s statement was not true. Father denied lying about the disease. Mother submitted
    many other text messages in which Father contacted Mother to renew their sexual
    relationship without asking about their child.4 In one text message, Father claimed that if
    Mother sent him a nude photo, he would “up child support.” Mother often did not engage
    with Father when he made these requests. In another text message, Father admitted that he
    has “manipulated, lied, tricked, and played games with you.” Mother also submitted emails
    from Father in which he called her derogatory names and explained that he had stopped
    paying child support because Mother “wanted to be a b***h[;] . . . . go f**k yourself
    f*****g money grubbing b***h.” Mother admitted, however, that on one occasion, she
    3
    As previously discussed, while this case was pending, the parties agreed that Father would not
    pay child support.
    4
    Father does ask about the child in other text messages, particularly in a string of texts beginning
    on February 10, 2018. Other text messages lack clear dates.
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    used the possibility of renewing the parties’ sexual relationship as a way to manipulate
    Father.
    Father underwent the agreed-upon Rule 35 examination in the summer of 2019.
    Based on his testing, conversations with Father, information submitted by Mother, and
    conservations with individuals who knew Father, Dr. Mathis concluded in his report that
    Father “has acted towards women in ways which are manipulative, deceptive, harassing
    and abusive. His past behavior has raised questions regarding his emotional functioning.”
    This caused Dr. Mathis to question whether Father’s “actions represent continued concern
    about his treatment of others[.]” Dr. Mathis stated that in the past Father
    would pursue his needs through various means of deception and
    manipulation. When confronted by his inappropriate behavior, [Father] often
    engaged in various forms of deflection and blaming rather than taking
    responsibility or making amends. These tactics fit with his negative view of
    women (harbored distrust and anger towards his mother) as well as his need
    to protect himself from confronting his own diminished view of himself.
    Based on his examination, Dr. Mathis diagnosed Father with a personality disorder,
    unspecified. In explaining this diagnosis, Dr. Mathis testified that he “chose unspecified
    because we see three different dimensions represented; avoidant personality disorder,
    narcissistic personality disorder, and antisocial.” And according to Dr. Mathis, it is
    important to remember that Father suffers from a disorder:
    The important thing is, we’re not talking about just personality features or
    tendencies, but I made the determination that it’s disorder. And disorder is
    very important in making determinations about how an individual is going to
    conduct themselves. Because a personality disorder tends not to benefit from
    experience and from guidance. And so they’re going to repeat the same
    pattern in an inflexible and enduring way.
    In conclusion, Dr. Mathis opined as follows in his report:
    I emphasized the importance of continuing psychotherapy which he had
    started with Dr. Joan Frye, Licensed Psychologist. I believe that he will need
    long-term psychotherapy that can help him process past traumas and alter the
    dysfunctional views of himself and relationships. It is my hope that [Father]
    can successfully establish a therapeutic relationship and will sustain his
    involvement. With appropriate guidance, [Father] has the potential to
    develop healthy feelings about himself and healthy beliefs to instruct how he
    relates to others. Such improvement in his emotional health and the range of
    appropriate skills would greatly enhance the possibilities of being a
    conscientious, secure parent as well as a cooperative co-parent.
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    Dr. Mathis declined, however, during his testimony to give an opinion as to the resolution
    of this custody dispute, noting that he had not been retained for that purpose.
    The trial court made a detailed oral ruling on August 12, 2020, which was eventually
    memorialized by Mother into a written order filed on February 22, 2021. Therein, the trial
    court denied Mother’s request to restrict Father’s parenting time under Tennessee Code
    Annotated section 36-6-406. Instead, the trial court ruled that the parties should enjoy equal
    parenting time, which schedule was to be implemented on a gradual basis.5 Mother filed a
    motion to alter or amend, in which she specifically raised the fact that the trial court made
    no findings as to whether Father had physically or emotionally abused Mother;6 the trial
    court denied the motion to alter or amend in its entirety. Mother thereafter appealed.7
    II. ISSUES PRESENTED
    Mother raises three issues, which are taken from her brief and slightly restated:
    1. Whether the trial court erred by awarding a shared parenting schedule and not
    limiting Father’s time with the minor child as dictated in Tennessee Code Annotated
    section 36-6-406, when there was clear evidence Father had willfully abandoned
    and had not assumed parenting responsibilities for a protracted period of time.
    5
    The gradual plan increased Father’s visitation to equal time over a period of approximately ten
    weeks.
    6
    This portion of Mother’s motion is likely best described as a motion for additional findings under
    Rule 52.02 of the Tennessee Rules of Civil Procedure, which governs motions asking the court to amend
    or make findings of fact. See Pickard v. Ferrell, 
    325 S.W.2d 288
    , 292–93 (Tenn. Ct. App. 1959) (noting
    that motions should be judged by their content, rather than their caption).
    7
    In its final order, the trial court awarded Mother attorney’s fees expended in connection with her
    effort to secure child support. The trial court directed Mother’s counsel to calculate the time and noted that
    this amount “shall be awarded as a judgment against Father.” No further orders contained in the record
    award Mother a specific amount in attorney’s fees. Generally, the failure to finalize an award of attorney’s
    fees renders an order non-final for purposes of this Court’s subject matter jurisdiction. See, e.g., City of
    Jackson v. Hersh, No. W2008-02360-COA-R3-CV, 
    2009 WL 2601380
    , at *4 (Tenn. Ct. App. Aug. 25,
    2009) (“This Court has concluded on several occasions that an order that fails to address an outstanding
    request for attorney’s fees is not final.”); Scott v. Noland Co., No. 03A01-9407-CV-00248, 
    1995 WL 11177
    , at *1 (Tenn. Ct. App. Jan. 12, 1995) (“Since there is no order in the record before us finally disposing
    of the Plaintiffs’ claim for attorney fees at the trial level, the ‘Final Judgment’ from which this appeal is
    being pursued is not a final order and hence not appealable as of right under Tenn. R. App. P. 3(a).”
    (footnote omitted)). In this case, neither party appears to contest the award of attorney’s fees. Because this
    case involves the stability of a minor child, we exercise our discretion to consider this appeal
    notwithstanding the apparent failure to finally resolve the issue of attorney’s fees. See Bayberry Assocs. v.
    Jones, 
    783 S.W.2d 553
    , 559 (Tenn. 1990) (holding that the finality requirement of Rule 3(a) of the
    Tennessee Rules of Appellate Procedure could be waived under Rule 2) (citing Tenn. R. App.
    P. 2 (allowing the suspension of our appellate procedure rules for good cause, except as to certain rules not
    applicable here)).
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    2. Whether the trial court erred by awarding a shared parenting schedule and not
    limiting Father’s time with the minor child as provided in Tennessee Code
    Annotated section 36-6-406, when a history of domestic abuse and discord was
    demonstrated by Father against Mother.
    3. Whether the trial court erred by refusing to allow an unavailable witness to testify
    by electronic means which would have demonstrated further abuse suffered by
    Mother at the hands of Father and discounted Father’s assertions of an agreeable
    relationship with his other child’s mother.
    III. ANALYSIS
    A.
    The central issue in this case is the trial court’s imposition of an equal parenting
    schedule. “While a trial court has broad discretion in fashioning a parenting plan, the
    touchstone is the best interest of the child.” Smallbone v. Smallbone, No. M2020-01556-
    COA-R3-CV, 
    2022 WL 1405655
    , at *4 (Tenn. Ct. App. May 4, 2022) (citing 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-106
    (a) (2017); Maupin v. Maupin, 
    420 S.W.3d 761
    , 770 (Tenn. Ct. App.
    2013)). While a trial court’s determination of whether a parenting plan serves a child’s best
    interest is a finding of fact, Armbrister v. Armbrister, 
    414 S.W.3d 685
    , 692 (Tenn. 2013),
    “determining the details of parenting plans is ‘peculiarly within the broad discretion of the
    trial judge.’” Id. at 693 (quoting Suttles v. Suttles, 
    748 S.W.2d 427
    , 429 (Tenn. 1988)). As
    a result,
    “It is not the function of appellate courts to tweak a [residential parenting
    schedule] in the hopes of achieving a more reasonable result than the trial
    court.” Eldridge v. Eldridge, 
    42 S.W.3d 82
    , 88 (Tenn. 2001). A trial court’s
    decision regarding the details of a residential parenting schedule should not
    be reversed absent an abuse of discretion. 
    Id.
     “An abuse of discretion occurs
    when the trial court . . . appl[ies] an incorrect legal standard, reaches an
    illogical result, resolves the case on a clearly erroneous assessment of the
    evidence, or relies on reasoning that causes an injustice.” Gonsewski v.
    Gonsewski, 
    350 S.W.3d 99
    , 105 (Tenn. 2011). A trial court abuses its
    discretion in establishing a residential parenting schedule “only when the
    trial court’s ruling falls outside the spectrum of rulings that might reasonably
    result from an application of the correct legal standards to the evidence found
    in the record.” Eldridge, 
    42 S.W.3d at 88
    .
    Armbrister, 414 S.W.3d at 693.
    Generally, a parenting plan should allow each parent maximum participation in the
    life of the child consistent with “the location of the residences of the parents, the child’s
    need for stability,” and the non-exclusive best interest factors contained in section
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    36-6-106(a)(1)–(15).8 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-106
    (a). This provision does not, however,
    “mandate that the trial court establish a parenting schedule that provides equal parenting
    time[.]” Gooding v. Gooding, 
    477 S.W.3d 774
    , 784 n.7 (Tenn. Ct. App. 2015). Instead,
    “[t]he plain language of [s]ection 36-6-106(a) directs courts to order custody arrangements
    that allow each parent to enjoy the maximum possible participation in the child’s life only
    to the extent that doing so is consistent with the child’s best interests.” Flynn v.
    Stephenson, No. E2019-00095-COA-R3-JV, 
    2019 WL 4072105
    , at *7 (Tenn. Ct. App.
    Aug. 29, 2019) (quoting In re Cannon H., No. W2015-01947-COA-R3-JV, 
    2016 WL 5819218
    , at *6 (Tenn. Ct. App. Oct. 5, 2016)).
    Tennessee Code Annotated section 36-6-406 provides one mechanism for limiting
    a parent’s time with his or her child. At the time that Father filed his petition, section
    36-6-406(a) provided as follows:
    The permanent parenting plan and the mechanism for approval of the
    permanent parenting plan shall not utilize dispute resolution, and a parent’s
    residential time as provided in the permanent parenting plan or temporary
    parenting plan shall be limited if it is determined by the court, based upon a
    prior order or other reliable evidence, that a parent has engaged in any of the
    following conduct:
    (1) Willful abandonment that continues for an extended period of time or
    substantial refusal to perform parenting responsibilities; or
    (2) Physical or sexual abuse or a pattern of emotional abuse of the parent,
    child or of another person living with that child as defined in § 36-3-601.
    The statute further provided that “[a] parent’s involvement or conduct may have an adverse
    effect on the child’s best interest, and the court may preclude or limit any provisions of a
    parenting plan, if any of the following limiting factors are found to exist after a hearing[,]”
    including the “abusive use of conflict by the parent that creates the danger of damage to
    the child’s psychological development[.]” 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-406
    (d) & (d)(5).
    By the time of the trial court’s oral ruling, however, the initial paragraph of this
    statute had been amended to also include an express reference to the child’s best interest.
    In particular, subsection (a), as amended, now provides as follows:
    The permanent parenting plan and the mechanism for approval of the
    permanent parenting plan shall not utilize dispute resolution, and a parent’s
    8
    The best interest factors changed slightly during the pendency of this appeal to include a new
    factor (16): “[w]hether a parent has failed to pay court-ordered child support for a period of three (3) years
    or more[.]” See 2022 Tenn. Laws Pub. Ch. 671 (H.B. 1866), eff. March 18, 2022. Neither the trial court nor
    the parties have asserted that this new factor has any application to this case.
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    residential time as provided in the permanent parenting plan or temporary
    parenting plan shall be limited if the limitation is found to be in the best
    interest of the minor child and if the court determines, based upon a prior
    order or other reliable evidence, that a parent has engaged in any of the
    following conduct: [including the same provisions as set forth above].
    
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-406
    (a) (2020); see also 2020 Tenn. Laws Pub. Ch. 693 (S.B.
    2733), eff. June 11, 2020 (emphasis added) (enacting this amendment). Here, the trial
    court’s oral ruling makes clear that he was applying the newly amended version of section
    36-6-406 to this cause of action. Although Mother cites the earlier version of the statute in
    her brief, she makes no argument that reference to the amended statute was in error.
    Still, based on the Tennessee Constitution, “statutes are presumed to operate
    prospectively unless the legislature clearly indicates otherwise.” In re D.A.H., 
    142 S.W.3d 267
    , 273 (Tenn. 2004) (citing Nutt v. Champion Int’l Corp., 
    980 S.W.2d 365
    , 368 (Tenn.
    1998)). The Tennessee Supreme Court has noted, however, that statutes may be applied
    retrospectively when they are merely procedural or remedial:
    Statutes deemed remedial or procedural apply retrospectively to causes of
    action arising before such acts became law and to suits pending when the
    legislation took effect.
    A procedural or remedial statute is one that does not affect the vested rights
    or liabilities of the parties. A procedural statute is one that addresses the mode
    or proceeding by which a legal right is enforced. Remedial statutes are
    defined as “legislation providing means or method whereby causes of action
    may be effectuated, wrongs redressed and relief obtained. . . .”
    
    Id.
     (quoting State Dep’t of Human Servs. v. Defriece, 
    937 S.W.2d 954
    , 958 (Tenn. Ct.
    App. 1996)). One type of remedial law is “passed to correct or modify an existing law[.]”
    Black’s Law Dictionary 1407 (9th ed. 2009). But even a procedural or remedial law cannot
    be applied retrospectively if it impairs a vested right. Doe v. Sundquist, 
    2 S.W.3d 919
    ,
    923–24 (Tenn. 1999).
    We conclude that the change to section 36-6-406 merely recognizes and clarifies
    the long-held principle that all questions concerning the welfare of children are addressed
    to the child’s best interest. See, e.g., 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-106
    (a) (stating that custody
    determinations “shall be made on the basis of the best interest of the child”); 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-401
     (“In any proceeding between parents under this chapter, the best interests
    of the child shall be the standard by which the court determines and allocates the parties’
    parental responsibilities.”); Kelly v. Kelly, 
    445 S.W.3d 685
    , 696 (Tenn. 2014) (“The
    overarching ‘standard by which courts determine and allocate the parties’ parental
    responsibilities’ after divorce is the ‘best interests of the child.’”) (quoting 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-401
    (a); citing Luke v. Luke, 
    651 S.W.2d 219
    , 221 (Tenn. 1983) (observing
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    that “the welfare of the child has always been the paramount consideration” for
    determining child custody and visitation); Holloway v. Bradley, 
    190 Tenn. 565
    , 571, 
    230 S.W.2d 1003
    , 1006 (Tenn. 1950) (“The supreme rule to which all others should yield is the
    welfare and best interest of the child.”)). As a result, even without the express invocation
    of the best interest standard in section 36-6-406(a), the trial court would have been required
    to consider the child’s best interests under the framework that existed prior to the
    amendment. Given this fact and Mother’s choice not to claim error in the trial court’s
    citation of the amended statute, we conclude that the statute should be treated as merely
    remedial in this case. As such, there is no error in the trial court’s reliance on the 2020
    amendment to section 36-6-406(a).
    We therefore return to Mother’s argument concerning section 36-6-406(a). We
    begin with subsection (1), which provides that a parent’s time “shall be limited” if the
    parent has committed “[w]illful abandonment that continues for an extended period of time
    or substantial refusal to perform parenting responsibilities[.]” 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6
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    406(a)(1). The trial court specifically found that Mother had not proven that that Father
    had willfully abandoned the child as required under this subsection. Mother asserts that
    this was error, citing Father’s failure to exercise visitation with the child for more than a
    year before he filed his petition. Father asserts that this issue was not raised before the trial
    court and should be waived. Respectfully, we disagree. Here, in opening arguments before
    the trial court, Mother’s counsel clearly raised the issue of abandonment under section 36-
    6-406(a)(1). Father has not pointed out where he objected to this issue being raised at trial.
    The trial court’s oral ruling does suggest that this issue was not adequately “pursued or
    submitted on behalf of Mother to be the factor that is to be at issue.” But the trial court
    nevertheless ruled on the issue of abandonment. So we conclude that Mother’s argument
    as to this subsection does not succumb to waiver.
    But we cannot conclude that the evidence preponderates against the trial court’s
    finding that Mother failed to show abandonment under the statute. To be sure, the trial
    court’s written order contains little analysis to support the denial of limitations under this
    subsection. But the trial court’s oral ruling contains additional reasoning. This dichotomy
    illustrates one of the initial difficulties with this case: the trial court’s written order contains
    far less detail than its oral ruling.
    Under Rule 52.01 of the Tennessee Rules of Civil Procedure, in bench trials, trial
    courts are required to make findings of fact and conclusions of law to support their rulings.
    This means that the findings of fact and conclusions of law must be contained or
    incorporated into the trial court’s written order, as the court speaks through its orders and
    not through the transcript of the proceedings. In re Navada N., 
    498 S.W.3d 579
    , 594 (Tenn.
    Ct. App. 2016) (citing Williams v. City of Burns, 
    465 S.W.3d 96
    , 119 (Tenn. 2015)). When
    the trial court fails to comply with Rule 52.01, the appropriate remedy is generally to vacate
    the trial court’s judgment and remand the case to the trial court for written findings of fact
    and conclusions of law. State ex rel. Schrita O. v. Robert T., No. W2017-00073-COA-R3-
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    JV, 
    2017 WL 5501345
    , at *4 (Tenn. Ct. App. Nov. 16, 2017). We may exercise our
    discretion, however, to “soldier on” with our review when the case involves only a clear
    legal issue or when the trial court’s decision is “readily ascertainable.” Hanson v. J.C.
    Hobbs Co., No. W2011-02523-COA-R3-CV, 
    2012 WL 5873582
    , at *10 (Tenn. Ct. App.
    Nov. 21, 2012). We have previously held that a trial court’s reasoning was readily
    ascertainable when both the written order and transcript were considered in tandem. See
    Mabie v. Mabie, No. W2015-01699-COA-R3-CV, 
    2017 WL 77105
    , at *3 (Tenn. Ct. App.
    Jan. 9, 2017) (“Nevertheless, because the trial court’s reasoning is evident to some extent
    from its oral and written rulings . . . , we choose to exercise our discretion and proceed to
    consider the merits of the alimony award.”). But see In re Navada N., 
    498 S.W.3d at 594
    (declining to “parse the record” in search of support for the trial court’s ruling).
    This case contains a separately bound transcript setting forth the trial court’s nearly
    100-page oral ruling. In comparison, the written order is eleven pages long. And it appears
    that the party that takes issue with the trial court’s written order—Mother—is actually the
    party that drafted the written order in this case.9 So it makes little sense to allow Mother to
    capitalize on the differences between the oral ruling and the written order when she herself
    was the drafter of the written order. Under these unique circumstances, we conclude that
    both the trial court’s written and oral rulings should be considered in this appeal. But as
    our analysis later makes clear, even this action does not cure all of the deficiencies with
    the trial court’s ruling.
    Returning to the issue of abandonment, the trial court’s oral ruling provides as
    follows:
    One could say that the father not being in this child’s life and not having
    availed himself earlier, much earlier that he sought, could arguably be some
    type of abandonment, or his failure to pay child support, a substantial refusal
    to perform parenting responsibilities. But as I’ve already found, there’s an
    agreed order where the parties agreed not to set visitation and not to set child
    support after it had voluntarily been paid and there had been some voluntarily
    limited visitation. But I don’t find this factor to have been proven.
    Thus, the trial court concluded that at least some of Father’s failure to be involved in the
    child’s life was with Mother’s consent. And elsewhere the trial court found that Mother
    had “done nothing” to facilitate the relationship between Father and the child, despite
    Father’s requests early on. In a different context, this Court has held that abandonment is
    not willful if another party’s behavior “amounts to a significant restraint of
    or interference with the parent’s efforts to support or develop a relationship with the
    9
    There was a lengthy delay between the oral ruling and the written order. The record does not
    indicate the reason for this delay.
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    child.”10 In re M.L.P., No. W2007-01278-COA-R3-PT, 
    2008 WL 933086
    , at *10 (Tenn.
    Ct. App. Apr. 8, 2008) (involving termination of parental rights). Here, Mother imposed
    significant restrictions on Father’s ability to parent the child and took action to prevent him
    from developing any relationship with the child. Under these circumstances, we cannot say
    that the evidence preponderates against the trial court’s finding that Mother failed to prove
    abandonment under section 36-6-406(a)(1).
    Mother also argues that the trial court abused its discretion in not limiting Father’s
    parenting time under subsection (d)(5) where it was shown that Father engaged in “[t]he
    abusive use of conflict [] that creates the danger of damage to the child’s psychological
    development[.]” The trial court’s written ruling does not address this subsection in any
    fashion. The trial court’s oral ruling does address this issue, however, stating: “Both parties
    gave and took in this case. Each were capable of saying derogatory remarks to the other,
    and the text messages that were introduced into evidence . . . confirms such conclusion.”
    Beyond citing the statute, Mother’s brief contains no argument to undermine the trial
    court’s findings as to this subsection. As such, we conclude that Mother has not met her
    burden to show that the trial court’s determination as to this issue was in error.
    We finally turn to the portion of the statute that makes up the bulk of Mother’s
    argument in this case—section 36-6-406(a)(2). Under the amended version of this
    subsection, a parent’s time with a child shall be limited, consistent with the child’s best
    interest, if the parent has engaged in “[p]hysical or sexual abuse or a pattern of emotional
    abuse of the parent, child or of another person living with that child as defined
    in § 36-3-601.” 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-406
    (a)(2). The trial court specifically found that
    there had been no allegations of abuse to the child or any kind of sexual abuse. Rather, the
    only question was whether there had been physical abuse or a pattern of emotional abuse
    of Mother such that it was in the child’s best interests for Father’s parenting time to be
    limited.
    Mother takes issue with the fact that the trial court did not resolve the ultimate
    question of whether Father had actually engaged in physical or emotional abuse of Mother.
    We agree. Here, Mother raised allegations that Father was both physically and emotionally
    abusive toward her during their relationship and thereafter. In its written order, the trial
    court noted that Mother asked for Father’s parenting time to be limited under section
    36-6-406 and noted that it had considered various authorities regarding “Father’s alleged
    emotional abuse against her.” Ultimately, however, the trial court concluded that while
    Mother would have grounds for divorce had this been a divorce case, “this is not a divorce
    case. It is a paternity action and an action to establish a parenting schedule.” So the written
    10
    Of course, “interference with a parent’s attempts at visitation does not excuse the parent from his
    obligation to support the child financially.” In re M.L.D., 
    182 S.W.3d 890
    , 896 (Tenn. Ct. App. 2005). But
    Mother’s brief does not contain any specific argument that Father’s sporadic support should also be deemed
    willful abandonment under subsection (1). So we do not address that aspect of subsection (1).
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    order then considers the best interest factors under Tennessee Code Annotated section 36-
    6-106(a). Most of the factors favored Mother.11 The trial court did not, however,
    11
    At the time Father filed his petition and the trial court ruled, the relevant factors were as follows:
    (1) The strength, nature, and stability of the child’s relationship with each parent,
    including whether one (1) parent has performed the majority of parenting responsibilities
    relating to the daily needs of the child;
    (2) Each parent’s or caregiver’s past and potential for future performance of
    parenting responsibilities, including the willingness and ability of each of the parents and
    caregivers to facilitate and encourage a close and continuing parent-child relationship
    between the child and both of the child’s parents, consistent with the best interest of the
    child. In determining the willingness of each of the parents and caregivers to facilitate and
    encourage a close and continuing parent-child relationship between the child and both of
    the child’s parents, the court shall consider the likelihood of each parent and caregiver to
    honor and facilitate court ordered parenting arrangements and rights, and the court shall
    further consider any history of either parent or any caregiver denying parenting time to
    either parent in violation of a court order;
    (3) Refusal to attend a court ordered parent education seminar may be considered
    by the court as a lack of good faith effort in these proceedings;
    (4) The disposition of each parent to provide the child with food, clothing, medical
    care, education and other necessary care;
    (5) The degree to which a parent has been the primary caregiver, defined as the
    parent who has taken the greater responsibility for performing parental responsibilities;
    (6) The love, affection, and emotional ties existing between each parent and the
    child;
    (7) The emotional needs and developmental level of the child;
    (8) The moral, physical, mental and emotional fitness of each parent as it relates
    to their ability to parent the child. The court may order an examination of a party under
    Rule 35 of the Tennessee Rules of Civil Procedure and, if necessary for the conduct of the
    proceedings, order the disclosure of confidential mental health information of a party
    under § 33-3-105(3). The court order required by § 33-3-105(3) must contain a qualified
    protective order that limits the dissemination of confidential protected mental health
    information to the purpose of the litigation pending before the court and provides for the
    return or destruction of the confidential protected mental health information at the
    conclusion of the proceedings;
    (9) The child’s interaction and interrelationships with siblings, other relatives and
    step-relatives, and mentors, as well as the child’s involvement with the child’s physical
    surroundings, school, or other significant activities;
    (10) The importance of continuity in the child’s life and the length of time the child
    has lived in a stable, satisfactory environment;
    (11) Evidence of physical or emotional abuse to the child, to the other parent or to
    any other person. The court shall, where appropriate, refer any issues of abuse to juvenile
    court for further proceedings;
    (12) The character and behavior of any other person who resides in or frequents
    the home of a parent and such person’s interactions with the child;
    (13) The reasonable preference of the child if twelve (12) years of age or older.
    The court may hear the preference of a younger child upon request. The preference of older
    children should normally be given greater weight than those of younger children;
    (14) Each parent’s employment schedule, and the court may make
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    specifically state whether factor (11), concerning abuse, favored either party; instead, the
    court stated that it would consider that factor in the context of Dr. Mathis’s report.
    The trial court’s written order then details the findings of Dr. Mathis, including that
    Father “acted towards women in ways that are manipulative, deceptive, harassing, and
    abusive.” Moreover, the trial court noted that Dr. Mathis diagnosed Father with both a
    personality disorder, with features of avoidant narcissism and antisocial personality, as well
    as an anxiety disorder. But the trial court also noted that the only recommendation provided
    by Dr. Mathis was that Father engage in long term psychotherapy, which could help Father
    “develop healthy feelings towards himself and others.” Because there was “no proof to
    indicate Father has failed to continue his psychotherapy,” the trial court found that Father
    was doing exactly what Dr. Mathis recommended. As a result, the trial court found “no
    basis at this stage to have Father’s visitation supervised. There is nothing to indicate he
    will be a threat or harm to the child.” But the trial court does not return to factor (12) to
    resolve the question of whether Father physically abused Mother or engaged in a pattern
    of emotional abuse against her.
    Thus, the written order entered here does not resolve a central question posed by
    Mother’s arguments. And even considering the trial court’s oral ruling, we can locate no
    express finding as to whether any of the abuse that Mother alleged occurred. Indeed, even
    taking the trial court’s oral findings as a whole, we find no further illumination from which
    we might glean whether the trial court found that such abuse was actually proven in this
    case. For example, while the trial court does indeed cite some caselaw involving this issue,
    the bulk of the caselaw involved the question of whether Rule 35 examinations could be
    ordered in similar cases. Of course, this caselaw was largely irrelevant at this juncture, as
    Father voluntarily agreed to undergo the examination. Moreover, the trial court made no
    effort to apply the holdings of any of the few cases he cited involving section 36-6-406 to
    the facts of this case or to explain their relevance.
    Moreover, while the trial court recounted much of the documentary proof submitted
    by Mother in support of her claim of emotional abuse, the trial court made little mention
    of Mother’s allegations of physical violence. Indeed, when the trial court did mention
    Mother’s allegations of physical violence, it was to mischaracterize her testimony. Here,
    Mother clearly testified that Father hit her in the face with a couch cushion during an
    argument; the trial court’s oral ruling states that its recollection of Mother’s testimony was
    only that Father “threw it in her direction.”
    To be sure, even taking Mother’s testimony as to the physical violence as true, it
    accommodations consistent with those schedules; and
    (15) Any other factors deemed relevant by the court.
    The trial court found that factors (1), (2), (4), (5), and (6) favored Mother, while factors (3), (7),
    (8), (9), (10), (12), (13), (14), and (15) to be equal or inapplicable.
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    certainly was not as pervasive as Father’s alleged emotional abuse. But Mother did make
    allegations that Father had been violent toward her, which Father denied. Thus, the
    question of whether Father engaged in physical abuse hinges on the credibility of the
    parties. Trial courts are the courts “best situated to determine the credibility of the witnesses
    and to resolve factual disputes hinging on credibility determinations.” Mitchell v.
    Archibald, 
    971 S.W.2d 25
    , 29 (Tenn. Ct. App. 1998) (citing State v. Pruett, 
    788 S.W.2d 559
    , 561 (Tenn. 1990)). Consequently, the question of whether Father physically abused
    Mother is simply not a question that we can answer in this appeal absent appropriate
    findings by the trial court.
    The same is generally true of Mother’s emotional abuse allegations. Certainly, the
    trial court recounted much of the evidence presented in support of Mother’s claim of
    emotional abuse. The trial court also recounted the findings of Dr. Mathis in his expert
    opinion. But recounting the proof presented is not the same as making the findings of fact
    required to adjudicate an issue. Cf. Rosebrough v. Caldwell, No. W2018-01168-COA-R3-
    CV, 
    2019 WL 6898218
    , at*4 (Tenn. Ct. App. Dec. 18, 2019) (quoting In re S.S.-G., No.
    M2015-00055-COA-R3-PT, 
    2015 WL 7259499
    , at *12 (Tenn. Ct. App. Nov. 16, 2015)
    (“‘[A] lengthy summary of the testimony adduced at the hearing and a few credibility
    observations’ without further indicating which testimony or other evidence the trial court
    relied upon in making its decision is not sufficient to satisfy the requirement of making
    specific findings of fact.”)). Without these findings, we are left to guess whether the trial
    court considered Father’s conduct to amount to abuse. See In re K.H., No. W2008-01144-
    COA-R3-PT, 
    2009 WL 1362314
    , at *8 (Tenn. Ct. App. May 15, 2009) (recognizing that
    without findings and conclusions appellate courts are left to wonder about the basis of a
    trial court’s decision). And even if the trial court did not believe that Father’s conduct,
    however characterized, was sufficient to impose the highly restrictive parenting plan that
    Mother favored, the trial court’s order provides little illumination as to why an equal
    parenting plan was in the child’s best interest in this case. This is especially true here given
    (1) that no best interest factors favored Father alone; (2) the proof showed that the parties
    have animosity toward each other;12 and (3) Dr. Mathis’s expert proof indicated that Father
    has hostility toward women and a personality disorder that will be difficult to ameliorate.13
    Rather, from our review, the trial court’s conclusion that equal parenting was
    appropriate appears to focus nearly exclusively on whether Father was abusive to the child.
    Certainly, that is a highly relevant consideration. But both Tennessee Code Annotated
    sections 36-6-106(a)(12) and 36-6-406(a)(2) make clear that abuse of a parent is also a
    12
    See footnote 14, infra.
    13
    Certainly, the fact-finder is free to discount or disregard the opinions of the experts before it.
    Forrest Const. Co. v. Laughlin, 
    337 S.W.3d 211
    , 233 (Tenn. Ct. App. 2009) (citing Davis v. Sliney, 
    1988 WL 75331
    , at *5 (Tenn. Ct. App. July 21, 1988) (“The trial judge, as the trier of fact, is not compelled to
    unequivocally accept expert opinions.”)). Here it is clear that the trial court credited Dr. Mathis’s opinion
    that Father could be helped through long-term psychotherapy. The trial court’s order provides no further
    illumination as to what other portions of the expert’s opinion the trial court credited or discounted.
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    relevant consideration. These statutes therefore direct the court to consider not only the
    likelihood of abuse that could be suffered by the child, but also the interactions that an
    abused parent must have with his or her abuser. Indeed, section 36-6-406(a) provides that
    in addition to limitations on parenting time, when the circumstances detailed thereunder
    are present, no dispute resolution shall be ordered under the parenting plan. 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-406
    (a). This provision appears directed at protecting an abused parent from
    unnecessary interaction with the abusive parent, rather than simply protecting the child
    from abuse. So section 36-6-406(a) makes clear that the abuse of the parent is relevant even
    without allegations that the child was also a victim. And while the trial court did give lip
    service to considering Mother’s allegations of emotional abuse, respectfully, the trial court
    avoided answering the question presented by Mother’s proof.
    We certainly agree that not all conduct that may be considered under section
    36-6-406 will justify limitations on a parent’s time with a child, given that the question
    must ultimately be based on the child’s best interest. Indeed, we have previously rejected
    such an argument:
    Mother would like us to read 
    Tenn. Code Ann. § 36-6-406
     as absolutely
    barring any parent from being named as the primary residential parent of a
    child if that parent has any history of abuse, no matter the degree of abuse
    involved or its remoteness in time. Both the legislature and the courts take
    domestic abuse very seriously, as they should. We do not believe, however,
    that the legislature intended the statute to be applied so broadly as to deprive
    the trial court of its discretion to make custody determinations in accordance
    with the best interest of the children, based upon the factual situation that
    exists at the time of that determination.
    O’Rourke v. O’Rourke, No. M2007-01833-COA-R3-CV, 
    2010 WL 4629035
    , at *15
    (Tenn. Ct. App. Nov. 10, 2010). So we agree with the trial court that allegations of abuse
    must be viewed at all times through the lens of the child’s best interest.
    Still, the trial court has a “high” duty to adjudicate and resolve the disputes put
    before it. Smith v. UHS of Lakeside, Inc., 
    439 S.W.3d 303
    , 312 (Tenn. 2014) (“The
    essential purposes of courts and judges are to afford litigants a public forum to air their
    disputes, and to adjudicate and resolve the disputes between the contending parties. To
    carry out these purposes, judges must arrive at their decisions by applying the relevant law
    to the facts of the case.” (citations omitted)). The trial court is therefore required to “explain
    why a particular result is correct based on the applicable legal principles[.]” Id. at 313. To
    fulfill this duty, the court’s order must contain “sufficiently specific findings on the
    disputed facts that [a]re crucial to determining [the questions at issue].” Lovlace v. Copley,
    
    418 S.W.3d 1
    , 35 (Tenn. 2013).
    Here, whether Father committed both physical and emotional abuse against Mother
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    was a central issue in this case, which the trial court did not resolve. In a somewhat similar
    situation, we have held that a trial court’s order was insufficient when it “made virtually
    no findings of fact regarding the abuse allegations[.] Mangum v. Mangum, No. E2018-
    00024-COA-R3-CV, 
    2019 WL 1787328
    , at *14 (Tenn. Ct. App. Apr. 24, 2019) (where the
    trial court also failed to consider most of the best interest factors). In that case, we held that
    remand for the trial court to address this issue was the appropriate remedy. 
    Id.
     Although
    the trial court here certainly went further than the court in Mangum, the trial court’s order
    is still virtually devoid of findings as to whether abuse of Mother occurred. In the absence
    of findings on the central question to this case, like the panel in Mangum, we cannot
    conduct appropriate appellate review. Because we are unable to “solider on” with our
    review in the absence of findings as to these central issues, Hanson, 
    2012 WL 5873582
    , at
    *10, the trial court’s order must be vacated and remanded for the trial court to resolve these
    outstanding factual questions and to enter a parenting plan that takes into account those
    findings as required by section 36-6-406(a).14
    We note, however, that “[e]vents and lives have not stood still while this custody
    dispute has been in the courts.” Wall v. Wall, No. W2010-01069-COA-R3-CV, 
    2011 WL 2732269
    , at *26 (Tenn. Ct. App. July 14, 2011) (quoting Gorski v. Ragains, No. 01A01-
    9710-GS-00597, 
    1999 WL 511451
    , at *4 (Tenn. Ct. App. July 21, 1999)). Accordingly,
    when a trial court is directed to reconsider an issue on remand that involves
    the circumstances of children and their parents, the trial court should
    endeavor to ascertain and give effect to the parties’ actual circumstances,
    which will necessarily change over the course of time, e.g., people remarry,
    have more children, insurance premiums rise and fall, and child care needs
    change. Accordingly, the trial court may, in its discretion, consider such
    additional evidence to insure that any custody order is based on the parties’
    actual circumstances.
    Kathryne B.F. v. Michael B., No. W2013-01757-COA-R3-CV, 
    2014 WL 992110
    , at *7
    (Tenn. Ct. App. Mar. 13, 2014) (internal citations and quotation marks omitted) (quoting
    In re C.W., 
    420 S.W.3d 13
    , 22 (Tenn. Ct. App. 2013)).
    B.
    Finally, Mother argues that the trial court erred in excluding a witness that wished
    to testify by electronic means. In support, Mother cites Tennessee Code Annotated section
    14
    If upon remand the trial court once again chooses to impose an equal parenting schedule,
    additional findings as to why this particular arrangement was chosen may also facilitate future appellate
    relief, given the trial court’s findings that not a single factor favors Father alone and that the parties were
    unable to set aside their negative feelings toward one another to parent the child. See generally Rajendran
    v. Rajendran, No. M2019-00265-COA-R3-CV, 
    2020 WL 5551715
    , at *8–10 (Tenn. Ct. App. Sept. 16,
    2020) (discussing the need for cooperation inherent in an equal parenting plan).
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    36-6-214, which provides as follows:
    (a) In addition to other procedures available to a party, a party to a child
    custody proceeding may offer testimony of witnesses who are located in
    another state, including testimony of the parties and the child, by deposition
    or other means allowable in this state for testimony taken in another state.
    The court on its own motion may order that the testimony of a person be
    taken in another state and may prescribe the manner in which and the terms
    upon which the testimony is taken.
    (b) A court of this state may permit an individual residing in another state to
    be deposed or to testify by telephone, audiovisual means, or other electronic
    means before a designated court or at another location in that state. A court
    of this state shall cooperate with courts of other states in designating an
    appropriate location for the deposition or testimony.
    (c) Documentary evidence transmitted from another state to a court of this
    state by technological means that do not produce an original writing may not
    be excluded from evidence on an objection based on the means of
    transmission.
    Mother further cites the COVID-19 pandemic that was ongoing at the time of trial, the
    Tennessee Supreme Court’s Emergency Orders encouraging courts to conduct court
    through electronic means, and local rules.
    The “decision whether to admit or exclude evidence lies within the discretion of the
    trial court.” In re Est. Of Schisler, 
    316 S.W.3d 599
    , 606 (Tenn. Ct. App. 2009)
    (citing Young v. Hartley, 
    152 S.W.3d 490
     (Tenn. Ct. App. 2004)). As Mother recognizes,
    the admission or exclusion of evidence is governed by the Tennessee Rules of Evidence.
    In particular, Rule 103(a) provides that “[e]rror may not be predicated upon a ruling which
    admits or excludes evidence unless a substantial right of the party is affected, and . . . [i]n
    case the ruling is one excluding evidence, the substance of the evidence and the specific
    evidentiary basis supporting admission were made known to the court by offer or were
    apparent from the context.” Thus, in the absence of a showing of plain error, the party
    appealing the exclusion of evidence must have made an offer of proof to the trial court. See
    Tenn. R. Evid. 103(d). When no offer of proof is made, the issue is waived unless an
    exception exists. See, e.g., Davis v. Hall, 
    920 S.W.2d 213
    , 218 (Tenn. Ct. App. 1995) (“In
    the absence of an offer of proof and the inclusion of the testimony in the record, this Court
    cannot consider the alleged error.”). Mother admitted at oral argument that she did not
    make an offer of proof as to the substance of the excluded testimony. Nor does she argue
    that any exception to the offer of proof mandate exists in this case.
    “The purpose of an offer of proof is to preserve excluded evidence in a manner
    sufficient to allow appellate review of the trial court’s decision to exclude the evidence.”
    State v. Lowe, 
    552 S.W.3d 842
    , 864 (Tenn. 2018). “When a party contends that the trial
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    court erred in excluding testimony, the need for a description of that testimony is
    compelling. Absent such a showing, an appellate court cannot determine whether the
    exclusion was error, and if error is found, whether the error is harmless.” Alley v. State,
    
    882 S.W.2d 810
    , 816 (Tenn. Crim. App. 1994). Here, in the absence of an offer of proof,
    we cannot determine whether the exclusion of this testimony “more probably than not
    affected the judgment or would result in prejudice to the judicial process.” Tenn. R. App.
    P. 36(b). Accordingly, we hold that Mother waived review regarding the exclusion of this
    evidence.
    IV. CONCLUSION
    The judgment of the trial court is affirmed in part, vacated in part, and remanded to
    the trial court for further proceedings consistent with this Opinion. Costs of this appeal are
    taxed one-half to Appellant, Frankie Michelle Krisle, and one-half to Appellee, Samuel
    Randall Friedsam, III, for all of which execution may issue if necessary.
    S/ J. Steven Stafford
    J. STEVEN STAFFORD, JUDGE
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