In re Marriage of Black ( 2017 )


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    In re the Marriage of:                         )
    )       No. 92994-7
    RACHELLE K. BLACK,                             )
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    Petitioner,            )       ENBANC
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    CHARLES W. BLACK,                              )       Filed           APR 0 6 2017
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    Respondent.            )
    _______________________)
    FAIRHURST, C.J.-Rachelle and Charles Black were married for nearly 20
    years and have three sons. They raised their children in a conservative Christian
    church and sent them to private, Christian schools. In 2011, Rachelle 1 told Charles
    that she is a lesbian. In the order of dissolution, the trial court designated Charles as
    the primary residential parent. The final parenting plan also awarded Charles sole
    decision-making authority regarding the children's education and religious
    upbringing. But the record shows that the trial court considered Rachelle's sexual
    orientation as a factor when it fashioned the final parenting plan. Further, improper
    1
    To avoid confusion, we refer to the parties by their first names. We intend no disrespect.
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    bias influenced the proceedings. This bias casts doubt on the trial court's entire
    ruling, and we are not confident the trial court ensured a fair proceeding by
    maintaining a neutral attitude regarding Rachelle's sexual orientation. Accordingly,
    we reverse.
    I. FACTS AND PROCEDURAL HISTORY
    Rachelle and Charles Black married in July 1994. When they married,
    Rachelle and Charles were 19 and 21 years old, respectively. Both Rachelle and
    Charles worked for Rachelle's parents at the parents' business. When Rachelle and
    Charles had their first child in 1999, they agreed Rachelle would stop working and
    be a stay-at-home parent while Charles continued to work. Rachelle and Charles
    have three sons together, ages 17, 14, and 9. 2 At the time of trial, they lived near
    Graham, Washington. For most of their marriage, Rachelle was the primary
    caretaker of the children, and Charles was the primary wage earner.
    The Blacks' Christian background was prominent at trial. Rachelle, Charles,
    and the children attended a "conservative Christian" church. Clerk's Papers (CP) at
    73. Rachelle's parents are elders at the church, and Rachelle had been attending the
    church for most of her life.     Kelly Theriot Leblanc, the guardian ad litem (GAL)
    2
    These are their current ages.   At trial, the children were 15, 12, and 7 years old,
    respectively.
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    assigned to this case, testified that the "family attends a church where the teachings
    are that homosexuality is a sin." 1 Report of Proceedings (RP) at 36.
    Consistent with their beliefs, Rachelle and Charles agreed to send their three
    children to small, private, Christian schools in the Tacoma area. Charles testified
    they chose the schools mainly because of their faith-based teaching: "They believe
    in the Bible, they follow the Bible, read the Bible. They try to put it in practice. You
    know, love the sinner, hate the sin, a lot of that." 2 RP at 289. Jennifer Knight, the
    children's therapist, described their upbringing as "a very dogmatic fundamentalist
    situation, both at school and at home." 2 RP at 350.
    In December 2011, Rachelle told Charles that she believed she might be
    '"gay."'   3 RP at 409. Charles "told [Rachelle] to go and explore and figure out
    what [she] needed to figure out." I d.
    Rachelle's recognition of her sexual orientation altered the status quo at the
    Black household, and trying to maintain the status quo for the sake of the children
    became increasingly difficult. Although Rachelle and Charles continued to live in
    the same house, Rachelle began sleeping in a basement room after Charles allegedly
    sexually assaulted her, which he denies, and after he told friends, family, and church
    members about her sexual orientation without her permission. Rachelle stopped
    attending the family church, while Charles and the children continued to attend.
    Around the same time, Rachelle began a romantic relationship with a woman and
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    began spending more time away from home. Rachelle testified that she tried "not to
    be gone more than one night a week." 1 RP at 113. Rachelle noted that Charles was
    also gone from the home at times during this period, but she admitted that she was
    gone more than he was. 3
    Charles took on more parenting responsibilities than he had in the past. For
    example, he received permission from his employers (Rachelle's parents) to adjust
    his work schedule so that he could leave work before the children were released from
    school. Charles testified that he typically drove their oldest son to the bus stop every
    morning and picked up the other children from school in the afternoon. Although
    Rachelle still typically cooked dinner, she and Charles split other household duties
    like cleaning, laundry, and grocery shopping. Rachelle believed Charles' increased
    participation in household duties was intended to undermine her relationship with
    the children. 4
    In May 2013, Rachelle filed for dissolution. The trial occurred in August
    2014, nearly three years after Rachelle first told Charles about her sexual orientation.
    3
    Charles kept a record on a calendar of when Rachelle was absent from the home, and
    Rachelle alleges he monitored her computer use and e-mail. Rachelle made notations on a copy
    of Charles' calendar noting the alleged absences that she disputes.
    4
    "He started stepping on my toes as far as household things go that have always been my
    job and my domain; the laundry, the cleaning, that kind of stuff. I can't leave a halfload oflaundry
    alone. If I leave a half load of laundry in front of the washing machine it's done, and it just feels
    intrusive. These are my jobs that I've had for 15 years, and they're being taken over without my
    need or consent." 1 RP at 175-76.
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    In addition to Rachelle and Charles, the main witnesses at trial were Knight (the
    children's therapist) and Leblanc (the GAL).
    Knight observed the children during 11 appointments between January and
    July 2014. Knight described the children as "very sheltered" and said that "they
    don't really have a grasp of what's going on in the real world." 2 RP at 346-47. For
    example, "they're uncomfortable talking about evolution." 2 RP at 347. Knight
    believed a transition from the children's "sheltered school" to a public school district
    would be a struggle because public schools are "very worldly compared to these
    children." 2 RP at 347-48. Knight believed that from a therapeutic perspective, "the
    less change that these children have to deal with[,] the better." 2 RP at 348.
    Because Rachelle and Charles had not disclosed Rachelle's sexual orientation
    to their children, Knight was the first person to tell them that their mother is gay.
    Knight testified that the 15 year old at the time, was "flat" upon hearing the news,
    and Knight thought he "was still processing it," 2 RP at 349; that the 12 year old
    "snuggled up to his mom kind of indicating, you know, I'm going to love you no
    matter what," id.; and that the 7 year old was too young to understand. Knight
    believed "the children are starting to get more used to the idea that their mother, you
    know, is in a relationship with a female." 2 RP at 350.
    Knight's primary concern was for the children to be in a "stable environment
    that's going to be stable long term." 2 RP at 352. Due to the children's upbringing,
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    they did not understand the concept of divorce. Therefore, Rachelle and Charles'
    separation "is a major change considering the background of these children," and
    Knight believed the best outcome for the children would be a stable environment
    that "minimize[s] ... future changes." Id. Knight recommended Rachelle's partner
    have no contact with the children for the time being.
    Knight testified that she believed Charles was the more stable parent. Knight
    noted that Rachelle was unemployed, did not have a plan for future housing, and
    relied on her partner for support: "It always makes me nervous when people are
    relying on another person to provide for them, because there is no assurance that
    relationships will work .... I worry that if that relationship doesn't work out, then
    the children are going to be displaced again." 2 RP at 352-53. On the other hand,
    Knight stated that Charles "has a history of employment and being a good provider,
    so obviously he is a stable parent." 2 RP at 353. She testified that the children "have
    reported that over the last couple of years they've seen [Rachelle] a lot less and that
    they have spent more time with their father." 2 RP at 362. Despite "some concern
    about him not being as active in the past with the children because he was the main
    provider," the children reported that Charles "has been more part of their daily life"
    in recent years. 2 RP at 353.
    Leblanc, the GAL, shared many of Knight's concerns. Leblanc testified that
    several "collateral sources" indicated Rachelle had been "absent from the home for
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    long periods of time on a fairly frequent basis for the last two to ... three years." 1
    RP at 16. This was the main reason Leblanc recommended that the trial court
    designate Charles as the residential parent:
    [O]ver the last two to three years while things have been going south in
    the relationship when [Rachelle] was not available and when she was
    not at home, [Charles] always was. He did not deviate from his
    participation in school. He has been involved in the medical decisions
    that were made. He has been available when the school has needed him
    to respond. He has been present in the home per the reports of the boys,
    and he's following the direction of the mental health counselor who's
    trying to help them navigate through all of this.
    So, I stated in my report, I don't think it can be reasonably
    disputed that [Rachelle] historically occupied a role of primary parent.
    They did have a traditional relationship where he worked outside the
    home and she was at home ....
    But over the past three years when things did fall apart, she
    wasn't available to the kids. They perceived that she wasn't available
    to the kids, and the school notes that she was not available, and
    [Charles] picked up that slack and covered for it for a very long time.
    And you've got to be able-- you've got to have some assurance that if
    things are going to continue to be problematic or hard, which they may
    be, because there's going to be more changes for these parties .... But
    of the two, [Charles] is employed. He has the ability to support himself.
    He's not relying on a third person to do that, and right now I just don't
    know.
    1 RP at 75-76.
    But Leblanc's recommendation was also based on Rachelle's sexual
    orientation, at least insofar as she believed it conflicted with the children's religious
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    beliefs. In a preliminary report, Leblanc wrote that Rachelle's "lifestyle choice"
    might cause controversy given the children's background:
    It is significant to note that the children, who have been enrolled
    in and attending a private Christian school since they each reached
    school age, have no idea that [Rachelle] now considers herself to be a
    lesbian. While it is not my intent to cast judgment on [Rachelle's]
    lifestyle choice, the fact remains that it is a choice that can result in
    significant controversy. In this instance, the issue has disrupted the
    marriage and also resulted in difficulty with extended family. Given
    the family's faith and historical belief system, it is my opinion that the
    children should be immediately enrolled in counseling. The children
    are already struggling with the fact that their parents are divorcing and
    it is difficult to predict how they will react.
    Resp't's Sealed Ex. 39, at 7; see also Suppl. Br. of Pet'r at 6-7. However, in her
    final report, Leblanc claimed her use of the word "'choice"' in the preliminary report
    did not relate to Rachelle's sexual orientation. Resp't's Sealed Ex. 40, at 21. 5
    Instead, she explained that Rachelle
    did choose to spend a large majority of her time away from the home
    over the past three years; did choose to terminate the marriage; and is
    planning on living with [her partner]. All of those decisions were a
    matter of choice and all of those choices are inconsistent with teachings
    and principles that she and [Charles] elected to share with their
    children. [Rachelle' s] choices did disrupt her relationship with the
    5  We note that respondent's exhibits 39 and 40 are sealed under GR 22. These exhibits
    include the preliminary and final reports Leblanc provided to the trial court. Because these reports
    demonstrate Leblanc's reasoning for her recommendation, we believe it is necessary to rely on
    certain passages for our decision. In doing so, we have been careful to avoid divulging any
    sensitive information out of respect for the parties' privacy.
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    children and given the family's faith and historical belief system, the
    choices have also created a great deal of controversy and confusion.
    Id. at 21-22; see also Suppl. Br. ofPet'r at 6-7. Leblanc reiterated this point during
    trial. 1 RP at 43 ("[I]t is certainly not my place to suggest that her gender preference
    is or isn't a matter of choice. That wasn't my intent when I used the word.").
    Leblanc's final report notes that Charles believed Rachelle "is now on a
    campaign to re-indoctrinate the children" and that "concepts and ideals the children
    have been taught throughout their lives are being eviscerated." Resp't's Sealed Ex.
    40, at 10. 6 Leblanc also suggested the children might experience "bullying" as a
    result ofRachelle's decision to leave the marriage and begin a relationship with her
    partner:
    What I'm saying is the choice to leave the marriage when you have
    three children and then to establish a relationship with a same sex
    partner when you've had kids raised in a very conservative parochial
    envirsmment can be very controversial and people can be very mean ..
    And the reality is that it may happen with some of the children's
    friends or it may happen with families of the children's friends, and the
    parties need to be cognizant of that because if it does happen or if there
    is bullying or if there are comments being made, they need to be able
    6
    At trial, Leblanc clarified that the "ideals and concepts" she was referring to in her final
    report were mainly about the institution of marriage. 1 RP at 34-3 5 ("Divorce is something that
    these kids really don't have any exposure to.").
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    to approach them and address them responsibly so that they can help
    their kids.
    1 RP at 44-45. Ultimately, Leblanc's final report demonstrates a belief that the
    children's religious upbringing would hinder their acceptance ofRachelle's new life:
    I understand that [Rachelle] is excited about her relationship
    and looking forward to moving forward with her life, she doesn't seem
    to recognize that the children do not necessarily share that perspective.
    [Rachelle] also seems to forget that she participated in the decision to
    enroll the boys in a parochial school and helped build the foundation
    that they have always lived by. Ideas and beliefs that were learned over
    a lifetime cannot simply be disregarded. [Rachelle] needs to recognize
    that the children have to be afforded the opportunity to transition at their
    pace and thus far, I am not confident that she is prepared to let that
    happen.
    Resp't's Sealed Ex. 40, at 24. Consistent with this belief, Leblanc recommended
    that Charles serve as the primary residential parent. She also recommended that
    Knight have the discretion to determine when the children may have contact with
    Rachelle's partner. Leblanc further recommended broad prohibitions on Rachelle's
    ability to discuss religion and sexual orientation with her children:
    I recommend that [Rachelle] be ordered to refrain from having further
    conversations with the children regarding religion, homosexuality, or
    other alternative lifestyle concepts and further, that she be prohibited
    from exposing the children to literature or electronic media; taking
    them to movies or events; providing them with symbolic clothing or
    jewelry; or otherwise engaging in conduct that could reasonably be
    interpreted as being related to those topics unless the discussion,
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    conduct, or activity is specifically authorized and approved by Ms.
    Knight.
    I d. at 25. Some of these restrictions were recommended in response to Rachelle's
    parental efforts to explain the circumstances to her children. For example, Rachelle
    showed her oldest son a video documentary addressing different Christian attitudes
    toward same-sex relationships after he asked a question about the issue. On another
    occasion, the second oldest son asked if he could wear a rainbow bracelet Rachelle
    had with the words "love and pride." 1 RP at 169.
    The trial court largely adopted Leblanc's recommendations. On September 2,
    2014, the trial court issued a written ruling, which it later expressly incorporated into
    its findings and conclusions accompanying its dissolution decree and final parenting
    plan. The trial court entered a finding that Rachelle was "a stay at home Mom prior
    to 2011." CP at 74. The trial court found that after December 2011, Rachelle spent
    some time away from home and that Charles took on more parenting responsibilities
    during this period. The trial court found that Rachelle was away "approximately 20%
    of the time." CP at 40. Like Leblanc, the trial court concluded that Charles was the
    more stable parent.     The trial court specifically noted the children's religious
    upbringing and the potential disruption Rachelle's sexual orientation posed to that
    upbringing:
    Here, [Charles] is clearly the more stable parent in terms of the ability
    to provide for the needs of these children, both financially as well as
    emotionally and in maintaining their religious upbringing. These
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    children have been taught from the Bible since age 4. I believe it will
    be very challenging for them to reconcile their religious upbringing
    with the changes occurring within their family over issues involving
    marriage and dissolution, as well as homosexuality.
    CP at 40-41.
    The trial court designated Charles as the primary residential parent. The trial
    court also awarded sole decision-making authority regarding the children's religion,
    education, and day care to Charles. Finally, the trial court denied Rachelle's request
    for spousal maintenance, finding that Charles was unable to pay. The court also
    ordered Rachelle to pay the statutory minimum amount of child support. The Court
    of Appeals, Division Two, affirmed most of these provisions in an unpublished
    opinion. In reMarriage ofBlack, No. 46788-7-II, slip op. at 1 (Wash. Ct. App. Mar.
    8, 2016) (unpublished), http://www.courts.wa.gov/opinions/pdf/D2%20467887-
    II%20Unpublished%200pinion.pdf. However, the Court of Appeals held that the
    trial court erred when it granted Charles sole decision-making authority regarding
    religion and when it limited Rachelle's conduct and speech regarding religion and
    sexual orientation. 7 Id. We accepted Rachelle's petition for review.
    II. ISSUES
    1.     Did the trial court abuse its discretion when it designated Charles as the
    primary residential parent?
    2.    Did the trial court abuse its discretion when it awarded Charles sole
    decision-making authority regarding the children's education?
    7 Charles   did not seek review on this issue.
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    3.    Did the trial court abuse its discretion when it denied Rachelle' s request
    for spousal maintenance?
    III. ANALYSIS
    When a trial court fashions a permanent parenting plan, it considers a set of
    statutory factors aimed at evaluating each parent's abilities, the relationship of each
    parent to the children, and the children's best interests in light of their needs. See
    RCW 26.09.004(3), .187. Although there are few limits on this analysis, a trial court
    may not consider a parent's sexual orientation as a factor for custody decisions
    absent an express showing of harm to the children.            See In re Marriage of
    Cabalquinto, 
    100 Wn.2d 325
    , 329, 
    669 P.2d 886
     (1983). Applying the relevant
    statutory factors, the trial court here determined that Charles is the more stable
    parent. Some evidence supports this conclusion. However, the record in this case
    supports finding that, but for Rachelle's sexual orientation and the challenge this
    presented to Charles' religious beliefs, both Rachelle and Charles are capable
    parents.
    The record shows that the trial court considered Rachelle's sexual orientation
    as the primary reason for concluding that Charles is better suited to address the
    children's emotional needs and maintain their religious upbringing.            Further,
    Leblanc's report, recommendation, and testimony evinces an impermissible bias
    against Rachelle due to her sexual orientation. Because the trial court relied heavily
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    on Leblanc, this bias permeated its ruling and casts doubt on the entire parenting
    plan. We are not confident the trial court here approached the parenting plan with
    an attitude of neutrality regarding sexual orientation that fairness demands. We
    therefore reverse and remand for further proceedings.
    A.    Standard of review
    We review a parenting plan for a manifest abuse of discretion, which occurs
    when the trial court's '"decision is manifestly unreasonable or based on untenable
    grounds or untenable reasons."' In reMarriage ofChandola, 
    180 Wn.2d 632
    , 642,
    
    327 P.3d 644
     (2014) (quoting In reMarriage ofKatare, 
    175 Wn.2d 23
    , 35,
    283 P.3d 546
     (2012)). We treat the trial court's findings of fact as verities on appeal so long
    as they are supported by substantial evidence. 
    Id.
     Evidence is "substantial" when it
    is "sufficient to persuade a fair-minded person of the truth of the matter asserted."
    
    Id.
     We do not review the trial court's credibility determinations or weigh conflicting
    evidence "even though we may disagree with the trial court in either regard." In re
    Welfare ofSego, 
    82 Wn.2d 736
    ,740, 
    513 P.2d 831
     (1973).
    B.    The trial court abused its discretion when it considered Rachelle's sexual
    orientation as a factor in determining the parenting plan
    A trial court abuses its discretion "if it restricts parental rights because the
    parent is gay or lesbian." In reMarriage of Wicklund, 
    84 Wn. App. 763
    , 770, 
    932 P.2d 652
     (1996) (citing Cabalquinto, 
    100 Wn.2d at 329
    ). Custody and visitation
    rights "must be determined with reference to the needs of the child rather than the
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    sexual preferences of the parent." Cabalquinto, 
    100 Wn.2d at 329
    . In Cabalquinto,
    we held that the trial court's references to a party's sexual orientation required
    reversal even though the trial court otherwise had tenable grounds for its custody
    order:
    Ordinarily, with the facts as presented heretofore, we would find
    no manifest abuse of discretion and would affirm the trial court. ...
    In reviewing the entire record before us, we cannot tell what
    standards of law the trial court followed in reaching its decision on
    visitation rights. While the findings and conclusions oflaw suggest the
    homosexuality of the father was not the determining factor, the
    unfortunate and unnecessary references by the trial court to
    homosexuality generally indicate the contrary.
    
    Id. at 328
    .
    Charles concedes that custody decisions cannot be based on a parent's sexual
    orientation absent a showing of harm but nevertheless claims that the trial court here
    did not find that Rachelle's sexual orientation makes her unfit. Resp't's Resp. to
    Amici at 5. He argues that Cabalquinto is distinguishable because the trial court did
    not base its ruling on Rachelle's sexual orientation and that the trial court's
    references to Rachelle's sexual orientation were intended merely to provide context
    for the separation.
    Charles correctly notes that the Court of Appeals upheld a parenting plan
    under similar circumstances in Wicklund. There, the father separated from the
    mother after learning that he was gay. 84 Wn. App. at 766. The family were active
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    members in the Jehovah's Witnesses faith, which includes a belief that the "'practice
    of homosexuality is an abomination."' Id. at 769. Evidence in the case included
    testimony addressing how the children would handle the father's sexual orientation
    in light of their religious upbringing. Id. at 768. The trial court designated the
    mother as the primary residential parent and implemented a restriction on the father's
    conduct that prevented him from "'practic[ing] homosexuality"' while the children
    were with him. Id. at 769.
    The court struck the restriction on the father's conduct but upheld the
    residential provisions in the parenting plan. !d. at 772-73. Despite the improper
    restriction on the father's conduct, the court concluded that the record did not
    demonstrate that the trial court based its decision on the father's sexual orientation:
    Although the trial court's approach to the issue ofhomosexuality
    was not neutral-as evidenced by its restrictions on [the father's]
    conduct-the record does not support [the father's] assertion that the
    trial court reduced [the father's] residential time solely because of his
    sexual orientation ....
    Based on the testimony, the trial court thought the best interests
    for the children would be served with "as much continuity and as ...
    little change in the children's lives" as possible. This is a tenable reason
    for providing for residential placement with [the mother] during the
    school week, with alternating weekends with [the father].
    Id. (fifth alteration in original). Charles contends the same reasoning applies here.
    Like Wicklund, the trial court's ruling shows that it relied heavily on the expert
    testimony advocating that "the less change that these children have to deal with[,]
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    the better." 2 RP at 348. Indeed, the Court of Appeals followed Wicklund when it
    struck the restriction on Rachelle's conduct but upheld the residential provisions of
    the parenting plan. Black, No. 46788-7-II, slip op. at 1.
    But since Wicklund was decided, courts have recognized that members of the
    LGBT 8 community are vulnerable to discrimination. See, e.g., Obergefell v. Hodges,
    -   U.S. - , 
    135 S. Ct. 2584
    , 
    192 L. Ed. 2d 609
     (2015) (holding unconstitutional state
    laws that prohibit same-sex marriage; abrogating Andersen v. King County, 
    158 Wn.2d 1
    , 
    138 P.3d 963
     (2006)); see also Smithkline Beecham Corp. v. Abbott Labs.,
    
    740 F.3d 471
     (9th Cir. 2014) (holding that heightened scrutiny applies to
    classifications based on sexual orientation and that equal protection forbids striking
    a juror on the basis of sexual orientation).
    To guard against discriminatory impulses m custody proceedings, many
    jurisdictions prohibit consideration of a parent's sexual orientation unless there is an
    express showing of harm to the children. See, e.g., Damron v. Damron, 
    2003 ND 166
    ,
    670 N.W.2d 871
    , 875 ("[I]n the absence of evidence of actual or potential harm
    to the children, a parent's homosexual relationship, by itself, is not determinative of
    custody."); see also Jacoby v. Jacoby, 
    763 So. 2d 410
    , 413 (Fla. 2000) ("For a court
    to properly consider conduct such as [the mother's] sexual orientation on the issue
    of custody, the conduct must have a direct effect or impact upon the children....
    8
    Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender.
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    The connection between the conduct and the harm to the children must have an
    evidentiary basis; it cannot be assumed."). Even if a parent's sexual orientation is
    contrary to the children's religious values, a trial court may not consider it in a
    custody determination unless the evidence shows "direct harm to the children." Fox
    v. Fox, 
    1995 OK 87
    , 
    904 P.2d 66
    , 68-69.
    This approach promotes fairness by fostering an attitude of neutrality.
    Contrary to Wicklund, which upheld residential provisions in a parenting plan
    despite the trial court's lack of neutrality, courts must remain neutral toward a
    parent's sexual orientation in order to ensure that custody decisions are based on the
    "needs of the child rather than the sexual preferences of the parent." Cabalquinto,
    
    100 Wn.2d at 329
    . This neutrality requirement fulfills an underlying purpose of the
    dissolution statutes by protecting families who are otherwise vulnerable to the
    "arbitrary imposition of the court's preferences." Chandola, 180 Wn.2d at 655.
    Washington courts apply an analogous requirement for "strict impartiality"
    regarding parents' conflicting religious beliefs. Munoz v. Munoz, 
    79 Wn.2d 810
    ,
    813, 
    489 P.2d 1133
     (1971). When the record suggests the trial court failed to
    maintain a neutral attitude, absent an express showing of direct harm, 9 we cannot be
    9  A valid showing of harm cannot rely on an assumption that a parent's sexual orientation
    is inherently harmful to his or her children. Such an assumption is contrary to the neutral approach
    fairness demands. See Kim H. Pearson, Sexuality in Child Custody Decisions, 50 FAM. CT. REv.
    280, 281 (2012).
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    confident that the trial court's allocation of residential time serves the best interests
    of the children rather than "penaliz[ing] ... parents for their conduct." Cabalquinto,
    
    100 Wn.2d at 329
    .
    The record here shows the trial court did not remain neutral when it considered
    Rachelle' s sexual orientation as a factor for determining provisions in the parenting
    plan. Although the trial court concluded that Charles is the more stable parent for a
    number of potentially legitimate reasons, including his availability to the children
    and the parenting duties he performed in the years preceding the dissolution, the
    record indicates that Rachelle's sexual orientation influenced the trial court's written
    ruling and final parenting plan. For example, the trial court found that Charles was
    the more stable parent in part because he is better suited to maintain the children's
    religious upbringing, which includes certain beliefs about same-sex relationships:
    Here, [Charles] is clearly the more stable parent in terms of the ability
    to provide for the needs of these children, both financially as well as
    emotionally and in maintaining their religious upbringing. These
    children have been taught from the Bible since age 4. I believe it will
    be very challenging for them to reconcile their religious upbringing
    with the changes occurring within their family over issues involving
    marriage and dissolution, as well as homosexuality.
    CP at 40-41. We agree with Charles that the trial court's language here is not as
    egregious as the trial court's in Cabalquinto. 10 But even though the trial court here
    10See 
    100 Wn.2d at 328
     ("In his oral opinion, the trial judge expressed a strong antipathy
    to homosexual living arrangements. He expressed the view that 'a child should be led in the way
    ofheterosexual preference, not be tolerant of this thing [homosexuality]' and that 'it can[not] do
    19
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    did not explicitly suggest that Rachelle's sexual orientation made her an unfit parent,
    its reasoning is nevertheless clear: the children are allegedly uncomfortable with
    homosexuality due to their religious upbringing, Charles-a heterosexual who
    shares those same beliefs-is better suited to maintain that religious upbringing,
    therefore, he is the more stable parent. Leblanc advocated this same reasoning in
    her final recommendation and in her testimony, which the trial court relied on and
    largely adopted in its final ruling. Absent any other evidence, such reasoning unfairly
    punishes a parent in a custody proceeding on the basis of her sexual orientation.
    The trial court also adopted a restriction on Rachelle's conduct that prohibited
    her from discussing "alternative lifestyles" with her children:
    [Rachelle] is ordered to refrain from having further conversations with
    the children regarding religion, homosexuality, or other alternative
    lifestyle concepts and further that she be prohibited from exposing the
    children to literature or electronic media; taking them to movies or
    events; providing them with symbolic clothing or jewelry; or otherwise
    engaging in conduct that could reasonably be interpreted as being
    related to those topics unless the discussion, conduct or activity is
    specifically authorized and approved by Ms. Knight.
    CP at 49. These references indicate the trial court based its ruling, at least in part,
    on Rachelle's sexual orientation. The prohibitions assume that a parent's discussion
    of sexual orientation or her own life and beliefs would have a negative impact on the
    children.   The trial court's unnecessary references to "homosexuality" and
    the boy any good to live in such an environment. It might do some harm."' (alterations in
    original)).
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    "alternative lifestyle concepts" cast doubt on its ruling. CP at 49. This is particularly
    true given the trial court's written ruling emphasizes that both parents have strong
    relationships with the children and that they both have "good potential for future
    performance of parenting functions." CP at 40.
    In addition to the trial court's written ruling and final parenting plan, the
    record indicates that improper bias influenced the trial court's decision.                       For
    example, Leblanc made several problematic statements suggesting she was biased
    against Rachelle.
    First, Leblanc repeatedly referred to Rachelle' s sexual orientation as a
    "lifestyle choice." Resp't's Sealed Ex. 39, at 7; Suppl. Br. of Pet'r at 6; see also
    Resp't's Sealed Ex. 40, at 21 ("All of those decisions [including deciding to start a
    relationship] were a matter of choice and all of those choices are inconsistent with
    teachings and principles that she and [Charles] elected to share with their
    children."). 11 This is contrary to our current understanding of sexual orientation.
    See Obergefell, 
    135 S. Ct. at 2596
     ("Only in more recent years have psychiatrists
    11
    In her final report and at trial, Leblanc denied that she intended to refer to Rachelle' s
    sexual orientation as a"' choice."' Resp't' s Sealed Ex. 40, at 21; 1 RP at 43. But read in context,
    it is difficult to see what else she might have meant:
    It is significant to note that the children, who have been enrolled in and
    attending a private Christian school since they each reached school age, have no
    idea that [Rachelle] now considers herselfto be a lesbian. While it is not my intent
    to cast judgment on [Rachelle's] lifestyle choice, the fact remains that it is a choice
    that can result in significant controversy.
    Resp't's Sealed Ex. 39, at 7; see also Suppl. Br. ofPet'r at 6.
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    and others recognized that sexual orientation is both a normal expression of human
    sexuality and immutable.").
    Second, Leblanc suggested that the controversy surrounding Rachelle' s
    sexual orientation could harm the children by inviting bullying. Other courts have
    expressly rejected this reasoning in custody disputes. Jacoby, 763 So. 2d at 413; see
    also Palmore v. Sidoti, 
    466 U.S. 429
    ,433, 
    104 S. Ct. 1879
    , 
    80 L. Ed. 2d 421
     (1984)
    ("Private biases may be outside the reach of the law, but the law cannot, directly or
    indirectly, give them effect.").
    Third, Leblanc recommended an unconstitutional restriction of Rachelle's
    conduct that prohibited her from discussing religion, homosexuality, and "other
    alternative lifestyle concepts" with her children. Resp't's Sealed Ex. 40, at 25. At
    trial, Rachelle's counsel asked Leblanc if she thought it would be fair to similarly
    limit Charles from having those same conversations. Leblanc admitted that it would
    be fair in light of the tension between the teachings at the children's church and
    Rachelle' s sexual orientation. But Leblanc ultimately did not recommend a similar
    restriction on Charles' conduct despite this testimony.
    Finally, Leblanc's opinion that Charles is the more stable parent seems to stem
    from a belief that Rachelle caused the separation:
    [Rachelle] did choose to spend a large majority of her time away from
    the home over the past three years; did choose to terminate the
    marriage; and is planning on living with [her partner]. All of those
    decisions were a matter of choice and all of those choices are
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    inconsistent with teachings and principles that she and [Charles] elected
    to share with their children. [Rachelle's] choices did disrupt her
    relationship with the children and given the family's faith and historical
    belief system, the choices have also created a great deal of controversy
    and confusion.
    !d. at 21; see also Suppl. Br. ofPet'r at 7. But "custody and visitation privileges are
    not to be used to penalize or reward parents for their conduct." Cabalquinto, 
    100 Wn.2d at 329
    .
    As a GAL, Leblanc is unlike a typical witness. She is appointed by the court,
    endowed with statutory powers, and required to engage in fact-finding and produce
    a final report on the court's behalf. RCW 26.09.220. A GAL acts as "an arm of the
    court" and is afforded quasi-judicial status. Reddy v. Karr, 
    102 Wn. App. 742
    , 744,
    
    9 P.3d 927
     (2000). Leblanc's testimony carried great weight, and the trial court's
    ruling indicates it relied heavily on Leblanc's opinions. It adopted many ofLeblanc' s
    conclusions verbatim, including the recommended restriction on Rachelle's conduct.
    We have acknowledged the presence of biases in other contexts. See State v.
    Saintcalle, 
    178 Wn.2d 34
    , 46, 
    309 P.3d 326
     (2013) (plurality opinion) ("[W]e all
    live our lives with stereotypes that are ingrained and often unconscious, implicit
    biases that endure despite our best efforts to eliminate them.").       Similarly, one
    purpose of the dissolution statutes is to prevent "arbitrary imposition of the court's
    preferences" and thereby protect families who are otherwise "vulnerable to a trial
    court's biases." Chandola, 180 Wn.2d at 655. The record shows that Leblanc's bias
    23
    In reMarriage ofBlack, No. 92994-7
    "found its way into the final judgment." Jacoby, 763 So. 2d at 414. The trial court's
    written ruling and the final parenting plan indicate it failed to remain neutral
    regarding Rachelle' s sexual orientation.      The trial court therefore abused its
    discretion when it designated Charles as the primary residential parent.
    C.     The trial court abused its discretion when it favored Charles' religious beliefs
    We require an analogous attitude of neutrality regarding conflicting religious
    beliefs. Although a trial court may consider the parents' and the children's religious
    beliefs when fashioning a parenting plan under RCW 26.09.184(3), it may not favor
    either parent's religious beliefs without a clear showing of harm to the children:
    Thus, the rule appears to be well established that the courts
    should maintain an attitude of strict impartiality between religions and
    should not disqualify any applicant for custody or restrain any person
    having custody or visitation rights from taking the children to a
    particular church, except where there is a clear and affirmative showing
    that the conflicting religious beliefs affect the general welfare of the
    child.
    Munoz, 
    79 Wn.2d at 813
    ; see also In reMarriage of Jensen-Branch, 
    78 Wn. App. 482
    , 490, 
    899 P.2d 803
     (1995) ("[T]here must be a substantial showing of actual or
    potential harm to the children from exposure to the parents' conflicting religious
    beliefs.").
    Given the facts of this case, the trial court's improper consideration of
    Rachelle's sexual orientation was intertwined with an implicit preference Jor
    Charles' religious beliefs. Charles has continued to participate in a religion that
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    condemns same-sex relationships, while Rachelle has modified her religious views.
    Because the children were taught certain religious beliefs, 12 the trial court concluded
    Charles was better suited to maintain those beliefs and therefore was the more stable
    parent. In so concluding, the trial court made no express findings of actual or
    potential harm to the children due to Rachelle's modified religious views. Jensen-
    Branch, 
    78 Wn. App. at 491-92
    .
    Charles correctly notes that Munoz and Jensen-Branch involved restrictions
    on parental conduct during visitation, not residential provisions of a parenting plan.
    See Munoz, 
    79 Wn.2d at 811
     (father was prohibited from taking children to Catholic
    church services while in his custody). But the language in Munoz applies equally to
    residential provisions. !d. at 813 ("[ C]ourts should maintain an attitude of strict
    impartiality between religions and should not disqualify any applicant for custody"
    unless there is a showing of harm. (emphasis added)). It would make little sense if
    courts needed to approach restrictions on parental conduct with "an attitude of strict
    impartiality between religions" only to abandon that attitude when fashioning other
    residential provisions. 
    Id.
     Accordingly, the trial court abused its discretion not only
    12
    We note that there is little evidence in the record of the children's religious views. The
    record contains, at most, circumstantial evidence of their religious views regarding same-sex
    relationships, most notably the nature of their private schools and their church. The children were
    never asked about their views, and no witness testified to what they actually believe. This
    circumstantial evidence, without any evidence of actual or potential hann to the children, is
    insufficient for the "clear and affirmative showing" required under Munoz, 
    79 Wn.2d at 813
    .
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    by considering Rachelle' s sexual orientation as a factor in allocating residential time,
    but also by impermissibly favoring Charles' religious beliefs.
    D.    The record here requires remanding the other provisions of the parenting plan
    Rachelle also argues the trial court abused its discretion when it granted
    Charles sole decision-making authority regarding education and when it denied her
    request for spousal maintenance. We agree.
    Bias against Rachelle permeated the proceedings here. Leblanc's testimony
    and final report, and the trial court's reliance on them, evince a presumption that
    Rachelle's sexual orientation is inherently disruptive to the children. The evidence
    of bias casts doubt on the trial court's entire ruling. Therefore, we are not confident
    that the trial court ensured a fair proceeding by remaining neutral regarding
    Rachelle's sexual orientation.     We therefore reverse and remand the education
    provision and the trial court's denial of spousal maintenance. Given the nature of
    our conclusion, we agree with Rachelle that the case on remand should be reassigned
    to a different judge. State v. McEnroe, 
    181 Wn.2d 375
    , 387, 
    333 P.3d 402
     (2014)
    (Reassignment may be sought where "the trial judge will exercise discretion on
    remand regarding the very issue that triggered the appeal and has already been
    exposed to prohibited information, expressed an opinion as to the merits, or
    otherwise prejudged the issue." (footnotes omitted)).
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    IV. CONCLUSION
    The trial court here failed to remain neutral regarding Rachelle' s sexual
    orientation and impermissibly favored Charles' religious beliefs. Further, evidence
    of bias permeated the proceedings. We reverse.
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    WE CONCUR:
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    No. 92994-7
    WIGGINS, J. (concurring)-! concur with most of the majority opinion. I write
    separately to express my disagreement with the majority's reason for remanding to a
    different judge. The statements the majority found to be biased were not expressed
    by the judge in this case, but by the guardian ad litem. See majority at 13. The judge
    himself made it clear that Ms. Black's sexual orientation was irrelevant to his decision.
    Clerk's Papers at 41. I do not share my colleagues' confidence that on remand, the
    trial judge would be biased or unfair.
    But we are also concerned with the appearance of fairness. A judicial
    proceeding appears fair "if a reasonably prudent, disinterested observer would
    conclude that the parties received a fair, impartial, and neutral hearing." State      v.
    Gamble, 
    168 Wn.2d 161
    , 187, 
    225 P.3d 973
     (201 0).
    This case concerns a particularly charged issue.       A disinterested observer
    might conclude that neutrality on remand is unlikely.      As a result, I concur in the
    majority's decision to reassign the case in order to preserve the appearance of
    fairness.
    In reMarriage of Black, No. 92994-7 (Wiggins, J., concurring)
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