Zeporah Sykes v. Tilo Alexander ( 2023 )

COURT OF APPEALS OF VIRGINIA
Present: Judges Humphreys, Huff and Lorish
UNPUBLISHED
Argued at Norfolk, Virginia
ZEPORAH SYKES
MEMORANDUM OPINION* BY
v. Record No. 0809-22-1 JUDGE LISA M. LORISH
JULY 25, 2023
TILO ALEXANDER
FROM THE CIRCUIT COURT OF THE CITY OF CHESAPEAKE
Robert G. MacDonald, Judge
Zeporah Sykes, pro se.
No brief or argument for appellee.
Zeporah Sykes appeals the trial court’s judgment granting Tilo Alexander’s petition to
change the surname of their daughter, M.N.S. We conclude that the evidence failed to establish that
the name change was in M.N.S.’s best interest. Accordingly, we reverse the trial court’s judgment,
vacate its order, and dismiss Alexander’s petition.
BACKGROUND
We review the evidence in the light most favorable to the prevailing party below. Spero
v. Heath, 267 Va. 477, 479 (2004). Sykes and Alexander are the natural parents of a minor child,
M.N.S. M.N.S. was a seven-year-old first grader when the parties appeared before the trial court
in March 2022 on Alexander’s petition to change her surname. Alexander testified that he
wanted to change his daughter’s surname from Sykes to Alexander because of the “notoriety”
attached to Sykes. He stated that he appeared on television after M.N.S. was “kidnapp[ed].”
M.N.S. and Sykes were later discovered in South America and returned to the United States, yet
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This opinion is not designated for publication. See Code § 17.1-413(A).
Alexander did not testify about the dates of their disappearance or return. No other details about
this incident were provided to the trial court. While Sykes admitted that she had been charged
with a criminal offense, she testified that the charge was still pending.1
Alexander did agree, however, that he pleaded no contest to assaulting Sykes in 2015.
Alexander also agreed that a protective order had been issued against him from March 2015 to
March 2016. Even so, Alexander was awarded sole legal and physical custody of M.N.S. in
2018, with visitation granted to Sykes on alternate weekends, six weeks during the summer, and
one week each month in the event of school closure.
Alexander testified that his daughter’s name had notoriety due to her disappearance and
his efforts to locate her, but he conceded that that was “not the only reason” he sought a name
change. He stated, “Just as her dad[,] I think she should share the [same] name with me”
because “being part of my family and sharing my last name is in her benefit.” Alexander noted
that his son had a hyphenated surname and that, as an alternative to changing M.N.S.’s surname
altogether, he would support a hyphenated surname for his daughter. At the end of Alexander’s
evidence, Sykes moved to strike Alexander’s petition, asserting he had presented “zero
evidence” that the name “Sykes” was detrimental to M.N.S. or that changing her name was in the
child’s best interest.
After the trial court denied the motion to strike, Sykes called Alexander as an adverse
witness. He agreed that he could not name any “specific” times when M.N.S. had suffered
detrimental consequences from the surname “Sykes,” but he noted that others had asked M.N.S.
about her kidnapping. Alexander also agreed that his television appearances were partially
responsible for the notoriety attached to M.N.S.’s surname and that he had discussed the
1
The record is silent regarding the nature of the criminal charge. Although the trial court
and counsel referred to a criminal charge in a proposed Exhibit “B,” Alexander never introduced
the exhibit.
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“kidnapping” with school personnel and social workers. He maintained that M.N.S. would “be
better off” without the notoriety attached to the name Sykes. Alexander reiterated, however, that
“it’s strange for a first-grader to have a different last name than the rest of her family. I feel it’s a
bond among us, and that’s a part of our culture, and I think it’s the right thing and it benefits
her.”
After the evidence, Alexander argued that M.N.S.’s retention of Sykes as her surname
would be “detrimental” to her based on the “notoriety” associated with it. He emphasized that
M.N.S. knew “information [about her kidnapping] that was not disclosed by [him] . . . [and]
presumably [was obtained] by speaking with somebody” or by searching the internet. Alexander
maintained that “[t]he Court c[ould] . . . draw upon life experiences about how children behave
in school” and that “[a]ny differences amongst children c[ould] be nitpicked or even bullied by
other children.” He asserted that M.N.S. would benefit from sharing his surname and that it was
“culturally appropriate in our American culture to share the name of your father,” especially
since M.N.S. lived with him and he had sole physical and legal custody.
Sykes renewed her argument that Alexander had presented no evidence that M.N.S.
would suffer substantial detriment by retaining her surname. She contended that Alexander’s
evidence established only “minor inconveniences” because he and his daughter did not share the
same last name, emphasizing that children of divorced parents often had different surnames than
their parents. Sykes asserted that Alexander’s belief that M.N.S.’s surname carried notoriety was
not sufficient to meet his burden and that, in any event, his own disclosures about the kidnapping
proved that it was not a source of embarrassment.
In reaching its decision, the trial court ruled that it possessed broad discretion in deciding
whether a petition for a child’s name change was in the child’s best interest, but four factors
provided “guidance” in that determination: 1) whether the objecting parent “has abandoned the
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natural ties of the ordinary relationship between child and parent,” 2) whether the parent sharing the
child’s surname “has engaged in misconduct sufficient to embarrass the child in the continued use
of the parent’s name,” 3) whether “the child will suffer substantial detriment by continuing to bear
the parent’s name,” and 4) whether “the child is of sufficient age and discretion to make any
intelligent choice.” It found that Sykes had not abandoned ties with her daughter and that factor
four did not apply. Limiting its consideration to only factors “two” and “three,” the trial court found
that “the minor embarrassment” from the child not sharing a surname with her father was not
sufficient to warrant a name change; nor was Alexander’s desire to participate in her naming, as
alleged in his petition. The court expressly refrained from making any finding about whether Sykes
had kidnapped her daughter and cited no misconduct by Sykes in reaching its decision.
But based on the notoriety associated with her surname, the trial court held that changing
M.N.S.’s surname from “Sykes” to “Alexander-Sykes” was in her best interest. The trial court
found that, while Alexander continued to refer to the kidnapping, he did so in “a relatively private
setting” such as school records. It found that “it’s not a matter of publicity other than the fact that
the father has testified upon [M.N.S.]’s return that he went back onto national television to do a
thank you to the National Center [for Missing & Exploited Children].” Sykes appeals.
ANALYSIS
We review a trial court’s decision to grant or deny a name change for abuse of discretion.
McMahon v. Wirick, 288 Va. 197, 201-02 (2014). “The parent petitioning to change the surname
of the minor bears the burden of proving that the change is in the minor’s best interest.” Spero,
267 Va. at 479. To meet that burden, a petitioning parent may show that:
1) The parent sharing his or her surname with the minor has
“abandoned the natural ties ordinarily existing between parent and
child,”
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2) The parent sharing his or her surname with the minor “has
engaged in misconduct sufficient to embarrass the [minor] in the
continued use” of the parent’s name,
3) The minor “otherwise will suffer substantial detriment” by
bearing the surname he or she currently bears, or
4) The minor “is of sufficient age and discretion to make an
intelligent choice and . . . desires that [his or her] name be
changed.”
Id. at 479-80 (alterations in original) (quoting Flowers v. Cain, 218 Va. 234, 236-37 (1977)). As the
Supreme Court has recognized, these factors are a “non-exclusive list of ‘substantial reasons’” that
constitute “prima facie evidence that [a] name change is in the child’s best interest.” McMahon,
288 Va. at 201. But the Court has reversed a trial court’s name change where a parent failed to offer
evidence “tending to show any of the criteria.” Spero, 267 Va. at 480. The trial court may not
authorize a name change “‘merely to save . . . minor inconvenience or embarrassment’ to the parent
or the minor.” Id. (alteration original) (quoting Flowers, 218 Va. at 237). To prevail, “the
petitioning parent must demonstrate that ‘substantial reasons exist for the change.’” McMahon, 288
Va. at 200 (emphasis added) (quoting Flowers, 218 Va. at 236).
The Supreme Court “has never held that it is fundamentally in a child’s best interest to share
a surname with a parent.” Id. at 202. In Spero, the Court stressed that there is no “presumption that
a child should have the father’s surname.” 267 Va. at 480. It also rejected the father’s argument
that the mother’s DUI conviction within a year of the child’s birth “r[o]se to the level of misconduct
sufficient to embarrass the child in the continued use of the [mother]’s surname.” Id. In McMahon,
the Court held that any confusion in school and medical settings over the child having her mother’s
surname, rather than that of her custodial father, was insufficient to prove that she had suffered
“inconveniences or embarrassment, much less that she suffered ‘substantial detriment.’” 288 Va. at
202.
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Here, nothing in the record shows that Alexander presented “substantial reasons” supporting
M.N.S.’s name change. The record shows that M.N.S. had her mother’s surname for seven years,
and the trial court found that Sykes had not abandoned ties with her daughter. To the contrary, the
evidence proved that Sykes had been granted frequent visitation with her daughter. Although
Alexander testified that Sykes had taken M.N.S. out of the country without permission, he also
admitted that he had pleaded no contest to assaulting Sykes and that a protective order was issued
against him. Alexander presented no evidence showing substantial embarrassment or other
detriment that M.N.S. had experienced, or would experience, from publicity associated with the
Sykes name.2
The trial court explicitly found that the first and fourth Spero factors did not govern its
decision. As to the second factor, whether the non-petitioning parent had “engaged in misconduct
sufficient to embarrass the child in the continued use of the parent’s name,” the trial court expressly
refused to make a finding about whether any kidnapping had occurred and did not find that Sykes
had engaged in misconduct sufficient to satisfy that standard. No evidence established that Sykes
had been convicted of any crime as of the date of the hearing. Moreover, when the trial court
referred to the third factor—whether “the child will suffer substantial detriment by continuing to
bear the parent’s name”—it stated, “I cannot know the future,” and did not make any finding that
M.N.S. would suffer “substantial detriment” by retaining her mother’s name.
Guided by Spero and McMahon, we hold that the trial court abused its discretion by
granting the petition to change M.N.S.’s name from “Sykes” to “Alexander-Sykes.” Although the
Spero factors do not constitute the exclusive reasons that a name change may be in a child’s best
2
In re A.V.T-A., 100 Va. Cir. 408, 2018 WL 9393017 (Fairfax Cir. Ct. 2018), mentioned by
the trial court in reaching its decision, is not binding on this Court, and the facts are also
distinguishable. In that case, the evidence proved that the minor child was “inconsolable” and
receiving therapy because she did not share the same surname as her other family members. Id. at
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interest, Alexander failed to offer evidence “tending to show any of the criteria,” Spero, 267 Va. at
480, or “substantial reasons,” McMahon, 288 Va. at 200 (quoting Flowers, 218 Va. at 236-37), that
changing seven-year-old M.N.S.’s name was in her best interest. The trial court did not find that
Sykes had engaged in misconduct, and even assuming that she had been convicted of a crime, the
mere fact of a criminal conviction on its own would not justify a name change without evidence of
how the circumstances relating to the conviction impacted the best interest of the child. Spero, 267
Va. at 480. Alexander presented no evidence that M.N.S. had suffered more than “minor
embarrassment,” or for that matter, any embarrassment, by retaining her surname. Accordingly, we
reverse the trial court’s judgment, vacate its order changing M.N.S.’s surname, and dismiss
Alexander’s petition.3
CONCLUSION
For the reasons stated, the trial court’s judgment is reversed, vacated, and dismissed.
Reversed, vacated, and dismissed.
3
“[T]he doctrine of judicial restraint dictates that we decide cases ‘on the best and
narrowest grounds available.’” Commonwealth v. White, 293 Va. 411, 419 (2017) (quoting
Commonwealth v. Swann, 290 Va. 194, 196 (2015)). Accordingly, because we reverse the trial
court’s judgment, we need not address Sykes’s remaining assignments of error. In every family
matter, circumstances may change, and this dismissal—without prejudice—does not foreclose
Alexander from filing another petition in the future.
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